he said "its not like im going to cheat on you" whaaat???- i said.im staying home not going anywhere, it hurt me so much just by hearing that!he said u wont go anywhere without me!!! i understand if its night out once in a while to restaurant but night club. he wasnt like that before, i used to get flowers every day, and his phone calls wouldne stop. now hw is saying whats the big deal? what do u think guys.??? i hope u can give me some advice, thank yopu guys
2006-08-25 10:37:43 · 17 answers · asked by elena v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Personally, I think guys going to stripclubs is no big deal. I'm a girl and I've been to them with my boyfriend, without my boyfriend and vice versa. It sounds to me like you are more insecure about your relationship and you fear him looking at other women because he might find something better.
You say you'll be sitting at home doing nothing. WHY!? Go out with the girls and have some fun! I'm not sure I understand what the big deal is with women who hate it when their men look at other women. I look at other guys all the time, but that doesnt mean I am going to go cheat on my boyfriend with them and the same goes for him. In fact, I dont even mind it when my boyfriend comments how a pretty girl in the street. You're insecure about yourself and your relationship. Stop taking that out on your guy! Either trust your guy or get out of the relationship!
2006-08-25 10:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by rachael b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are going to look at other women, we can't help it, it's part of our genetic makeup. But that's all it is, most of us just look and then go right back to the women we love. Having said that, I do think you have the right to be upset about him going to a strip club without you. If it makes you uncomfortable he should respect that and not go, It's not worth the hell you can put him through for going, he would be wise to remeber that. Maybe try to entice him into staying with you that night, remember, he only gets to look at strippers, he gets to touch you, you have the advantage.
2006-08-25 17:46:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well has he been stressing out at work? it's natural 4 a guy 2 go 2 a strip club once out of lyfe but not on a regular basis. u said his cell won't stop ringing then answer it and c who it is cuz maybe u need a divorce. SORRY!!!!!!!! if he hasn't been stressing out then let him know u don't approve and that he's hurting ur feelings and if he still choose 2 go find a lawyer cuz it's something at that strip club that she doing that u won't do. but b4 all that go 2 the strip club he goes 2 and find out what really goes on. that'll answer ur questions and supicions.
2006-08-25 17:46:50 · answer #3 · answered by mz.sexylady07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I go to the strip club without my man ALL the time. Its just hott seeing a woman dance so seductively. If he wants to go that kool. As long as the stripper that has the hotts for him dont start nothin. I say why dont you go with him? Its fun. And he'll think its so hott when you go up to the stage...I promise. Have fun. If you cant beat em...Join em!!
2006-08-25 17:59:53 · answer #4 · answered by ~Gigglz~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well hun i am a 21 year old female so i know you are not going to take my advice, but i see no harm in it! hes a guy let him go out and have some fun with the other guys, if he really loves you then you have nothing to worry about! and the same goes for you, you 2 dont need to be side by side all the time go out with your friends take time a part you got to learn how to trust who you are with with out trust you really have nothing....
2006-08-25 17:44:07 · answer #5 · answered by h_b_k_4_ever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he wants to go to a strip club let him. Go find some male strippers near u and both of u do your own thing for one night
2006-08-25 17:42:12 · answer #6 · answered by Vidra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm gonna get my guy-card revoked but he's disrespecting you. He should respect your feelings and opinions. I had a friend visit from out of state. We used to go to nudie bars all the time. But my wife was pregnant with our first child and I knew she does not like me going to places like that. So I respected her feelings and did not go. However, 7 years later she divorced me. So my guy-card is now renewed! BOW-CHICKA-BOW-BOW!!!
2006-08-25 17:44:15 · answer #7 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strip clubs suck and if you have a wonderful woman then there should be no need. When I was in love, not a single other woman looked appealing to me, only her.
2006-08-25 17:42:15 · answer #8 · answered by Brettski 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he shouldn't go. those places are filled with chicks wanting to rub themselves all over him for money. Tell him if he goes then you are going out with him too. tell him you're going to hire a male stripper to come to your house while he's out! or a man to give to an in-home massage.
2006-08-25 17:44:16 · answer #9 · answered by animal_mother 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend pulled th same thing on me. Same Line too !
He ended up moving in with the stripper.
2006-08-25 17:43:22 · answer #10 · answered by MoMoney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋