me and this guy are like friends with benefits, do you think that its a bad idea to stay this way?
2006-08-25 10:34:49 · 34 answers · asked by jessica 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Friends with benefits can be dangerous to the "friends" part. All most all of these relationships end badly. One will develope feelings for the other, and the other person only wants sex and a friendship. (Mostly the sex) When one devoulges the feelings then the other one goes away to find their next lay. I've been in a couple of these and each time the girl wanted more. The problem is that sex is usually (not all of the time) more emotional for the girl. I'm not saying that the guy never does, but just in general. If you start to get feelings more then "friends with benefits" get out before you get hurt.
2006-08-25 10:41:10 · answer #1 · answered by Go Cats 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it is a bad thing to stay that way, however after being friends with benefits for a while it is very hard not to develop feelings for that person. Once the feelings have developed than you either have to suppress them, go with them or walk away from the friendship. Be careful not to hurt him or yourself, and always use protection!
2006-08-25 10:39:35 · answer #2 · answered by vieveia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it doesn't matter. Different people have different views on things. What happens if he gets a girlfriend before you get a boyfriend? Will you be jealous? To me, friends with benefits could start to have feelings for the other person and end up getting hurt.
2006-08-25 10:46:00 · answer #3 · answered by kat81886 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not bad at all! In fact, I encourage it if you can maintain it without the emotional attachments. It can be a terrific program! Not all women are open to this arrangement. You get points from me for even being open to it! It helps a great deal when you have an open mind and are also willing to try new and exciting things as well!
2006-08-25 10:44:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both can handle it, what's the problem.
I guess the question is, when one of you ends it because you found someone you want to be more than a "friend with benefits", what then?
Or what if one of you decides you want more than the friendship?
Could get sticky. Make sure you have a clear understanding.
2006-08-25 10:38:30 · answer #5 · answered by mrpeabody 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends if you want to develop this into a relationship that means something.
In my opinion, you should make the cat earn the scratching post, rather than just give it up. Men like a challenge or a mountain to climb, conquer, divide, etc.
Best of everything. Good luck maintaining this relationship when you actually get a boyfriend/husband/etc...
2006-08-25 10:37:39 · answer #6 · answered by Rob N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is a bad ideal. Either way it goes you would get hurt in the long run a develope feeling for one another. Eventually you would lose your friendship due to one of you getting in a relationship and that scignificant other not wanting you to have a friendship with someone you have slept with because it is disrespectful.
2006-08-25 13:54:31 · answer #7 · answered by YAHOO SUCKS ASS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him and want him to be more and he doesn't want that then I would say that it is a bad idea but if you both are happy I don't see anything wrong with staying that way.
2006-08-25 10:38:05 · answer #8 · answered by awesome_eo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In situations like yours, it always has been and always will be to the man's benefit. All you will get is a name for yourself and it's not a good one.
2006-08-25 10:40:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily if thats what you both want. Just be carefull that one of you doesn't end up with feelings for the other only to find out it's not recipicated.
2006-08-25 12:28:19 · answer #10 · answered by Red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋