kids 5 and 1
2006-08-25 09:04:36 · 21 answers · asked by Jackie G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that honesty is the base of each relationship. starting off with a lie (by not telling the truth about yourself) doesn't seem honest to me. anyway, there sure is an advantage if you tell it right away: you won't get hurt by somebody leaving you because you tell him a lot later that you have two children. good luck to you, I hope you find someone who loves the three of you!!
2006-08-25 09:10:52 · answer #1 · answered by julesloveslife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation, and I would suggest not mentioning the kids on the first date, unless he just comes out and ask if you have kids, then tell him, cause you don't want to lie to him. That way it gives him a chance to get to know YOU, not the mother of 2 kids. If he is interested in seeing you again, then I would tell him about them on the next date. I would, however, wait to introduce them until after a few dates, just in case the relationship doesn't last long. ( you don't want to confuse the kids) And if he runs after you tell him about the kids, then you didn't need him around anyways. But, you never know, he may LOVE kids, and stick around, and if he does, then you've got a good one! Just always remember that your children come first, and to consider their feelings as well. Hope it all works out for you!!
2006-08-25 09:34:03 · answer #2 · answered by genasinfo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but do not introduce him to your kids right away. Even if you really like him and he really likes kids. Make sure your kids don't have men running in and out of your lives. But don't wait too long where the kids meet two days before he moves in. If your children are very young let them know when you leave you are going to dinner with a friend. If they are older let them know it is a date and let the join in on the excitement of getting mom ready for her first date. The most important thing to never forget is to stay completely involoved with your kids and not lose yourself in a relationship. Good luck!
2006-08-25 09:21:53 · answer #3 · answered by angstayhomemom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 28 and a single mother of two and have questioned myself on that many times. But i realized i should be PROUD of my kids. They are MY kids and I love them. Why want to put them on the back burner for some man. SO i definetly say YES YES YES> and if you dont get the man.. you still have your kids, your family, youir unconditional love. There will come a time whenthe man will accept that. Be proud to mention your children and have a smile on your face whe you do.
2006-08-25 09:27:24 · answer #4 · answered by jen2697 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, of course a mother should never deny or hide her kids. I'm a 23 mother of 3 and the guys I've dated always know before hand of my kids.
2006-08-25 09:18:56 · answer #5 · answered by pinkberry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a 20 year old single father of one and from what I have experienced you shouldn't mention unless they intend to come over to your home, ask about it, or mention children (which they shouldn't unless they have some) in any way. After a couple of dates or when you start to really get to know one another it should be safe to tell them, if they truely like you and want to be with you it shouldn't matter, but mentioning it too early, especially to a man, can scare them off or make them assume you have 'baggage'.
2006-08-25 09:36:21 · answer #6 · answered by War 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that is a great way to weed out the players just trying to score! Withholding info is the same as lying; honesty is usually the best policy if you want to start the relationship off right! If a guy is really interested in you he'll accept all of your baggage!
2006-08-25 09:28:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you start off a potential relationship without being honest. You will do far more damage if you hold back who you truly are and your situation. Imagine you are in that guys shoes when he finds out he has been lied to. Doesn't matter about what - you are being dishonest and that is wrong. No matter what way you look at it and for whatever reasons - there is no excuse to lie to someone you would consider becoming close to. Don't lie it will give you bad karma.
2006-08-25 09:21:18 · answer #8 · answered by M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. Why waste your time with someone who is not interested in kids. It doesn't have to be the first thing out of your mouth, because that may look like you want a daddy-figure or support system. It should be sooner rather then later.
2006-08-25 09:09:34 · answer #9 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes because chances are that if he right away shies away he will not love or respect your kids, and they are the most important part of your life. If he says it's cool he might be the one you can love and kids too. Nachooooooooooooooooooooooo
2006-08-25 09:18:52 · answer #10 · answered by Devilz Backbone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋