Some people find it unbelievable that i have called cps on my sis...but i didnt do it out of any retaliation of any kind. She mistreats her daughter, hits her, calls her bad names and recently we saw her at the babysitters and one of her little toe's is purple and the nails is about to fall off, she can barely walk. This is the 2nd time but stupid CPS calls my sis before they arrive so she cleans her room, feeds her, bathes her,and cleans her. I told CPS to arrive without notice, the front door is always open anyway. Did i do the right thing ? what should i do if cps doesnt do anything about it this time?? and by the way, this kid is exposed to domestic violence pretty much everyday cus my sis's bf beats her and she takes it. What should i do next? and im afraid my sister will try to get back at me some way, she already called my husband God knows for what. All ur answers will be appreciated.
2006-08-25 08:46:48 · 31 answers · asked by sourgirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
by the way, besides not feeding her or bathing her, she drives with her on the steering wheel, doesnt put her in her carseat, thats a tragedy waiting to happen. Her room is a shiit hole theres dirty pampers everywhere and it smells worse than a sewer, they have rats and it's disgusting, her child deserves a better life.
2006-08-25 08:48:54 · update #1
by the way the guy she's with is her "baby daddy" how she likes to call it. I hate them both for being irresponsible
2006-08-25 09:19:21 · update #2
I called CPS on my sister as well when her bf hit her 2 month old son in the face while she was showering and knocked him out. He was taken away from her and put into a WONDERFUL family where the mom is a nurse, the dad is a corection officer, and he now has 2 older sisters. It was the best thing to do...my mom just hid the guy at her house and didn't take the baby to the Dr. to be sure he was ok. My sister didn't know what to do. She wasn't ready to be a mom, and she was mad at me at first...but almost 3 yrs. later, she's thankful I did what I did. She even says, she's glad she's not a mom anymore. She's also Bi-polar, and was having a hard time dealing with all of the night crying from her son in the beginning. Sometimes you just have to do what needs to be done, even if it's not an enjoyable experience. Good luck.
2006-08-25 08:55:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that was my sister I would do more than call the cps. Personally I would have had it out with my sister. Right now you need to start a log on everything you see and hear. Any sign of violence I would take a picture and then call the law. Keep racking up domestic violence calls on them as it will be key to helping your neice. Also, I would discuss this matter with an attorney as how to further protect your neice. Your sister does not even deserve to have any children. Keep fighting for your neices safety and do anything you can to help her. If need to, take this matter to your parents, if able, as grandparents have rights to grandchildren. Many grandparents have been able to take away their grandchildren from their parents as the parents are seen unfit. Another option might be to contact your neices father and discuss what you have seen. Do whatever means are necessary!! Good Luck & God Bless!
2006-08-25 09:11:03 · answer #2 · answered by zero 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. The baby isn't in a good situation. Call the cops, call cps, if there is enough complaints filed I would think they would do an investigation. Otherwise something really bad could happen. Take pictures, video of the house, the baby and whatever else isn't safe. Good luck
2006-08-25 18:42:30 · answer #3 · answered by duh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
CPS most definitely IS responsible for the safety of all children under their jurisdiction, and you absolutely did the right thing by reporting this situation to them. Unfortunately, child protective law is such that the situation has to be quite horrific before CPS acts. Keep calling and reporting what you witness. As far as your sister's reaction, if she gives you any problems just tell her to clean up her act and take care of her child and there won't be a problem!
2006-08-25 08:57:18 · answer #4 · answered by zia269 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you to have to do that. You did the right thing, you might have actually saved her life. I would keep calling cps each time. cps is so short of help and so full of cases that it passes some kids up at times and that is never a good thing. as hard as it is for you, just know that you are doing what's right for that child. bless you and good luck with all of this
2006-08-25 08:53:58 · answer #5 · answered by notyours 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all - if you know this is going on and you did not try to help that child - you would feel a lot worse. You did the right thing. I think you should call the police instead of CPS and see about getting that little girl to give a statement and try to get her out of that house. Your sister sounds like she is in real need of help too, maybe you need to be trying to get her out of that house and away from that guy. Maybe consult a family attorney to see about what you need to do to declare your sister an un-fit mother
2006-08-25 08:51:43 · answer #6 · answered by jessica 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you did the right thing, but you should talk to her about it even if she doesnt want to listen. The child doesnt deserve the starvation, and she certainly doesnt deserve a beating. Or get her to someone she can talk to, and find a way to solve your problem, cause i dont think she should take it out on her child and she certainly doesnt deserve a beating cause no one does. Keep calling the cops on her to keep the child feed and clean, but also find ways to help her needs. Everyone has needs and being beaten is certainly not one of them.
2006-08-25 09:01:38 · answer #7 · answered by jubbablumberin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes CPS steps in too late and the child either dies or gets seriously hurt, what you are doing is the right thing to do. Keep on bugging CPS about your neice and if that doesn't work call the police on her *** cause it seams as if she don''t want the child. Stay in that child's life she needs you!
2006-08-25 08:57:53 · answer #8 · answered by Redbone 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops. This child is in SERIOUS danger. Take some pics of the room and take some pics of how bad it really is. This is a serious matter and you DEFINITELY did the right thing! Your sister needs counseling ASAP! And the child will probably need it to in order to help get over this!!!
2006-08-25 08:58:51 · answer #9 · answered by Kiara 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to discuss this family matter with your husband so you will have as many witnesses on your side as possible. If your sister has a live-in boyfriend who is not the baby's biological father and this man is in accord with your sister's abuse of her child, then you must take some action by reporting the obvious physical signs of abuse to a children's protective agency or the school or formal agency, if any, which the child attends. You need to call your local or state child protective agency and take the risk of giving your name to them to save this child's life and you need to do it NOW!
2006-08-25 08:57:40 · answer #10 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋