my friend saw the the guy who molested her when she was 5 and knows where he works?

Question

My friend told me she wants to get him make him regret what he did what should i tell her?

Answer 1

Don't know the laws governing your friend's geographical area, but my takes?---
1. She should go to the police and report the situation. They may not be able to do anything about HER particular case (statute of limitations may have expired), but pedophiles tend to keep on molesting till they die or are taken off the streets....By putting the cops on notice, she may be protecting others--they may be able to watch him a little more closely, or build a case. (This course of action may be pretty stressful for her, even if it's been years. She may want to contact the local family violence and abuse center for support or referral, if it's tough.)
2. Confrontation may sound like a fantasy come true---"you %(##&$, I'm going to ruin your life and THEN..."), but it's got problems. These include: her getting completely dissed by the molester ("who, me? you're crazy, girl"), getting beaten up, or getting picked up for stalking/property destruction/harassment. There's also the issue of bad karma (what goes around, comes around). But wanting revenge is an awfully human reaction.
3. If she's really, REALLY hung up on wanting to gill and gut the soandso, some people who have been victimized have found comfort by talking with a therapist of some sort (clergypeople are often trained in helping people get peace, and they _can_ be pretty reasonable; choose carefully). Others have/develop a "cleansing" ritual or ceremony to help them let go of the "old baggage".

Answer 2

She should not try to get back at the guy, but she should report him to the police. It's possible that she's not the only person he's molested, and reporting him will help the cops stop him from molesting someone else.

As for her own feelings, obviously something like this causes a lot of trauma and stress in a person's life. She can seek the help of an ecclesiastical leader and/or mental health professional to try to get beyond the traumatic effects of being molested and have a good life.

Answer 3

My best friend was raped when we were teens. It was not reported to authorities. She was murdered when we were 25. They still have not found who killed her. I am sure you don't have to ask, if I had it to do over, if the authorities would be notified.

People who rape and or molest, often times progress as the years go on. Want to take that chance?

And on second thought, what ever possessed you to place this in the etiquette category? I am almost positive that after someone molests you, they are not entitled to your best manners.

Answer 4

If she chooses revenge she will karmically pay for that. Just as he WILL pay for what he has done to her. Let his own deeds and his energy attract his own bad karma. It isn't up to her to take care of it. It will be taken care of on it's own; if he doesn't have a miserable life already, he is sure to eventually.
She needs to rise above it. If she chooses revenge she will only hurt herself in the long run, she will attract more bad energy to herself.
If she needs closure, the only thing she should do is calmly confront him, accompanied by a protective friend. That way she can say what she's always wanted to say to him.

Answer 5

Tell her to cut off his package and shove it down his throat.

Sorry, I hate molesters and rapists. Seriously tell her to contact the police.

Answer 6

WELL, I THINK THAT SHE SHOULD DEFINITELY LET THE PERSON KNOW HOW HE'S AFFECTED HER LIFE. WHAT'S DONE IS DONE, AND THERE'S REALLY NO WAY TO MAKE A HEARTLESS INDIVIDUAL LIKE THAT FEEL ANY REMORSE, OR REGRET ANYTHING...AFTER SHE LETS HIM KNOW HOW SHE FEELS, SHE SHOULD TAKE IT UPON HERSELF TO FORGIVE HIM SO THAT SHE WILL BE ABLE TO GO ON WITH COMPLETE EMOTIONAL HEALING FROM THE INCIDENT. I WOULD ALSO SUGGEST THAT MAYBE SHE SEEK COUSELING AND THAT COULD ALSO AID IN HER HEALING PROCESS. GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS...

Answer 7

It's doubtful that anything will come of it, but she should contact the police. It will be on the record. If someone else comes forward with a complaint, there will be a record of his past conduct.

Answer 8

You should advise her to contact the authorities.......Although in most places the statute of limitations is 7yrs on most crimes besides murder, it might prevent the perv from molesting another young girl!!

Answer 9

Call the cops and definately report it. He may be on the wanted list. And you never know other women may have reported him and they just need more women to report him to nab this guy. I would definately report this sinner.

Answer 10

What's in the past is in the past, let it go. Don't sink to his level. That's what he wants. Let him know that what he's done to her doesn't effect her life and it made her a better person.