I have a half sister I never seen or even know her name but why every so often I just think of her. When I do I would wonder what she doing right now. My Dad had her when he 16 or 17 years old. I'm just wondering why do I think of her when I know nothing of her.
2006-08-25 09:11:31 · 38 answers · asked by Marie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
human nature. you feel there is someone that is part of you and you are curious.
2006-08-25 09:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by Robert A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way. I think its because we know we have a family connection out there and its just natural to be curious about it.
I too have a half-sister from my Dad's first marriage. I do know her maiden name, but she's now married. She's at least 7 or 8 years older than me, but chose to be adopted by her mom's new husband and I never saw her again--I was only 4 years old or so. I always ponder how she is and what's she's doing and why she never kept in contact with my father or even desired to know me or my younger brother.
My father is such a wonderful man and has been all his life according to grandparents, aunts and uncles, his friends and he's my best friend. His story is that a few years after my sister was born his wife had an affair and had accused My dad of horrible things that didn't happen which caused their divorce. Then she re-married to the man she had an affair with and convinced my sister to stay with her and be adopted. Then my father after a few years met my mother. My mother's husband had died and she had 3 children from her marriage, which became my instant brothers and sisters that I knew since birth.
A few years ago, my younger brother, searched our half-sister out, but was intercepted by the Grandmother of our sister. The grandmother blasted our dad with things that didn't make sense and refused to even pass on a message that My brother was interested in meeting her and talking to her. I desire to meet her too, but who knows what things have been put in her mind. Why would they stop us from meeting her? Strange to me. If she only knew we loved her and desired to be family---even if its just to talk and get to know each other, I wonder if she'd be responsive?
2006-09-02 07:14:34 · answer #2 · answered by Julie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was adopted at 3 weeks old and I am now 34. Had a great life but wanted to know more. I found my birth mother at age 25 and found out that she had a daughter after me. I also wanted to know my 1/2 sister...I continue to keep in touch with her. I think the reason you think of her the same reason I did and still do. She IS a part of you and for you not to know is very hard. Find her, reunite with her and enjoy your life with EVERYONE no matter what anyone thinks. :)
Andrea
2006-08-31 02:53:39 · answer #3 · answered by andidel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think of her because you want to know her and want to know more abut her. She is a part of you and you want to have that bond with her. I have 3 siblings that I have never met because I was the product of an affair and they know nothing about me. So I know kind of what you are feeling. Reach out to her yourself if your dad won't help the worst thing that could happen is that she doesn't want a relationship with you. Then you can't miss something that you never had. Good Luck!
2006-08-25 09:18:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its normal. She is a part of you. Perhaps your dad could arrange a small meeting between the two of you or maybe tell you a way you can contact her. You did'nt mention any other siblings and if you are an only child its only more natural you would want to meet her.
2006-09-02 08:57:34 · answer #5 · answered by wanda t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Curiosity is normal.
When you found out about her, you weren't given enough information. TIme to fill in the blanks.
Let your Dad know that you would like to know more about your sister. What's her name, how old, where is she now, etc. Anything he knows.
I hope that this leads to wonderful things in your life!
2006-08-30 13:24:45 · answer #6 · answered by Fuzzy Wuzzy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Cause she's a part of you and you are of her. It's natural to be curious and wonder about things unknown, my own daughter has a father she has never met..although she's grown she would have at least liked to have known what he looked like..Other half siblings too. I think it's a shame you can't know her. Best of luck
2006-08-31 14:11:17 · answer #7 · answered by tamara.knsley@sbcglobal.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i'm the same way, i have two older half sisters that i don't see or talk to... I wonder about them - what their lives are like, what they are doing, what they do for fun, etc. It's just normal to wonder.
2006-08-25 09:16:31 · answer #8 · answered by kanned0116 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because regardless of your lack of an emotional connection, you share a physical connection through your father. Your curiosity is natural and will probably not be satisfied until you meet her. Otherwise, you will continue to think about her, compare yourself to her and wonder what he life is like.
2006-09-02 07:00:25 · answer #9 · answered by mad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your dad, go and see your sister, talk to her.
If you don't know how to approach her write, phone of send an email.
If you or your dad do not know where she lives, the Salvation Army will find her for you (no they will not spout religion at you)
Click on the link and go to the right place.
http://www2.salvationarmy.org.uk/familytracing
"Daddy Dave"
2006-09-02 04:47:36 · answer #10 · answered by Daddy Dave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you have a connection with her. Maybe you should tell your dad and ask him if you could meet her. Tell him how you think about her all the time. Good luck
2006-09-01 00:47:57 · answer #11 · answered by laurie k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋