Did I do the right thing? I don't want my GF to dance with other guys.?

Question

Well my girlfriend and I have a semi long distance relationship. We live about an 30-45mins from each other. We usually see each other once, sometimes twice a week. Today we were having a surpise bday party for my dad and she was gonna come. However, it was her back to school dance today, so she said she totally forget about it and how she was sorry she couldn't come. I was a bit mad, but I'm not gonna stop her since she really likes to goto school activities such as dances. Because I do not go to her school, I cannot go to the dance. She said her friends would sneak me in, but I can't ditch my dad since its his bday party.

But when the topic arose of slow dancing with others I felt betrayed. She said yes she will slow dance with other guys. WTF is up with that? I got really pissed off. I told her
All im gonna say is if slow dancing with other guys is more important to you than our relationship, then whatever, your choice.
But if my girl is gonna disrespect me by slow dancing.

But if my girl is gonna disrespect me by slow dancing by other guys, it hurts me to say this, but shes not going to be mine any longer.

She replied
her : im not gonna stand around at every dance just because my bf goes to a different school
her : you are making so much out of nothing
her : youre totally giving me an ultimatum
her : how crappy of you
me : whatever
her : plus no ones gonna let me stand around
her : think about what you just said
her : i dont want other guys
her : youre so dumb
her : you are making such a big deal of this

She says she loves me a lot, and I am sure of that. But why won't she not dance with other guys? Please advice. Thanks

Answer 1

oh lord so what is the point of going to a dance ? She just told u she doesnt want any other guys, and a dance is just a dance. But if it bothers u ... well both of u should come to an agreement somewhere in between where u both are happy. No she will not disrespect u by slow dancing, would u rather have her booty dance with other guys ?? no i thought so.

Answer 2

I had a BF at a different school and he didnt like me to slow dance with other guys. I thought it made no sense because i though he knew I loved him and that it wouldnt matter, so I did it anyways. He broke up with me. Is that how u want your relationship to end? I dont think so. Give her some freedom and let her know that you still trust her. If she really does love you as she says she does, than she wont abuse the trust. Your GF is gonna think you dont trust her, and thats never good for a relationship. It seems like you have a good relationship, so don't mess it up. Make the right choice.

Good luck and keep that girl smiling =)

Answer 3

Ok you can't always control her if you control her she will leave you fast us girls don't like to be controlled its the worst that a guy can do and if she goes to dances and dances with other guys does not mean she is cheatng on you with every guy she dances with it just means shes going to dances to have fun and not just stand around and do nothing you need to trust her if you don't and keep acting this way her love for you won't be as strong as it is now. But if you have a gut feeling and or something that feels that something is wrong talk to her have a conversation the best thing to do is communicate just talk and ask questions and ask how was the party? and Did you have fun? don't assume anything thats why you have to communicate.

Answer 4

Though I can see from a controlling point of view, but to me that would be a very minor form of cheating. Because with you there right next to hear, or with you watching, she probably wouldn't do that in front of you.........and to me, anything you wouldn't do in front of your significant other, falls under some category of disrespect or cheating, etc, etc. So I can understand your own point of view on that. I think you have every right to be offended, as I'm sure she wouldn't enjoy it too much if you went out clubbing with other girls even if you say you aren't "wanting them". But yeah, it is just dancing.......but to me, slow dancing is like a moving tight hug.....and for a woman, things can easily change in the emotional-feelings department for someone they're close with.

Answer 5

I can see where you would be upset & jealous I would be too. The thing is, do you trust her. She could dance with someone & it be totally innocent but if you feel like she is untrustworthy then you need to move on. I know how you must feel. I would be mad & jealous if my b/f did that. Of course I'm married now but it all depends on the person. Some people you can trust to slow dance with someone but others you can quiet trust. Do you trust her??

Answer 6

You are making a big deal out of nothing, come on, it is in a school, many people will be around, slow dance. fast dance, what is the difference? She love you, learn to trust her, It is you she is coming back to. Give her some slack.

Answer 7

Sounds to me like you need to grow up little man. Your jealousy is unbelievable. What are you going to do on your wedding day if you ever get married? Forbid your wife from dancing with others as well? They are dancing in public, at a school, fully clothed and with Chaperone's. What is the problem? Also, she did invite you. Really NOT her problem you cannot come.

Answer 8

No, she wouldn't dance with other guys IN FRONT OF YOU because she could dance WITH YOU. Stop being such an insecure idiot and just dump her.

She can do much better than you.

Answer 9

Don't you think you are a bit controlling? Do you slow dance with other girls, do you talk to them? Chill out!
If she cares for you, dancing with someone else is not going to hurt your relationship.
My husband and I dance with other people, slow and fast, it's to be social and friendly.

Answer 10

tell her fine, then u will start going to ur school functions an have a couple slow dances and see how she likes that