How Can I Get Over A Messy Breakup? PLEASE HELP!?

Question

I've had a boyfriend for 11 months, and I thought we were perfect together. So did everyone else. Honestly, he was my best friend, we did everything together. I loved him, completely and truly.
Yesterday he sent me an email saying he didn't feel the electricity anymore and he just wanted to be friends.
That's the explaination. I've called him, he just says we weren't right together.
I don't know what to do. How can I get over him? I didn't do anything wrong. I feel like I'm losing my best friend, like I'm losing an arm or a leg. He's been with me so long, I don't even know how to function without him. Sound pathetic? HELP!

Answer 1

you don't sound pathetic and don't try blaming this on yourself. if you keep thinking "what did i do wrong? what am i not seeing that he is?" you're going to drive yourself insane. i know this is pretty corny and it's kind of an old saying but if he can't realize what he has then he's not worth it. i suggest talking to him again. but before you do that you need to pull yourself together. i know it's not easy. it never has been and it never will be. breakups are rough but you're not the only one. take a weekend to binge on junk food and ice cream and watch re-runs of your favorite movies or tv shows. just get all of the emotions you're feeling out. feel free to cry as well, it's something you have to do or else you'll never get over this. after that, spend time with your other friends. i mean, who was your best friend before he came along? go to the movies, do girl stuff. just have fun being a woman. and when you feel strong enough you need to confront him. tell him what he did to you. tell him how much he tore you apart. and make sure you get an answer out of him as to why he broke up with you. a real answer. don't let this "i don't feel it anymore" crap slide. there's a reason behind this and you need to find out. but if you confront him too soon, you'll end up breaking down in tears and that won't help anything. show him that you can be strong and independent without him, no matter how hard it is on the inside for you. good luck.

Answer 2

You best friend became your boy friend is often a no no
because most of the time it never last and it changes
your friendship level for life my advice to you is to move
on you gave away the golden goose that lays the egg
when you gave your self to your best friend do not feel
bad about it but you got to move on he has already told
you how he feels about it respect that and move on or
you will continue to hurt and you will be chasing after
someone that does not want the same thing you want
it would be a one sided relationship he have said to you
in so many words the thrill is gone it can not be revived
if you really want to survive this move on quickly do not
look back do whatever it is for you that will make you
happy it is about you now not him because HE DO NOT
LOVE YOU! He said it in so many words I know it hurts
but you have a choice you can sit there and sulk and run
behind him like a hurt puppy inlove and watch him continue
to hurt you or you can suck it in and LIVE YOUR LIFE life
goes on the grave yard is filled with people who have taken
their lives because they did not want to live anymore without
the person that they were so deeply inlove with and the person they were in love with is still living and enjoying their life going
out on the town getting married living life to it's fullest while
their ex bf or gf lay dead lifeless in a grave because they can
not change their mind they made a final choice death do you
love him enough to take your life? I hope not! because he is
going on with his life Girl Live Your Life!!! He is not going to stop
for you he is not going to stop seeing other girls So STOP
crying and wipe those tears away And live do not allow yourself
to isolate get with your friends and have a good time if you do
not have any friends find something you enjoy doing breathe
don't go lifeless meaning do not give up on yourself! LIVE SET
YOURSELF FREE FROM THE PAIN!

Answer 3

The best way to get over a messy breakup... Go out and try and meet someone new.

Heck maybe you can make him jealous.... By telling him about some guy you meet..... He may hate how quickly you seem to get over it.

And what maybe the problem is that he might have found someone else and is just telling you that there is no electricity to end things without you getting tooo hurt. He might want to spare your feeling that way..... I mean it's allot better then "it's over and I've found someone else!"

Then again he may just want some space.... I mean 11 months is a long time to date... He may think that you want to get married... and that might be scaring him....

Answer 4

girrrrrrrl don't worry! this [feeling] will definitely pass. there isn't much you can do to get over him quickly, but you will get over him. I know 11 months seems like a long time, but in the grand scheme of things, it is really not. but when you've been spending so much time with a person it can seem like an eternity. take some time out for yourself, and reflect. be objective when thinking about the relationship and really try to see the big picture. maybe he is correct and you weren't right together. especially if he gives you that bullsh*t explanantion and he expects that to cut it! he owes you more of a reason than that. but if he doesn't give you one, f*ck him, you don't need that crap. good luck

Answer 5

well, u need to discuss w/ him why he thinks u r not good 4 each other, just ask him all the Qs, besides may be he met someone esle? Also will he still stay ur friend? I mean u'll call each other may be meet sometimes like friends...
The best recipy is to live ur life, go out, meet ppl, flirt, get some new male friends, and when ur X will find that out - he'll get jealous ( especcially if he is not dating anyone new) and he'll want U back!
I mean u need to act like u dont need him and u got ur life going on...
Its just my opinion, but i dont know the exact details of ur situation....

Answer 6

Yes, u are sounding pathetic... u can go on and all of a sudden he gives u this explaination? C'mon u saw soem red flags somewhere! get the glaze off ur eyes! U will survive and 11 mos. is a cake walk try 8 yrs.!!

Answer 7

Go with the flow. He sounds like he is just not ready for a committed relationship. If he just wants to be friends, then just be friends. You also can go on to other relationships and discover if he is really the person for you or not. You may just end up finding out that this really wasn't the relationship for you after all.

Answer 8

it is sad - sounds like you didn't even see it coming, but unfortunately once someone's mind is made up to end it, there is not much you can do about it. cry a bit and grieve the end of the relationship, but then get on with things. each day will become a little better - there has got to be some negative things about him - just focus on them to get you over the hump. This too shall pass!

Answer 9

Get your self together, he does not want you, thank God he was honest with you, yes it hurt, but it was better then you hearing about him with another girl, you can be friends with him, after the hurt goes. You never know, the two of you may get back together in the near future. He may feel, like he wants date other girls, You be strong, build up your confidants, be happy, live Girl, just move on, you will survive.

Answer 10

yeah..u sound pathetic.OF COURSE u will function without him.I were born and survived without him and there is no reason for you not to survive this time.when a man tells u that ur not for each other,,,gurl, trust me!he really means it..let him go or u'l just live like hell.not all the best things in life last for a lifetime..people change and they will always change no matter what..u can never hold on to something forever....