My sister is a lesbian, suicidal, and now rumor has it that she's on drugs. Help!?

Question

She is 22 years old and we've known for a few years about her being a lesbian. This still is a huge issue in my family since we believe this is an abomination to God. But she's also been thru depression and suicide attempts in which she was seen by a doctor and put on medication. Now recently, rumor has it that she's been getting "messed up" on drugs. She hangs out with this drug abuser girl and mom lets her spend the night with her ALL THE TIME (my sis still lives at home). Mom's excuse is that she's 22 and she can't tell her what to do. Now mom refuses to believe the rumors that she's on drugs! I don't know what to do! My sister denies everything. I need someone's advice on how to deal with this situation and help my sister before she completely ruins her life.

Answer 1

to me your problems are two
1. having a lesbo sis
2. suicidal type sis
well dear my answer is that you and your mother are missing something about her ,may be love and proper attention with respect,so that you may get to know,listen and feel each other.
As I see something is inside her,which she is hiding from you both and it is forcing her to the drugs,suicide attempt and that stupid lesbo thing.
The simple answer is that your sister doesn't need a sister and a caring mom at this age any more.All she need is a nice and trustworthy friend,who can help her to walkthrough all the things u said about her.Only a nice friend can grab her hand,share everything she wants and help her to walkthrough the days of shame.
In the end that nice friend can be YOU.

Answer 2

Truthfully the homophobic family with a homosexual child is likely the most dysfunctional system that exists.

The family needs to get over THEIR hang ups about their daughter sexuality.. God didn't create abominations. bigoted a*sholes did.

Check out PFLAG or some other family organization for families of children that have made different lifestyle choices.

She is trying to commit suicide because the people that should LOVE her don't and sure as HELL don't act like it.

Get the HELL out of the messed up church you belong to that preaches that kind of hateful junk.

PS... She is not ruining her life as much as the families lack of acceptance is.

Answer 3

"Rumor has it"? You're her sister!! Why would you be hearing what is going on with your own sister through rumors?! Maybe she just needs more family support ! Tell your mom that parenting doesn't ever stop!! 22 is only a #! It sounds like to me, your sister is screaming out for attention! Give her the unconditional love she is begging for!

Answer 4

One very probable reason for your sister's being suicidal is your family who believe and constantly affirm that she's an abomination. Who can live with that. First of all, she needs to find lesbian resources where you all live...since you didn't say I can't give you any web links...but if you can, Google lesbian and your town.city and find out where help is for her....then hook her up.
Once she starts forming a network of people who accept her for who she is and don't judge her, she needs to move out of your homophobic home and live a life where people accept and love her for who she is, not because she's woman identified.

Answer 5

It sounds like your mom is in denial and if your sister is using drugs of course she is going to deny it the best bet is to be supportive of her and let her know that you are there for her look up NA groups in your area and find pamplets and let your sister know that you love her and you will always be there for her no matter what

good luck

Answer 6

the answer is that you need to accept her for who she is. Its staring you right in the face. Your family thinking that she is an abonimation would make anyone contemplate suicide and do drugs. The problem is with you not her, stop killing your sister.

Answer 7

There are support groups for friends, parents, family of drug users - I'd suggest you find one in your community to help you deal with things.

BTW if she isn't on drugs then she wouldn't mind a random home drug test, would she?

Answer 8

Have you tried talking to your sister, not accusing her of anything, but telling her that you are very worried about her? That you love her and if she were to die it would hurt you beyond imagination? You can't help her unless she wants help and is willing to accept help. Keep praying too.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

DOCUMENT EVERYTHING.

Sounds like there is a made for TV movie in there. If her brother, you isn's it?, is a closet pillow biter - that has EMMY written all over it!!

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