How do i tell my parents i have a boyfriend. It is the first time i will, but he lives 250 miles away. My Dad i know already will not be keen, but they will prob find out as they both work in my school, and my friends know. I really need advice. Btw, im 17.
2006-08-25 09:54:03 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have met him a couple of times, and he is very good friends with my cousin who i am very close to
2006-08-25 10:17:23 · update #1
You just need to let them know you are happy and hope they can be happy too.
Good luck.
2006-08-25 09:58:30 · answer #1 · answered by pouncermom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were your parents I would hope that you would just tell me as part of normal conversation. If not, bring it up gradually saying things like, There's this young man that's really (cute, smart, ambitious, ect) and I might have a crush on him. What do you think, mom and dad?
You are 17 yrs old, so at some point it was inevitable that you would develop feelings for someone. Your Dad should be more pleased that the young man doesn't live very close to you.
2006-08-25 10:05:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can really relate to your situation. When I was 17, I began dating a boy who lived very far away...I lived in California and he lived in Germany! Of course, he was 17, about to turn 18 and I'm not sure how old your boyfriend is. (P.S. I actually live with my boyfriend in Germany now....2 years later, lol)
First off, have you ever met him? If this is an online thing, it could be a little dangerous. I would tell me parents so that if you did decide to meet him, it could be at your house with them present.
I had met my boyfriend through a friend who studied in America for a year, so it was for sure he was who he said he was. Plus, before I began dating him I had visited my friend in Germany and met up with him while I was there visiting with her. So my situation was 100 percent safe and definite.
If you have met this boy, you should still tell your parents. If they freak out on your or something, don't lose your cool! It will make them believe that they are right because you are acting like a child. You could calmly tell them that he really means a lot to you. That you understand you are young and nothing is set in stone. Also let them know that you would feel more comfortable with dating your boyfriend if they knew about him and respected your decision to be with him.
I dont know if your parents will be as understanding as mine have been throughout my relationship with my boyfriend, but if you show they your mature and responsible they will totally back you up, I am sure.
Just please be careful. If you met him on the internet and never in person, you don't know who he might be. If you decide not to tell your parents, at least always let a friend know and go with you if you decide to meet up with him. In fact, several friends (and big guy friends r good too!!!) should go with you. Being safe is being smart.
2006-08-25 10:15:54 · answer #3 · answered by rachael b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have a boy friend that lives so far away?? did you meet on holiday??.You could tell your parents, they will understand I am sure, but are you really going to continue a friendship with this boy when he is so far away ,I doubt it!. It means a lot to you I know, it is the first time you've felt like this, you are very young don't place so much importance on this. Maybe you should talk to your parents because they will want to know you have these feelings, and as you say someone else may tell them , they could be hurt you did not confide in them. !!
2006-08-25 10:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by Dolly Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 250 miles away, he's hardly a threat. Just tell them you met a boy you like, and he lives 250 miles away. By the time you and he have the opportunity to spend much time together, you'll either be 18 or you'll both have lost interest in one another.
2006-08-25 09:59:07 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The trick is not to call him your boyfriend. Just tell them there is someone you like and want to see again. If you don't get all serious about it, your dad will have a better time of dealing with it.
If you say to your dad, I've got a boyfriend, and I love him, and I'm going to marry him in six months....then he'd freak....and coming to think about it, so will the lad ;-)
You sound inexperieinced, so don't have expectations, don't plan it all out and don't let it overcome you. Just take it as it comes and DON'T take any advice of those daft girlie magazines that try to tell you how to live your life.
2006-08-31 13:08:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents always find out - and if you've been really happy recently then they probably suspect already! Parents usually know far more than their children think!
Just tell them straight - it must have crossed their mind that you may have a relationship at some point in time - after all, you are seventeen years old.
They'll get used to the idea - every parent does!
Hope it all works out for you.
2006-08-25 10:01:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
17, you are still so young, and 250 miles away, heck, how can you have a realtionship, with someone so far way, don't tell your parents as yet, wait until things devope a little more, if they find out say you are just good friends, as really your are.....17, you need to get out and have a good time, with your friends, and live life to the fullest, think about your future ,Good Luck sweetie..........hope things turn out great for you.
2006-09-02 07:33:55 · answer #8 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got to sit down with them and have a heart to heart. Being 17 is a good age to start a friendly relationship and you have to tell them that you feel you are old enough. But do tell them. It will be easier in the long run then for them to find out from another source.
2006-08-25 10:00:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them when it comes up in conversation and if they are good parents they will tell you of the risks but ultimatly let you get on with it.
My wife lived 300 miles when we first met, my mother was sceptical about it all but years later after marrage and a son, she has nothing to complain about.
It's your choice, so there shouldn't be any reason to worry about it. After all a long distance relationship requires more trust than a closer one.
2006-08-25 09:59:15 · answer #10 · answered by earthangel_ghost 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well tell them if your serious about him or you guys have a good relationship because parents have that tendency to say "see i told you so" it's annoying i'm 17 also so i get you i've been through that but i never told them until i got into a serious relationship because when it ended it was embrassing lol and i didn't tell no one so that was good but tell them when your ready and your sure it's right don't be afraid your 17 years old almost partially legal
2006-08-25 10:04:30 · answer #11 · answered by USAF1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋