myself and my boyfriend were 2gether for 2 years we broke up 2 years ago cos we always fought but we have kinda been seeing each other again lately,im 21 and he is 22 he just asked me 2 move in with him he is buying his own place in a few weeks my family hate him and his hate me nobody wants us 2gether,but i love him but im scared my family and friends will turn there back on me if i move in with him,and if it doesnt work out than what do i do??
2006-08-25 10:39:02 · 13 answers · asked by hugskissesfun 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly, from experience, I would tell you to NOT move in with him. Date him, but don't move in. When push comes to shove, your family are the ones who will most likely be there for you. No man is worth losing your family over...take it slow and see how things work out. Good Luck!
2006-08-25 10:47:55 · answer #1 · answered by applebetty34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is a good idea. You say you broke up a couple of years ago because you were always fighting. What has changed since then? If you don't resolve the issues between you two now then you will always fight...so moving in doesn't sound smart. Plus, the fact that your parents don't like either one of you is a BIG red flag. Fix your relationship first, then you can move in. Otherwise, once you move in, it will become more serious and become a legal matter (property issues and stuff). Watch the People's Court and you will see how many thousands of people move in together only to regret it later. And heaven forbid you get pregnant! There are countless people out there that have ended up in crappy, miserable relationships for life because they didn't heed the warning signs and got serious with someone who 'they kinda get along with'. Don't do it unless you both are really serious about each other and have solved most of your issues or you will be sorry later.
2006-08-25 10:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the hurry? You're young, get your life together so you have something to offer to that special someone. Also you broke up for a reason. Be respectful to your parents but don't always listen to them. You have to be your own person not what your parents want . I think that's one of the hardest things for young women to realize. Also if you look at your question, I think you already have premonitions that he's not the right guy for you.
Maybe sit down and find out why your family really doesn't like him, be open minded. Also do this with his family if you feel that strongly about him.
Most importantly do what you feel is right, you are an adult, just be a responsible one.
Good luck
2006-08-25 11:00:17 · answer #3 · answered by cat s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what your heart tells you to do..your still young and if you do move in and it doesnt work out well then at least it was a lesson learned.the only way you will learn and know what you really want in life is to make mistakes and learn from them . one thing you should always know is that your family will always be there NO MATTER WHAT!..I was in a similar situation and I just plainly told my mom that we all make mistakes and that i was young and that the only way i would learn is to make mistakes of my own.and in the end she ended up being right and I learned from my mistake and even though she said she wouldnt be there for me she was. Family will always be there for you No matter how bad you mess up . so just do what your heart tells you to ...in the end it will be a life lesson learned.
good luck and wish you well
2006-08-25 10:50:22 · answer #4 · answered by Babygirl000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... DON'T MOVE IN WITH HIM. Quit being such a dependent twit and dump him. Why move in with someone you don't even like that much? You have two ways you can live your life: as a winner, or a loser. You're already down the path of the latter.
2006-08-25 11:15:23 · answer #5 · answered by Leroy Johnson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THOSE ARE ALL THINGS THAT YOU NEED TO CONSIDER BEFORE TAKING THAT STEP. THINK ABOUT THIS, UNLESS ONE OF YOU HAS DRASTICALLY CHANGED SINCE YOU BROKE UP NOTHING WILL BE DIFFERENT. IF YOU FOUGHT THEN THERE IS A VERY STRONG POSSIBILITY THAT IT WILL OCCUR AGAIN. AS FOR YOUR FAMILY & FRIENDS, IF THEY LOVE YOU THEY WILL NOT TURN THEIR BACKS ON YOU. I DONT ALWAYS AGREE WITH MY FRIENDS OR LIKE WHAT THEY DO BUT I'M STILL THERE FOR THEM WHEN THINGS GO BAD.
2006-08-25 10:53:07 · answer #6 · answered by BAG LADY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did you fight about? Was this relationship abusive? Was he a cheater? How much have you both really grown up? I'd give it a few more months before you make a decision. Take your time. Your family is probably just concerned about you.
2006-08-25 10:47:59 · answer #7 · answered by mzsheilaloveschad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever read Romeo and Juliet, see what happened when they listened to their families instead fo their hearts? Just listen to what's in yoru heart, you'll make the right decision!
2006-08-25 12:15:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look i've been there look if u love him follow your heart n do what it says ! love is more powerful thta any other thing in the world u dont have care about what perople say and what they think about your relationship ask god for guidness and if he sopports you do but i recomended you guys to get married that way your parents see it really serious good luck !
2006-08-25 10:50:38 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well if you relly want to move in with him go for it you are a adult now and it might be a mistake but ya noe wht u will learn from your mistake if it becomes one you wont ever noe if you dont try and jus tell your family well parents how you fell abot him i mean they CANT controle you any more it is your chose and jus tell them i wont even noe unless i try and if i make a mistake it is my fult but n e wayz i helped i helped you buh bi
2006-08-25 10:47:03 · answer #10 · answered by tinkloverallen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋