or do guys do iit on purpose and pretend to ignore? or are they scared that the girl might be flirting and she prob had a b/friend or they scared just incase they got it wrong or guys just being guys n not believing what they seeing (coz she's dead gorgeous!)
2006-08-25 10:47:53 · 53 answers · asked by allgiggles1984 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Guys are dull and blind. In order for you to get a guy to know that you like them, you almost have to walk up to them and tell them or kiss them, or something like that. Other than that, they won't get it. It's like throwing a brick at a cement wall... it just bounces off and the wall go along it's way.
2006-08-25 10:50:51 · answer #1 · answered by Rebecca M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we know, sometimes we don't. In my experience though if a girl really likes a guy she will do a lot of things to subtly show it, that just fall way under our radar. Although sometimes we do connect things together it is too often too late, hours, days, weeks or dare I say it months later.
Sometimes fear is an issue, I guy can know that a girl likes him and yet be too afraid of approaching her for a whole series of reasons which may often be in his imagination. This is more likely if he has been hurt in the past.
In my view the best thing a girl can do if she likes a guy, is to talk to him and get to know him and let him get to know you, while still retaining and creatng as much of the magic, the passion and the romance as you can, if this is what you want? Talking to a guy will have the fears subside and he will know if he wants the girl or not, and if there is no fear and he wants her there will be no holding him back. Believe me, I know I’m a guy!!!
Don't make too many assumptions about why he's doing or not doing things and don't imagine he's something he's not. That can be just as scary for a guy, how can he live up to a dream! He probably does not have a white horse and a set of armour.
Whatever he does, or is, or looks like, he is just a person just like we all are and people are made of a set of unique experiences, one can never understand somebody else just like that. They do not know what we know and visa versa.
Playing games with a guy can turn him on to but be careful, they can also turn him off if a girl goes to far. He might see it as any relationship with the girl would end up having him be manipulated and coerced by the girl and guys generally don't want that in their relationships.
Generally there is so much fear between the sexes, I think most of this lies in the unknown aspects of the person one desires.
Getting to know the person slowly and letting the fears subside could pay dividends. Rushing headlong into passion is great and there is no better high but beware human life and society has evolved beyond basic needs. The chemicals that kick in are no gaurantee that two people will get on, enjoy each others company (beyond the bedroom) have the same values, can share the same friends etc. All the things that most people want a modern relationship to be. People often rush headlong into something, stay together for too long and create baggage for themselves
So talking is the best option. Slow romance, find out about the person, when you're sure both will probably be bursting, and explode into passion love etc. If this is the way there will most likely to be stronger foundations.
Hinting won't be enough, keep it simple, have courage, let the fear subside on both sides, find out, talk to him.
2006-08-26 04:50:49 · answer #2 · answered by lifeontrack2006 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To tell you the truth it's very difficult to know when a girl is being serious/interested, and as you stated it can be taken the wrong way maybe the girl is just leading the guy on or toying with him,some may feel scared that she does have a boyfriend and thinks to lay off just incase he ends up ending up in the emergency room..I don't think man will ever understand the fairer sex(women)
2006-08-25 12:05:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time, guys just don't get the hint. What a guy considers a hint is way different from what a girl considers a hint. The best thing a girl can do is just tell a guy straight out how she feels and what she wants and then tell them the ball is in their court if they are interested.
2006-08-25 10:50:14 · answer #4 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alright, I’ve answered similar questions to this one. The answer will remain the same. Do guys get it when a girl tries her best to hint that she likes him? Honestly. Many do not. Here’s my advice to women: You have to come up with a way to really grab his attention. Men are as thick headed as they seem. And that’s what causes the stress. Grab him by the sides of his face, bring his face to yours, look at him deep into his eyes and say, “Look, you dipstick! I have really strong feelings about you and I don’t know why. You’re all I can think of and I don’t know why. I want a relationship with you.”
Otherwise just push him real hard. Guys can’t interpret subtlety.
2006-08-25 11:04:18 · answer #5 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not always. I've been in that situation. I though the girl just wanted to be a good friend, and I was happy with that. Even though I did like her. Men can be really literal sometimes, and don't get the message very easily. I only found out this girl liked me when she got fed up and shouted it out loud in a night club. Lol.
2006-08-25 10:50:40 · answer #6 · answered by JeffE 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly - some of us are stupider than hell. The best way to do so is to come right out without being overly forward.
If YOU are a good enough challenge (men like things to conquer, even women), he will definitely indulge himself into you and who you are.
Lay the correct foundation of those things, and you will provide a great atmosphere for something to happen. Don't ruin it with physical things. Guys like challenges when it comes to that, too.
Best of everything.
2006-08-25 10:50:46 · answer #7 · answered by Rob N 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many guys can sense something but are hesitant as women flirt for no reason and just like playing with guys even if her body language says she likes him. and we don't want to end up making a fool of ourselves or something worse . try these hints on a regular basis and he will realise
2006-08-25 23:02:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we notice if we are also interested. I reckon we make our minds up very quickly about what we see in a girl, and once our mind is made up, it's quite difficult to change it.
If we aren't interested, we'll pretty much not pick up on any signals, because we're not dealing from that place..
2006-08-25 10:55:08 · answer #9 · answered by Rich N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
scared just incase we got it wrong and us guys just being guys n not believing what we are seeing (coz she's dead gorgeous!)
2006-08-25 10:50:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋