I always think my friends are talking about me, they have before so it makes me feel like they always willl?

Question

Last year my friends and I they basically ganged up on me and had a talk about me night. like my whole girl group of friends and ever since then i cant help to think they are talking about me. But sometimes i feel like i am making myself believe they are when they are not. Which is true. I am insecure but i dont come off as insecure. I have been having problems with them and i am trying to improve myself. I feel like i have changed over this year a lot, but they are still in the same place. Is it worth having friends that i dont trust, or ones that dont invite me places, or purposly say things they know would hurt me? Even though i have been friends with them for about 6 years or so.. its hard to let go, though i do have some new friends i am getting closer too and a wonderful boyfriend who is my best friend

Answer 1

If your friends are women, they're going to talk about you. On the bright side, you can talk about them. If I were you, I'd start nasty rumors about anyone who you catch talking about you. A good one is: "I heard she caught the clap from her husband."

Answer 2

ok I know all about this,I even know exactly how you feel but chances are they are talking about you and when you have friends that will gang up and disrespect you in front of your face that isnt a friend in the first place sometimes you got to let things go even if you dont want to for your own good.put it like this if someone kept on hitting you in your stomach and stomping on your heart physically would you let them keep doing it when you know it hurts? that wouldnt be right. all I`m saying is even though it may seem hard you can always ALWAYS make a new friend,if yor boyfriend is your Best friend right now let him be there for you and work on getting some new freinds but its not worth it dont keep hurting yourself for nothing because its not your fault

Answer 3

I don't want to down your friends, but it sounds like a bunch of negitive girls that don't have anthing to do with thier life. You deserve to surround yourself with positive people and people you feel comfortable around. Don't be afraid to leave those friends behind because after all, the ones that are your true friends in that group will still be there for you. The ones that are not true friends won't. As you get older you will notice this about people. some are like leaves on a tree and will eventually blow away and some friends are like roots, they will be with you forever no matter what!

Answer 4

First off, some people just like to gossip and will talk about people without even realizing it. If your friends don't invite you places or say things to hurt you, they are not your true friends. Some times it takes awhile to realize who you can trust and who you can consider a real friend.

Answer 5

If you feel like you turn your back and they are talking about you, the friendship is not healthy. I had friends like that when I was a sophmore in high school and it is very bad for your self esteem and you start feeling paranoid...it feels like your the one with the problem, when really your not!!

It may take awhile to get used to, but just find new friends. Dont have a big falling out with your old friends....just start to slowly but surely make new friends and quit hanging out with your old ones. You'll feel better about yourself and much happier with your place in life!

Answer 6

You are maturing and need comfort and love not kid stuff so if your friends cant be there when u need them than they are no friends of yours.stick to ur gut feeling and ur heart will lead u inon the right path.u could also try telling ur friends how u feel.communication is the first sign of true friendship so talk to them and speak open and honest.

Answer 7

they don't sound like they are or were ever your friend I would drop them all together. You can't go on in this world unhappy Do things that make you happy and be with the one that are. That's all that matters. (girls are always nasty to each other and they will continue to be so) nothing has change in time for that matter. Good Luck Girl.

Answer 8

Ask yourself what it was about your behavior that they ganged up on you for. Were you sexually permissive and they were doing an intervention? You don't say. If you feel they were just ganging up on you I would walk away from the situation as you say you now have met new friends. Move on with your life. Don't let them hold you back. That's not to say ignore them,just move on with your life.

Answer 9

UUUHHH Babe I think you're asking this question in the wrong section. And you should let your "friends" go. It's not worth it. Life moves on and there are 6.5 billion people in this world. As quickly as you met them...you can meet other people and make six year long relationships with them. Mwah. Good luck.

Answer 10

i understand how u experience. i might say make new friends yet thats kinda difficult. So is sticking up for urself like that. If u.s. close to the mall or something u could circulate there and verify out to fulfill new human beings to attraction to close w/. And whilst u do u could draw close w/ them perpetually and not act like the "chief" bothers u. it will in elementary terms provide them extra ability. So whilst they make plans act like u dont care and verify out to make plans w/ ur new friends alot so whilst they DO invite u to something u could be busy. U could make somewhat sturdy friends this way.