Should you tell a teacher if another child is bothering your kid?

Question

My daughter just started Kindergarten and there is a boy that sits by her that is constantly trying to "kiss" her. He just keeps blowing her kisses and disrupts her while she is coloring. She tells him to stop, but he doesn't. I can already tell he may be a trouble maker, because on the bus he already has to sit by himself because he was bothering people. I think he lives in my neighborhood. Do I tell the teacher to move her or just let it go? I know i can't solve all her problems, but this is my baby and I don't want her first experience with school to be poor. what should I do?

Answer 1

I think telling the teacher could be beneficial. The child may not have good parenting at home or may not realize that this behavior is unnaceptable. Since his behavior is violating your daughters personal space (IE: the kissing) the teacher needs to be aware of it so he/she can help moderate the situation.

I would also suggest talking to your daughter. Help her to understand how she feels about it and work out a plan for how she can help herself. For example: if he tries to kiss her again - have her say NO KISSING loudly and go find the teacher. You have a very valid concern and you should teach your daughter how to help herself (but having a teacher help is a good idea too!)

Answer 2

Sounds like this little boy is being affection and I don't know how that justifies being a trouble maker. Lighten up, you sound like you want this experience to be wonderful and I sure hope it is. Of course you can have her moved. I am in favor of having qreat communication with your child teacher anytime and that should always be both ways even if your child is the trouble maker.
My baby starts college next week and she turned out awesome, they will learn much later than kindergarten how to deal with things. She will also learn to stand up for herself.
Listen to your child, if she is having concerns always reinforce that you are there for her if you take everything to heart and try to protect her from the littliest things she won't tell you stuff because she will think you over react.
Again, my advice listen to your child.
I also want to say how much I relate to you, give things time. I remember when my kids were little if anyone was mean to them I wanted to hide around the corner and beat them up... Ha ha. I surely relate.

Answer 3

I'd talk politely and calmly to the teacher. Teachers know how to handle this type of thing. I know you don't want to seem to be trying to "fight her battles" for her, but they're little. That kind of thinking doesn't apply yet.

He's only five too, though, so maybe "troublemaker" is a little harsh at this point - even if he is the kind of little kid who isn't particularly refined or "reigned in".

Anyway, a polite and non-dramatic little comment to the teacher doesn't amount to Earth-shattering action, so just mention it. I wouldn't worry much about her "experience with school". Experience with school is about the teacher(s), the school, the whole group of kids in general, the "work" or play, etc. As little as she is, I don't think your daughter is going to see on little pesty classmate as her "experience with school". She probably already sees the whole picture, and if she doesn't you could help her put it in perspective.

Finally, I don't think its wrong to show children that if someone harrasses them the way to handle it is to "go through channels". It beats telling them to punch the kid in the nose or else telling them to buck up and take crap.

If your school district is anything like mine if that little boy acts up
much more than he apparently already has they'll throw him in Special Ed whether or not he has any genuine learning problems!!

Answer 4

Tell your daughter teacher what happen and the teacher will eventually do something. Of course if this happen again and your daughter is complaining about it, tell your daughter to go straight to the teacher and complain.
If the problem havien't solve, then you need to get the boy parents contact and talk to them about the situation.

Answer 5

Has your daughter told the teacher? If he won't stop when she tells him to, I think it's best to first get her to try to tell the teacher. Then, by all means step in if you need to.
But, mainly just trust your gut...if this makes you uncomfortable and you think maybe your daughter would be too shy to tell the teacher (or something like that)....then do what you think is best. After all, you're her Mom and you know her better than anyone.

Answer 6

Yes, talk to the teacher and let him/her know that you at least concerned about the distraction. I wouldn't do as some are doing these days and call it sexual harrassment but it is a disruption that could be interfering in your child's studies. If other parents have complained also then the parents of this child needs to be called in to find out how to help their son keep his mind on his classwork.

Answer 7

they are 5. This is nothing. I can't believe you are talking about moving her. He is not beating her up, pulling her hair or hurting her in any way. Just go talk to the teacher and tell her that it is bothering your daughter and can the teacher have a talk to him. This is all that is needed

Answer 8

Talk to the teacher if that doesnt help go to the parents if that doesnt help talk to the Principal. We had the same problem (but the boy was a little perv he would grab girls crotchs and look up their dresses... im sure the boy in your kids class just has a crush) Anyway there is no reason for her to feel uncomfortable in Kindergarton!

Answer 9

Yes, tell the teacher immediately. If a random guy was blowing kisses to me in school I'd do it, so you should too!

Answer 10

talk to the teacher and the little boy with your daughter all present. i would tell the little boy (gently) that your daughter does not like what he is doing and would really like it if he stops. suggest maybe they can be friends if he behaves himself and maybe they can sit on the bus together. also (privately) tell the teacher to watch them closely and if things still go wrong, move your daughter immediately. i say this because we don't want baby girl to feel she has to be treated anyway and we don't want to judge and make the little boy feel bad if he knows no better. i'd try that first and keep your ear to the ground mama. you doing great! good luck!