Is it just me or does anyone else out there get the feeling that they will never be married in their life, or have kids, or anything....I am only 17 but i just see were my friends are at in their relationships and i wish i was there with them.....just because im not skinney does that make guys not like me... I mean i have great self esteem and i think i am pretty...but it seems no one is interested in me...I am a happy go lucky person and i just wish i could be loved by someone.....I know i sound like im looking for pitty im really not...I just wonder if anyone feels this why and how they are managing to cope with it....
2006-08-25 09:54:44 · 15 answers · asked by *lonely one* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't even worry about it at 17. you'll be in college soon and meet a ton of new people! if you're happy go lucky and have great self esteem you shouldn't have a problem meeting some great guys
2006-08-25 09:58:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids definitely, a happy marriage,... that depends.
If you want a guy that loves you for you, who will not cheat on you, who will do what ever it takes to make you happy.
Then you can either dream on or have a little faith, for the time being, concentrate on your schooling and find a career as your priority. When you're a successful professional with a nice home and a few animals to keep you company, you will be able to pick out a suitable suitor at YOUR leisure.
Otherwise, you can look forward to a bleak future with children and living in poverty, while there are jerks in the big nasty world who will exploit your vulnerabilities every time you let them.
I'm sorry but thats the truth about the world we live in.
by the way, did you know the planet is dying, are you sure you want your kids to inherit a world that we and our parents and our parents' parents corrupted with our mistakes? They will have a very hard time to get by.
2006-08-25 17:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by somber_pieces 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi honey. Well, I'm 35. I have always had problems with my weight. I've also had problems with just being myself. I'm proud, selfish, my attitute is that of someone who says... " it's like this and if you don't like it... tough!" My iron will towards business has been good. But I have alienated some of my family members due to my pride. I don't accept defeat easily and my very very strong personality intimidates alot of the guys whom I've known over the years.
I wanted to have a baby when I was 19 because I felt I would never find someone who would love me as I was and am. My friend at the time beat some sense into me so I didn't get pregnant. After 6 yrs I was feeling lonely again...and I set out to get a guy drunk that was my friend for a while...had sex with him and got pregnant. He had no idea until I started to show.
My daughter is now 8 and she does know who her father is by the way. He's been in her life, but has never been a threat to me or her.
I'm an Aries. A fire sign. I am passionate about food (LOL) music, my opinion and many other things. Love was never in my plans as I had already decided early in my life that I would never be loved. The children aspect I took care of myself.
But 2 years ago...in a Lycos chat room...I met a Scottish guy. He was funny, romantic, innovative, compassionate, humble and sincere. He didn't know I was 33 when we met. He was only 23. So we didn't send each other pictures until we had been talking a good 6 months. I lied to him about my daughter, as you know, single mothers are not well thought of...but I didn't want to insult him either. I lied about my age. I lied about one of my brothers. Too long a story to tell now.
At the end... he forgave me for everything. 2 years later he came to the US to meet me and my family. Now we have plans for a future wedding. He's the best man I have ever met. He's not shallow and loves me the way I am....and sometimes it's not good. But he forgives me for how I am. His infinite patience with me has earned him my respect.
What I'm trying to say is.... Don't give up hope. It might take a little while before you find it. In a life full of worries and darkness, he was my shinning light. I never, in a million years thought at my age, I would be in love with the one person my body, mind and soul recognizes as my other half. You will know the difference between loving someone and knowing, feeling, acknowledging that you are being loved.
Good luck baby girl.
p.s. sorry this turned out to be a long answer :)
2006-08-25 17:11:31 · answer #3 · answered by Tida 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are very lucky not to have found love at aage 17! My advice is - pursue your interests, travel, develop your talents. Then you will be a whole person and Mr. Right will be happy to share your exciting life with you.
Don't be a half person looking for the other half.
Read Silverstein's children's book "The Missing Piece" and you'll see what I mean.
2006-08-25 17:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by Kim W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you have lots of chapters in your book to go with. Right now you should make yourself very knowledge with your smarts and get into a carer that you love to do. and then you will find someone that has better or the same income as you so that way if something goes wrong you have your carer to back on.
2006-08-25 17:00:02 · answer #5 · answered by sxymama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of kids that do not have a steady boy friend at 17. In college you will meet a whole bunch of new people and will be more mature and like you for who you are.
2006-08-25 17:00:47 · answer #6 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your still young and you have so much to do. Trust me it might seem like that right now, but give it time. I'm 27 and i've had my share of heart breaks and what not...I don't have any kids because its a crazy world...but i've had so much fun and I still do...There is sooooo much i still want to do...so I know when my time comes I will meet this great guy and have a family...I'm not rushing into nothing...I am just letting time do its thing...
2006-08-25 16:59:56 · answer #7 · answered by brina27 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats how i felt up until i was 20yrs old. i never had a boyfiend. guys would never ask me out or hit on me. i felt so ugly and i was skinny and okay lookin. that made me lose my self esteem a lot. but then came a long my husband and he loves me and i love him and we are happy people now.
so you should keep your chin up and look forward in life. make something of yourself and dont focus on guys. the one for you will come your way. you just need paitance.
2006-08-25 16:59:58 · answer #8 · answered by All4Christ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes i do but i guess that is normal cause sometimes my friends go though that same thing too, it is just another way of putting yourself down, like everyone wants to be married or something but sometimes we cant imagin it, i sometimes go though it and i am 20 trust me its normal i just look at other people in my life that i could not imagin with a spouse that do and see it is POSSIBLE
2006-08-25 16:59:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes its better to wait and have one true relationship who is the love of ur life than to have relationships that end and u get hurt. maybe u have some one perfect waitint for u u might just have to wait.u r young enjoy life
2006-08-25 16:59:11 · answer #10 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋