Question for Men: Do you like to feel needed?

Question

Is this statement true:

"As long as a man feels fairly rewarded, he likes being used".

Women feel the opposite. Women don't like to feel used by men.

What is your opinion as a man?


I am trying to understand the opposite sex here.

Answer 1

I see where your coming from Candy but I really feel that there are a couple of generalizations here. Yes maybe "most" men don't mind being used if they feel fairly rewarded and maybe "most" ladies feel the opposite. As for me, I love to do things for my wife that I know will make her happy. She is always good to tell me this too. The same works for her with me. We go out of our way sometimes to do things for eachother and we always let eachother know how appreciated it was.
Maybe "most" men and ladies do feel that way but some of us are just in love and do things because we want to.
Do you feel that this statement is true?
Great question!

Answer 2

I hate feeling needed and I'm I find girls that need anyone massively unattractive.

I prefer to be wanted. I'm there because they want me there and are happy with my presense. They aren't dependant on me for survival or emotional stability.

It makes me feel a lot better about myself that someone chooses to be with me than is forced to be with me and would possibly choose otherwise if they were allowed a choice.

I'm not a very typical guy though. Most guys I know manipulate situations so they are needed and not easily disposed of. I think that it's really sick and being motivated entirely by insecurity is disturbing at best.

All in all, no... I hate feeling needed. I despise it, rebel against it, and psychologically punish people who act as if they do need me in an attempt to stop such foolishness before it starts. I'd rather have someone hate me than "need" me.

Answer 3

Speaking of masculine psyhology, male gender itself (be in any form; dogs, lions, fish or humans) share one common trait shall i say. They want to be needed, because this gives them great confidence and a sense of power, which they crave for most. That is what I believe atleast. Speaking of whether men like the feeling of being used, then that depends on his pride and ego or to what extent he believes is his limit of satisfaction if he likes being used.

Answer 4

well first thing you need to do is set down,chill! i'll let you know what real men like dislike etc.i've been with over 60 women thruout my life,i've dated hot babes,ugly women you name it i've dated them. and the one thing Real Men dont need is for some insecure brod hanging on there shoulder every single time they decide to walk out the freaking door! We do not need that to feel like real men! duhhhhhhhh. we like being around women when WE need them! it's a big turn off to have a lady thinking she has to be involved in Every single thing you need to do,to feel like a real kentucky

Answer 5

Interesting question...I was discussing the "need" issue with a male friend the other night...how neither of us wants to be "needed" by a partner, but to be wanted or desired...

Someone who "needs" you isn't an emotionally healthy person...they are relying on your to fill some 'hole' in their life that they've been unable or unwilling to themselves...they can be clingy and jealous/possessive...

Someone who WANTS you, is another story...they dig you and hope you dig them in return...they're with you because they choose to be, but expect nothing from you and aren't hoping you'll fix their life or "make" them happy...

Can ya tell I have an opinion on this topic? LOL!

Answer 6

yep, I love to feel needed

I am a man man=strength
not woman woman = emotion

I can logical think without emotion, therefore I like being used to a certain extent.

I dont have BLOW POP written on my forehead

women are not useful in situations men prevail in

Answer 7

Men are natural providers. It’s what we do. That means we need a purpose. That means we need to feel needed to fill that purpose. Whatever you think it is. It’s one of the guiding principles of chivalry. Unfortunately, due to gender bending attitudes … is dead.

But there are still some of us who practice it.

Answer 8

Don't we all like to feel needed? And I don't think anyone would like to feel like their being used or played for a fool.

Answer 9

i am a worker and i wont say i love you everyday but if you need something ill build/do it for you if i can. but in general i will allow myself to be used for a short time if it lets me see a different side to the girl.

Answer 10

my husband loves being needed by me, something I can't do and he can do, I asked him to help me, makes him feel like a man.