I am 29 and my bf is 26. He lives next door to me with his parents. He stays at my house every night. Then goes home when I leave for work cuz he doesnt have to be to work for another hour or so. If we go somewhere we take my car (he doesn't have one). He does have a job and contributes a little, but it just feels like I am being taken advantage of. I know he loves me and really does care about me. I am just not sure about the right way to talk to him about this.
2006-08-25 08:26:39 · 26 answers · asked by moniscandal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not sure exactly what you want out of the relationship. The first time you took the neighbor boy to bed ... what kind of real expectations did you have? We take advantage of things that are convenient every day ...like that hidden away parking place that nobody else seems to know about ...if it's there you use it. Not much wrong with that.
2006-08-25 08:41:11 · answer #1 · answered by Sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well. this is a great question, and one that is really up to the parties involoved, To me personally, I wouldn't let him slide so easily, for it will be hard later to balance it out. He doesn't seem like he is too motivated to change the situation. You need to communicate with him on a level by which you are not demanding but letting him know. he needs his own car. gas is high. and so is rent. he should make up his mind, if he is living over your house, or his parents. if he doesn't committ to at least that, then you are being taken advantage of. and it will never end,, You don't have to dump him. Just give him a little shock or two. with Love.
2006-08-25 09:52:47 · answer #2 · answered by stardancer4949 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't sound too bad to me. If he doesn't have a car then you would have to take your vehicle everywhere. If you don't want him to stay over at your place every night you will have to tell him that. I assume he statys at your place so you two can have alone time since he lives with his parents. If he is working and trying to get his own place and trying to get a car then you should probably cut him some slack.
You should have really loves you and cares for you. Some on who loves and cares for you would not intentionally take advantage of you.
2006-08-25 08:32:08 · answer #3 · answered by KE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you want in a boyfriend? Someone to 'raise'? Or someone who will take care of you and be your soul mate? Becasue who you have now is of the first catagory.
If you want someone who will need you to pay the bills, take care of the car when it breaks down, buy the house and make the mortgage payment, ALONG with doing the dishes and the laundry, scrubbing the floors and cleaning the bathrooms then you've found your man.
If you are looking for someone you can build a life with. Someone who will be there to support you when things get rough. Someone you can turn to and find strength and solace from, someone you can raise children with; Then you need to start looking somewhere else.
2006-08-25 08:38:17 · answer #4 · answered by Saphira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you sure that he really loves you coz he comes home every night. No questions about it he is just using you, Talk to him asked of he really cares or just need you to get whats he needed. and if this guy really cares or love you then he should stay with you and give you in return would you like just to be in bed with him when he needs you, youre 29 still young.
2006-08-25 08:42:29 · answer #5 · answered by lolipop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sounds like either he needs to move in with you and help or stay at home at night. i understand what you are saying. i had a relationship like that and it gets old. he would shower and kept is clothes somewhere else. then at night he would come and sleep at my house. so when the real responsibilty started kicking in he said he wasnt married to me. so if you want to play house go all the way. if he cant go all the way then he needs to stay in is own bed at mommys house. that way you will know what to exspect
2006-08-25 08:33:16 · answer #6 · answered by eaglestraces123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gurl if you really think he loves you than if you ask him about it he want care he will just tell you that if it feels that way i am sorry and wouldnt be a big deal but if he doesnt care for you and is taken advantage of you than i would give yalls relationship some thought
2006-08-25 08:31:59 · answer #7 · answered by hatton_chic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know he loves you and you love him back then you should be able to tell him how you feel.If you feel like your being taken advantage of why would you not speak up for yourself.He might honestly don't know you feel this way.If he truly love you then he will understand just be real with him.
2006-08-25 08:48:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you are being taking advantage of ,you are.If he is at you house every night ,he should be helping you more than a little, like helping you pay the rent .Tell him how you feel.
2006-08-25 08:37:18 · answer #9 · answered by ladybug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you prefer to keep this relationship 50/50 and if he can't drive you, than he should buy dinner to make up for the gas and the fact that you are always "sober sister."
He should be feeling like a mooch, so be vey sensitive to his manly feelings when you ask him for more help.
2006-08-25 08:29:45 · answer #10 · answered by BlondeBooBoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋