It's called emotional blackmail--he will continue this cycle everytime he thinks you're gonna leave. He has a problem. Run!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-25 08:46:36
·
answer #1
·
answered by boonsierra 1
·
0⤊
0⤋
okay
tell his momma and daddy
tell him first you leavin him, then tell his momma and daddy you leavin him and that you're worried that he might cut himself 'cause last time you tried to leave, that's what he did
after that, leave it alone
it is no longer your responsibility
you did what you could do
besides
he's cutting himself to make you stay, that is manipulating you
and he slapped you
that dude has got issues beyond you, and you need to go on with your life and pray for homie because he needs help
you're young and you ain't none of his parents, although you care for him it is not your responsibility to help him get the care he needs
you stay with him, it'll hold you back and it ain't healthy to stay in that situation. You will continue to emotionally suffer, and likely physically suffer too. Once he thinks you're REALLY under his thumb, it won't be a slap, it'll be somethin else. And that is for to immobilize you in fear even further, and further manipulate you.
Don't feel bad if you leave him, you'll be doing what's healthy for you, and for him. he don't need a girlfriend right now.
And while you checkin out this other person, before you hop in the bed with him, really think about the types of guys you're choosin' and the types of guys you're attracted to. Or before you know it, you will be in the same situation all over again with a different guy. Trust me.
Maybe you don't have somebody tellin' you this at home, but I'm tellin you girl and though I don't know ya I'll be prayin' for ya
bun223
2006-08-25 15:49:28
·
answer #2
·
answered by bun223 3
·
0⤊
0⤋
Jenn, You CAN'T be responsible for how someone else feels, or acts. They have choices just like yourself. If this turd slapped u, and is so unstable as to cut himself,. . .get out! Don't worry about it. If he begs, just tell him the truth, and go. If you have to get a restraining order, do so to protect urself. Value yourself, first! Do U want to live under threat all the time? That's what this is; control. Go, go go!
And, for God's sake don't let him in ur pants again, or it will start all over again.
2006-08-26 12:26:40
·
answer #3
·
answered by seeitmiway32 5
·
0⤊
0⤋
You need to walk away, and be finished for good. It is not a health relationship, and feeling sorry for someone is not the reason you should stay with anyone! Tell him that you have decided to take some time to yourself, and you would like to friends for support but the relationship needs to be over.
2006-08-25 15:45:38
·
answer #4
·
answered by LaDonna J 3
·
0⤊
0⤋
One, this is kind of mean but I'm going to say it, make him get help. If he cuts himself he needs to resolve his own issues before getting into a relationship. Second, if he hit you leave him. Most guys don't get better, they get worse. Just do it in that order.
2006-08-25 15:45:28
·
answer #5
·
answered by Army Bride 6
·
0⤊
0⤋
Let him cut himself ..it's his problem not yours. He's the one with the problem not you. I'd get rid of him as soon as possible and move on with your life. There's a beautiful life out there with someone else. Why go through this pain and agaony?
2006-08-25 15:44:05
·
answer #6
·
answered by Gez 2
·
1⤊
0⤋
Jenn,
Leave him - you are NOT responsible for his happiness - do not think for one second that you are.
This person will NOT make you happy EVER!!!!
You are not responsible for his actions - cut himself? Jeeeese - there is a person with lack of words and selfesteem.
Tell him you do not love him - don't let him play you around.
I speak from personal experience - this is NOT a fake answer..!!!!
2006-08-25 15:46:08
·
answer #7
·
answered by cruisecowboy1995 2
·
1⤊
0⤋
coming from a 15 year abusive relationship..GET OUT NOW! Before he has so much control over you and your emotions, that you cant! He WONT get better. Think of it like this...would you want to raise childen with this man? Didnt think so, so protect yourself and leave...NOW.
2006-08-25 15:51:00
·
answer #8
·
answered by greeneyedraven04 1
·
0⤊
0⤋
He isn't your responsibility, he's his own.
Break up with him, he's not even a man if he hit you. What happens to him is his own fault.
Besides, they try to hurt themselves to guilt you into staying and you don't want this for the rest of your life, do you?
2006-08-25 15:45:26
·
answer #9
·
answered by prfctlildvl 2
·
1⤊
0⤋
If he cut himself he'll cut you get out and do it in a place that is public or maybe in his crib so you can just leave afterwards.
2006-08-25 15:57:51
·
answer #10
·
answered by Anonymous
·
0⤊
0⤋