ok i have a half brother whos full mexican but born here. and i my self am half irish american and half mexican. now my delems is that his mother my step mother is not teaching him what he should be learning, which is how to be more atuned to how americans think and more importently he need to know how to speek properly in both english and spanish.
now i will start with the lnaguage problem, this poor kid cane seem to use the right words or use them properly in any sentence and hes 11. example "iam boring" rather than "iam bord" and he does that a lot in bother languages and i know its not because he has to learn the 2. he is one of only 2 kinds i know who dont speek right in at least one and what makes it worse is that the damn school wont help, and he dumb mother wont correct him , my father is too busy and i have given up trying.
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2006-08-25 08:52:42 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
now for the other problem. my step mother teaches this kid all the wrong things that will one day get his butt kicked. things like all americans are lazy or they are worthless. he also repreats nigggger way too much and i cant get it thrugh his head that he cant be saying that or any thing like that (damn plitacul correctness!). all in all he wont let him become ameracanized which he will need if he wats to get a better job the working in the damn orchards (i grew up in a smaller town so i workined on a ranch and if i could thats where i would have him go) i need help is steering this kind and to get him to understand that its good to prais the old country (i love mexico, ireland, scottland, and spain) but you need to be mindfull and alert to the new country.
i dont think any of what i just typed made sense.
2006-08-25 08:58:06 · update #1
i dont have time for spelling and grammer when i am typing 80 miles an hour
2006-08-25 08:59:24 · update #2
i ment i gave up on the american part. i still have to help him with the language part.
2006-08-25 09:05:01 · update #3
KEEP TRYING!!!!!!!!seriously cos he'll thank you for it .also if you looked up language night schools in your area that could help!tell his mother to help cos it'll give your brother a really hard time at high school
2006-08-25 08:57:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is not a simple language problem. This situation goes much deeper...what you describe here is a "family Relationship" problem. (divorces...second marriage...different parents...different cultures)
My daughter is 11, I am german, her father is mexican, we are divorced. I speak all three languages perfectly and have lived in all three countries and others. Her father speaks spanish and a broken english. Our daughter wants to be american (she is) and at this time speaks only english. We don't pressure her to learn either spanish or german, but I just advise her that in future it may benefit her. But what we teach her, together, (although we are divorced) is to be a good person and to learn as much as she can. She is an A+ student and I am sure one day she'll ask us to help her in learning spanish and german. Important is that she learned what is right or wrong and how not to get in trouble.
If your brother's teachers are not helping, you and your family may consider a change of school and make sure that he concentrates more on the english language, because that is what he needs for future tests and for a better job. The spanish language will not be a problem for him later on.
2006-08-25 16:19:23 · answer #2 · answered by Angel****1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your father about getting your younger brother some tutoring in English and talk to him about the way your stepmother is teaching him prejudice against other cultures in a way that may cause him to become a social failure. If you choose to give up on your brother, there will be no progress in his learning of languages and cullture. You could even consider going with him for family oriented tutoring. His mom may need some counseling in international relations as well. A complete family attitude change about language, race, nationality and cultural issues in the USA is, quite obviously, in order by what you have stated. And in addition, political correctness is a prerequisite to social success all over the world.
2006-08-25 16:14:24 · answer #3 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for one thing, don't teach him yourself, since your spelling, grammar and capitalization is atrocious.
Everyone has time for proper grammar - you are setting an example. If you don't have time to check your question, don't send it.
Suggest that he join some clubs or sports teams that have other kids his own age. When he first meets those kids, have him explain that English is not his first language, and that he'd appreciate any help by getting CONSTRUCTIVE criticism when he makes a mistake. It will be helpful if there is an adult supervisor also, so that the other kids don't try and teach him an idiom that is actually profane. I think by going in saying "I want to learn, please help me," most of the other kids will be a lot less likely to make fun and actually help.
If there is a story hour or reading program at your local library for youngsters, that can help as well.
Good luck!
2006-08-25 16:00:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you typed made sense. I think alot of the responsibility should be the mother teaching your lil brother whats right and whats wrong! You could talk to your little brother if you two have some alone time and tell him "its not cool" to say certain things. He may look up to you as you are older than he is. You also may want to talk to your bros mom and tell her that you fear he will get hurt someday for saying the wrong thing! Maybe she will listen. I would again, try talking to your brother personally whenever you have the chance and just telling him what is right and what is wrong!
2006-08-25 16:07:58 · answer #5 · answered by BOOTS! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really nice of you to be so concerned about your brother.
The best way kids learn is by example. Talk to him in English as much as possible. Correct his speech if he doesn't object. Little brothers tend to make their older brothers into heroes that can't do any wrong so work with him.
The best of luck to you both.
2006-08-25 15:59:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know what to say but no matter what don't give up be patient it will happen soon and try helping him by putting the thing into songs andd stuff and getting it into his head about the parts of speech and stuff i hope it helps u and ur family and have u tried talking to his mother about it i mean u could tell how u feel about it.
2006-08-25 15:59:41 · answer #7 · answered by ScholarlyK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the mother and father for one thing should be helping the child more...maybe the school could help him..if they do not want to be good parents maybe you should call child services and see if they can help you...he is going to have a hard life in many ways if someone does not help him
2006-08-25 15:59:24 · answer #8 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
correct him whenever he makes a mistake, that's the easiest thing to do. And tell his mother that americans aren't stupid and lazy, and she should stop telling him that or he'll repeat it and get beat up by some bigger kid.
2006-08-25 16:02:18 · answer #9 · answered by she who is awesome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to spend a lot of time with him, and work on the language issue, If his mom wont help him improve his language then someone needs to.
2006-08-25 15:58:29 · answer #10 · answered by Kathykitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋