Have you ever deliberately chosen to be celibate for several months or longer?

Question

How did you cope? What positive benefits did you notice from this practice?

Answer 1

I have deliberately chosen to be celibate for the rest of my life. (this includes no masturbation)

The first few months were the hardest, but it got easier as time went by. I coped through staying away from pornographic materials and not masturbating. When tempted I would pray and try to focus on something else until the temptation went away.

I have noticed some very definate positive benefits from this practice. I have less lustful temptations and my spiritual and moral life has improved tremendously. My self-esteem has also improved.

Answer 2

Cope?

Psh, I don't care what religion you are (or aren't), have some self control and morals for goodness sake.

I'm 16 and celebate and doing fine (proud Virgin here). And yes, I have my urges, but I also have the audacity to control them! :D

Humans, even athiests, often view people as being more sophisticated and 'above' those in the animal kingdom. I agree with that. But those same people need to prove they're better than some common dog by having the ability and will to control their animal instincts!

How do I cope with celibacy? Honestly, I'm a Christian, and ask Christ for help. I meditate, and practice breathing and self control exercises. I lift my eyes up for a second, and realize there's a whole lot more to the world than sex and 'love' and drama.

THAT'S HOW I COPE!

And what results do I get from it? Well, I feel more pure, and thus 'naturally' happy. I'm not mixed up in a drowning addiction of lust. I have more pride. I feel as if I can do more in life. I've learned to respect women more. I've grown closer to God and in my spirituality. Tons of stuff. Sex isn't fun and games, Kids. heh

Alright, I'm done now, sorry heh. But that honestly is how I cope and feel

Answer 3

I deliberately chose to be abstinent before I got married, but since I've been married, no way, that wouldn't be healthy for a husband-wife relationship. But before I was married, I "coped" by avoiding situations were I would be too turned on.

Positive benefits - great sense of intimate trust in my marriage now, no teen pregnancy, or STDs, a sense of peace from keeping what I felt was God's commandment, and I avoided becoming bonded (the human orgasm has a powerful bonding effect) with some guy that wasn't the right one.

best wishes

Answer 4

I was celibate from the ages of 28-33. I did this because my first husband demanded a divorce and I didn't want to get in another serious relationship right away. I really only wanted to have relations with someone who would turn out to be my future husband. I think this action gave me the ability to be clear headed and make a better choice for the next time I married.

Answer 5

I didn't "deliberately choose" to be celibate because I wasn't engaging in fornication in the first place. Since I'm not married I don't have sex with women and Lord willing I won't until I get married.

For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God: 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5

Now if I had a wife, I would only decide to be celebate for a time by mutual agreement as it is outlined in the passage.

"But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 1 Corinthians 7:2-5

Answer 6

yes -- for several years, when I became a Born Again Christian. Now I'm married. How did I cope: I prayed. Positive Benefits: I stopped thinking about myself and started thinking more about others.

Answer 7

Oh, yes. For four years. Plan on remaining that way.
I've been widowed, and divorced twice from angry men.
Cope? I like being celibate.
I'm too busy to even think about it. I have three kids to raise.
I don't want to expose them to another strange man.
No, I'm not menopausal.
No more negotiation and compromise for me! I like it that way.
Positive benefits? I feel clean in the morning. No snoring. I get the whole bed to myself. I don't have to cook. No one gripes at me.
Negative? I sometimes miss "romance" ...but not enough to give up all of the above for sex. I get companionship from my friends.

Answer 8

Yes.

Cope ... well, there is a certain tipping point where I just seem to have forgoten what sex is --- thank God ... my last was really terrible ( guy was just poor quality in bed ) ...

Benefits - weed out looser men who only want sex ... don't stress over getting STD's like AID's ... mind focuses on other more interesting stuff and I stopped acting like a primative ape ... don't have to stress over lying to guy about his bad performance or how big his butt really is ... made lots more true friends instead of getting caught up in the sex games.

Answer 9

You act like this is some big sacrifice...........as Paul says, "if you are married, then fine"., but if you are not, it is better to stay single. This lady has been celibate for25 years...........my life is too wonderful. Whatever you choose is fine.......Paul simply states in the bible that having a spouse always vies for time with God? Is that right? I don't know......

Answer 10

Yes, you just do other things than think about sex all the time. Of course, it was easier 20 years ago when kids weren't expected by their peers to be humping like rabbits once they reached puberty. Believe it or not, sex should be viewed as a pleasant occasional occurance for adults, not a hobby for teenagers!