I have seen my 14 yr old daughter out on our patio wearing my high heels catching bugs and disabling them?

Question

and then walking back and forth squashing them. What is this fasination of stepping on bugs? Should I worry about this or make her wear her own shoes for this harmless behaveior

Answer 1

Honestly, and getting away from some of the morality-based responses that have come up, I don't think you need to worry too much. As you well know [ :)) ] being a young teenager is one of the most stressful times of a person's life -- and probably more so for girls than boys in many ways. She probably has some frustrations and stepping on bugs is a way for her to work them out of her system.

To explain: she perhaps feels a bit powerless, caught at that age that Britney sang about in "Not a girl, not yet a women", and disposing of these insects is (perhaps) her way of feeling that at least she has some power over a situation. That is a very simplistic explanation but I expect in her case it's along those lines.

Regarding her using your shoes, well -- they're grown-up women's shoes, and she no doubt secretly longs for the day when she can have some like them. Maybe it would be be a good idea to take her out shoe shopping and see what she's most attracted to. Girls get tired of sandals and sneakers -- my daughter sure did -- and at fourteen she's about ready to move up. It's like the big day when you got your first bra -- another step towards being a woman in a western society, where we don't have the rituals of transition to adulthood that were so common generations ago and still exist in some parts of the world.

Answer 2

It isn't typical behavior, but I wouldn't be too worried. Sit down and have a talk with her - ask her why she is doing what she is doing. If she has an acceptable reason (one other than she likes to kill bugs for pleasure) than I guess you could leave it alone. Otherwise, try to get her a hobby - offer to play a board or computer game with her, to sign her up for a sport. If that doesn't succeed, I would take away the heels and give her consequences if she continues to. Good luck!

Answer 3

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Answer 4

I think she is a little old to be getting in your high heel shoes. I think she is a little old to be disabling bugs and squishing them as well. It is harmful on what she is doing she needs to know everything that was put on this earth was put here for a reason. They are outside where they are suppose to be there is no reason for her to kill them they are not inside the house. You might want to see what she is up to when you are not around her as well.

Answer 5

Harmless? I don't think so. Don't let her kill bugs like that. They have a right to live too.

Answer 6

that's hilarious... i wouldnt worry unless it was a boy wearing ur heels and tryin to kill bugs and make her wear her own shoes why urs ??

Answer 7

It is a bit disturbing. I would stop this, if it were my child.
It does not cross my 14 year old's mind to maim or crush anything.

Answer 8

i wouldn't worry about it unless she's doing this in front of boys also. be glad she's not afraid of bugs; my 14 y/o wouldn't kill a bug if i paid him.

Answer 9

yea id make her wear her own shoes , but also i think she must be pretty bored to be doing that , so.... she needs sports

Answer 10

That's a little weird.