I'm always nice to guys and especialy when im goin out with them but they always treat me bad and break my heart. i would just like to know why are guys like that to me. Am I doin something wrong or what.
2006-08-25 09:30:31 · 22 answers · asked by chicanasam 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
XXXXXXX I think you are trying too hard, stop trying and just be yourself. Don't do something for someone and expect something in return. Be nice to others because that is your nature. Good luck hun. XXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-08-25 09:35:12 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all answer these questions to yourself
1. Are you too nice?
2. Do you let guys walk all over you?
3. Do you respect yourself?
4. Are you desperate?
5. Are you dating the right kind of guys, and or for the right reasons are you dating them?
Maybe all along you have been dating guys that just aren't that good for your personality. Maybe you have been dating guys because they are just georgeous but they are complete jerks. Try to date someone maybe a little less than your "standerds" see if another kind of guy will treat you better. Everyone deserves to be treated the way they want.
2006-08-25 16:36:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello chicanasam,
I'm sorry that you are experiencing this. But, we have no idea how you are acting to be able to tell you what you're doing wrong. This might be something that you need to talk with people that you've been going out with.
Go back to a guy who you went out with three or four dates back, and tell him that you have been having rotten luck with dates here lately, and ask him if you did anything wrong on your date with him that maybe caused this.
He might have the guts to tell you if you haven't seen each other in awhile. Maybe you sent out a vibe that wasn't very attractive to them. Maybe you are fat and they won't have the heart to tell you.
Maybe the kind of guys that you like to go out with aren't into the girl, but are so much into themselves, that they hardly know why they never took you out again. I don't know, but it would be good to ask some of them in a non-threatening manner.
Don't get too mad if you don't like the answer though. Good luck.
--Rick
2006-08-25 16:41:42 · answer #3 · answered by rickrudge 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah, well I'm always nice to girls and they don't even notice me.
I find that girls are attracted to the "bad" boys. Boys who don't treat them well. Boys who cause trouble. Boys who have never learned how to be communicative, or sensitive. I bet that those are the boys you've been hanging out with..
So my suggestion for you is to find the nice guys. You know the guys who go to church. The guys who never use foul language. The guys who aren't that comfortable around girls and don't have girlfriends. You might think of them as creeps, dweebs, nerds, yes, you got it... Okay, so being their friend will not earn you admiration and status among your peers, but you will find out something more valuable.
2006-08-25 16:42:56 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you're using the wrong method, are you just horny or are you puting out too easily?
Have you tried putting on the brakes and taking your time to find out if the guy is right for you?
Are you standards just barely above the bottom of the barrel?
Take some time to consider what you really want, what is really important to you. What really matters, then ask yourself what another girl might do differently to get it.
Good luck
2006-08-25 16:37:45 · answer #5 · answered by somber_pieces 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it but it seems you cant be nice to guys. They will always abuse it and take it for granted. Treat them like the dogs they are. They love it and come back for more.
2006-08-25 16:36:51 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe ur being too nice. itsd some pattern that u have or u just pick the assholes. dont give in and be overly nice. me for instance im a hard catch men i have dated have catered to me because im sure of myself and right up front i let them know that im independent and also they're not getting any pussy any time soon. lol
2006-08-25 16:35:38 · answer #7 · answered by angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
guys for the most part are jerks. you should date lots of guys to find a type that you really like. do not put out or fall for guys who only want one thing. guys look for an easy mark. as they mature, they finally start looking deeper.
2006-08-25 16:34:49 · answer #8 · answered by Robert A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. They are self centered jerks and I still haven't found out why some of us seem to get more than our fair share of them
2006-08-25 16:37:25 · answer #9 · answered by reallyfedup 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you try to be less ugly?
How about givin some *** before you open your nasty mouthP?
Cosmetic surgery rings a bell?
Bring a girlfriend then they wont even mind you.
2006-08-25 16:38:51 · answer #10 · answered by urubu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋