My husband is in th US Army, deployed to Afghanistan at this time. About half an hour ago I got this feeling that something happened to him. I'm really worried about him. I know that he's in danger everyday, but today I'm even more worried! Any advice to help me get though the day? Thanks
2006-08-25 08:44:55 · 14 answers · asked by Proud Army Wife 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Understanding that he could and may give his life for the country is first a foremost. You married a truly honorable man that may not come home to you. however you have new life in your arms. Embrace this new life, think positive of your husband, and remember he prevailed in life where cowards fail by joining the military and putting you and all our lives before his own. Love him whole heartedly, and never forget what he is doing and why.
2006-08-25 08:52:21 · answer #1 · answered by Xae 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Here is the deal, worry will not change what is! Sometimes people get a sense of things, sometimes they are true sometimes not, The thing is if you sit there and worry about it the facts will still be what ever they are. If something has happened you will be notified. As long as you hear nothing then everything is ok.... I know its hard to be there and not know, but that is the nature of military life.
Take pride in the fact that your husband feels stongly enough about his country and you freedoms to do what is right, unlike some others that feel they are to important to risk anything.
I hope I have helped you out, mostly I hope I haven't made it worse. Each breath is a gift so accept that and be thankful.....
2006-08-25 09:33:07 · answer #2 · answered by Chief 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just did the best thing you can. You asked your question and a dad (that's me) of an Army soldier (that's my son) who's in Iraq as we speak, and who's friend, an Army Major, is in Afghanistan, as we speak, can help you out. You're just having some "free-floating anxiety" about an obviously serious situation, but calm down. By all reports I get, we're (that's the U.S. Army) doin' just fine. I know surprises, even ugly ones, can happen to anyone at anytime, but a review of the ongoing progress is always helpful. My son says everything is doing well over there, and I've not heard from my Major friend, or his parents, so, as the old saying goes, "No news is good news", is very applicable here. You keep in touch. We all worry. I know I do my share, but it's going fine. Just keep loving your man, and the whole world will be fine. Trust me on this one. God Bless you.
2006-08-25 09:17:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you can not help but worry. However, remember than have only been 165 hostile deaths since 2001 in Afghanistan.
There have not been any reported problems today. They have
signed a pact today to make the border even safer with Pakistan.
Breathe deep & close your eyes & visualize your sweet husband's face. My prayers are with you, my son has Afghanistan base for his troop. It is safer than Iraq.
2006-08-25 09:17:42 · answer #4 · answered by Wolfpacker 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about what *might* happen. That will only ruin what's good in your life. Be concerned, say a prayer, light a candle, do some small token gesture in expression of your concern, then move on with your day....just like your husband is doing.
Dwell on the positive, not the negative, or you'll only make yourself and those around you miserable.
2006-08-25 08:52:34 · answer #5 · answered by Shadow 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes intuitions are right, but most of the time they're not. It's the worry that brings these feelings out. You need to stay calm, write him a letter and tell him how much you miss him, have a good cry with a glass of wine. If you can visit a friend or a relative to take your mind of it that would be great. Bake cookies watch a chick flick movie and eat the cookies. And pray!
Good Luck to you and your husband.
2006-08-25 08:52:11 · answer #6 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have every right to worry. He is in a very hazardous profession and risk is always present. However you need to concentrate on the fact that he has been well trained and has natural instincts of survival. Give him all the credit in the world for trying his best every minute to come home to you and pray that he has a special guardian watching over him.
2006-08-25 08:53:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I have been there twice! My hubby went to Kosovo & Iraq. When those feelings would try to overwhelm me, I just found a quiet place to pray and meditate. Do not dwell on any negative thoughts that try to crowd your mind - mentally shove them away and try to picture him relaxing with his Army buddies, or reading one of your letters from home! Afghanistan is not the hot-spot that it once was - I'm not saying that it's not dangerous over there,but it's not AS dangerous as it once was. God bless!
2006-08-25 08:52:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
My husbad is in Iraq. This may sound silly, but I have written down how many military are there at one time. And then comparing that to deaths or accidents.. the chances are slim. But I know- we see the news, we hear everything- it creeps into your mind.
Hang in there.
2006-08-25 22:50:44 · answer #9 · answered by HeatherMarie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's natural for you to have those thoughts. I have thoughts like that whenever my wife flys or my kids are at a pool party. It's just a natural thing - to worry about loved ones when you're not there to protect them or be with them. I'm sure he's fine.
Thank you for your service!
2006-08-25 08:49:16 · answer #10 · answered by jamie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋