When does 3 year old behavior become a concern?

Question

I have 1 boy and his behavior has been AWEFUL!!! He is constantly crying, doesnt want to share, wants to do EVERYTHING, and he is even behaving bad in daycare. How can I tell if it is typical 3year old behavior or a problem? And if anyone has any ideas or things I should try, PLEASE let me know. The way he is going I dont EVER want more kids!!!!

Answer 1

Part of that's typical, but it sounds like you need to start being firm with him. Remember, "No!" is a good word for a child to hear and the occasional spanking never hurt anyone seriously.

Answer 2

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When does 3 year old behavior become a concern?
I have 1 boy and his behavior has been AWEFUL!!! He is constantly crying, doesnt want to share, wants to do EVERYTHING, and he is even behaving bad in daycare. How can I tell if it is typical 3year old behavior or a problem? And if anyone has any ideas or things I should try, PLEASE let me know....

Answer 3

You might want to try giving him more independance. my son was acting the same way. He was crying alot, having temper tantrums and rebelling quite often. I read alot of parenting books and one suggested that a difficult child may just be looking for his share of independance. It worked like a charm. Whatever he is capable of doing I allow him, within reason of course. They now pour their own drinks as long as the container is not full. If they spill it they clean it up. I have a special shelf in the fridge just for them and a special shelf in 1 cabinet just for them. I only put items on these shelves that they can eat at any time like string cheese, celery sticks, and fruit. In my cabinet I give them access to cereals, pretzals, rasins etc. I also started buying single serving orange juice cartons and sm bottles of water which they are able to get on their own. My "they" are just turned 4 year old twin boys. Hope this helps.

Answer 4

Wow it sounds like some people are living in a fantasy world... its hard to be perfect.. huh?? Most people do not have the option of not working and have to put their kids in daycare,,,,,, I think daycare is great for kids ,, my daughter is almost 3 and knows her abcs and can count to 20... I would evaluate his diet and sleeping habits,,, how much sugar does he consume and how much sleep is he getting??? What kind of discipline do you enforce?? Just a few suggestions... I wouldnt worry about people telling you that daycare is bad,, because it is not!!! Is there a problem with your daycare provider-is she/he treating him good.. is a state licensed place because i would be skeptical if is not... good luck :)

Answer 5

My little girl was like this and would not share everything was hers along came her little sister and now she behaves alot better. Apart from doing that you have to use disapline like naughty step/corner take toys away when very bad get more kids round to the house as often as you can and ask there parents to bring some of there toys so he learns to share or bring him around to other childrens houses that way he can see that other children share toys and he might adapt

Answer 6

kids are kids and they always will act up... if u are thinking he might have a.d.d or something like that it might be too soon to tell.. im only 20 but i have a 5 year old and a 1 year old in my custody... they act up all the time.. but its normal. just sit and play with him but try and teach him "manners" and how to share along the way... the only way he will learn is if u help him.. and when he miss behaves dont be scared to punish him.. have a timer and set it to however amny minutes u need to to put him on a time oout... make sure he doesnt move... trust me it works.. ive had custody over these kids since i was 18.. and they are getting better.. just have the patience of job. it will take time but you will make it through!

Answer 7

lol...you sound like me. my son started going thru that when he first turned 3 too....terrible 2s were NOTHING compared to 3. he went back & forth...he'd have good weeks (not days) and then he'd have bad weeks or a month and mysteriously go back to being bad. just stick to your rules and don't let him get away with stuff, and he should come out of it on his own. i even enlisted help. if my mom picked him up from daycare, she would put him in timeout if he was bad during the day, and i'd spank him or give him another timeout when i got off work. i even went up to the daycare a couple times just to reinforce the idea that i was watching or to straighten him out on really bad days

Answer 8

I would say when the behavior is noticeably worse than other children his age it has become a problem. The best approach is to be stern in discipline but to explain things every step of the way such that he knows you aren't trying to be mean or impose needless rules and the like.

Answer 9

Children are very damaged by going into day care before ages 3 -5. If they go in before age one, they are depressed, anxious, have weak ties to mom, and feel unloved. They also have poor social skills and do less well in school. This sounds like it describes your son. Has he always been this way? If not and it's a sudden change, something bad has happened. What do you mean he wants to do everything and how is that a bad thing?

Did you stay home with him for at least 3 years, nurse him on demand, let him sleep with you, never ever hit him, never yell at him, play with him 15 minutes out of every hour he's awake, read to him, go on walks with him, chat with him, really focusing on his emotions and 'tales' to tell? If you did all this and he still has these problems, see a doctor.

If you didn't do these things, do them next time and you will have a happy kid. If you need to learn things about child development before you can do much for him, i hope you will

I hope you can stop working right away and give this child the love and attention he desparately needs.

Answer 10

No offense, but he sounds spoiled. Sometimes that's the parents fault and sometimes it isn't so don't blame yourself for that. Just show him who's the boss and he should get his act together. I suggest a spanking everytime he misbehaves and that always straightens kids up! Time outs and things only teach defiance and he doesn't sound like he'd be a kid that timeouts worked well on. Show him who's boss and he should start acting better. Good luck!