I have a family member who does meth ALL the time. I have tried the supportive approach, the what the @#*+ are you doing approach, and separating myself and my immediate family from with no luck. I have a young child that i will no longer let be around her for fear the she will leave her drugs accessable. she also has a daughter almost 2 years old. any serious suggestions from someone whose been there would be appreciated
2006-08-25 09:48:22 · 10 answers · asked by dawn 5 in Health ➔ Other - Health
thank you to everyone who answered
2006-08-25 10:25:31 · update #1
I have a family member that uses and I found that sometimes you have to walk away. Make sure that someone is taking care of her 2 year old and just let her go. The reason she has not stopped is because she knows that you are going to come back to help. She is not going to stop unless she wants to. Please don't leave any kids around her if she doesn't have enough respect to put them up out of the children's reach. She really needs help, but like I said you can't help someone who don't want to be help. Devote your attention to someone who you can help!!!Her daughter.. Good luck and god bless.....
2006-08-25 09:55:14 · answer #1 · answered by star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They call it "detachment with love," and you have to figure out what it means for you. For me, it meant maybe calling the addict once a week to say 'I love you' and no more. The hardest part about loving an addict is knowing they may never get better.
I strongly suggest finding an Alanon or Naranon meeting-- they're for the families of Alcoholics and drug addicts. I learned a lot from them. I went in because of my family member's drinking and ended up changing *myself* in ways I'd never thought possible.
God,
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change
The courage to change the things I can
And the wisdom to know the difference.
Good luck.
2006-08-25 09:56:56 · answer #2 · answered by Rosasharn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to call Child Protective Services. Your family member's daughter may not live a lot longer if you don't. I know you'd feel terrible if something happened to her, and you'd known about it all along! I have not been through this, but a friend has. She only did what she had to do.
2006-08-25 09:56:33 · answer #3 · answered by clarity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a friend who has a son addicted to meth and he is bi polar besides, he has threatned to kill them and then himself on several occasions...they also have an 11 yr old daughter who unfortunatly has witnessed all of these threats....as theu did you have to involve the police and child protective services, this family member is a danger to herself and others and needs an inpatient treatment program, in most states you can have someone committed if you can prove the danger is real , they will take her to a hospital for evaluation and then to a treatment facility.Basically you have to turn her in to the proper authorities,sometimes they have to hit rock bottom before they are willing to change,you must make rock bottom happen,both for her sake and the sake of the child.
2006-08-25 10:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Detach with love. Tell the person that you can longer have anything to do with them while they are using and not in recovery.
Don't fight with them or let them draw you into an argument but they need to know why you won't tolerate this any longer. Tell them you hope they get some help and that you love them and that is it. If they bother you or continue to try to have contact you will need to involve the police.
2006-08-25 09:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do agree with bmac, however rather than just tell them to get help, give them a place to go. Have info ready to share with them and then tell them what bmac said....I hope things work out. Meth is the worst drug out there and it's so scarey..I cant imagine.....good luck!
2006-08-25 09:58:59 · answer #6 · answered by Poptart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for someone who has "been there...done that"
Before You or anyone eles can help her..SHE MUST WANT TO HELP HER SELF AND WANT TO CHANGE..ALL THE REHABS IN THE WORLD WILL NOT BE ANY USE TO HER UNLESS HER HEART IS IN IT AND ONLY HERS.
For myself.. it took alot of love from family and patients and ALOT of Fighting and the #1 key.was to move out of the state..(if she could afford too) luckliy for me my mom was sick to death of Ca. and we moved to AR(not to sure it that was Good..but i didnT KNOW ANY ONE. ALTHOUGH there are drugsEVERY WHERE..I had to decided finially what was more important my 2 daughters, my life or dieing or spending lots of time in jail. Orange and Strips were not the color for ME(ha-ha)..
hope that thismight help alittle
carla
2006-08-25 10:09:18 · answer #7 · answered by carlarilla1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if u will like this. But u could put the person in like a stricted noune drug area. so he or she can keep from doing drugs. And some one can watch the 2year old.
2006-08-25 10:00:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like tough love is in order, you need to call either the cops or child protective services to make sure she gets the help she needs....this is very much child abuse..................
2006-08-25 09:51:43 · answer #9 · answered by AMY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Intervention and wisk them away to re-hab!
2006-08-25 09:54:30 · answer #10 · answered by rena2169 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋