he told me he cant tell our parents,but i say he should! what should he do? hes thinking of dumping his gf!
2006-08-25 07:44:45 · 29 answers · asked by JennaBee 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I'll bet he was going on about how much he loved her when he was trying to get her to have sex with him... Your parents are going to find out, whether it's now or in 9 months. He'd better just suck it up and tell them. He can dump the girl. She'd be better off. He obviously never loved her in the first place, but he is now stuck with her and with paying for a baby that he was clearly not mature enough emotionally to father.
I'd say he's about to grow up real quick. I just feel sorry for the baby!
2006-08-25 07:57:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's too late to dump her NOW. He's stuck with her at LEAST for the next 18 years even if he DOESN'T marry her (unless she has a abortion or they put the baby up for adoption)!
Does he actually think your parents won't find out?! Tell your brother to BE A MAN! He had his fun, NOW it's time to pay the piper!
If you have any kind of parents, they will WANT him to step up to the plate. Your brother SHOULD also understand that while they will be disappointed in him they are his parents, and they still love him. ALL people make mistakes. Your brother is not the first young person to travel this road, and unfortunately it's a given that he won't be the last.
Your parents WILL get over the shock, embarrassment and disappointment. "This too shall pass."
GOOD LUCK!!
2006-08-25 15:40:57 · answer #2 · answered by Renee D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he's a jerk for wanting to dump her, unless of course he wanted to do that before the baby came into the picture. He should definately tell your parents because 10 to 1 this girl is going to try to get child support. Since he's 15 your parents would probably have to pay the support till hes a little older. Anyways, I'm trying to say, your parents are going to find out someday, someway, better to hear it from him than from someone else.
2006-08-25 14:52:10 · answer #3 · answered by Nails 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tough spot there. I was pregnant when I was 16 and I dumped the father. If he dumps her it tells you a lot about his charachter and he should probably be castrated. If he stands up and does the right thing by sticking to her in her time of obvious need, kudos to him, he's become a man.
Truth be told, if your'e man enough to have sex, you should be man enough to handle this situation like an adult. His parents need to be told, even if it means YOU telling them behind his back. My sister told my mom about my pregnancy without my consent, and I'm gratefull she did, because I didn't have the guts.
Your parents are going to find out sooner or later when the girl's parents find out, so it might as well be done with.
2006-08-25 16:17:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a little punk. He was manly enough to shoot his load irresponsibly he can buck up and be a man and handle this like an adult. Shows a huge lack of character on his part for even thinking of dumping her. He needs to tell your parents, and all of them GF BF and both parents need to decide what the best solution would be.
2006-08-25 14:54:57 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look I am sorry that your brother in only 15 year old but he should not have been having sex. Now you need to tell him that he talks to your parents you will that way he and the g/f can get help. And their is help out there for them both. I know I was 16 when my little girl came in to this world. They will need your parents and her parents help.
Let me know if I can help you.
2006-08-25 15:33:38 · answer #6 · answered by Help Me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He showed he has a manly body but now he needs to become a man - step up and be accountable for his actions - tell both sets of parents, probably together so that she is not terrorized by her own family and fears without his support - he is responsible for 1/2 the situation for the next 18 years (and 9 months) and can start if off by not leaving this girl out to face things by herself. Dumping her because he didn't take appropriate action (uh, protection, or abstinence) is such a little boy cop out! It is is a terrible thing to do, not just to her, but for his own future and sense of self worth - do you really want to be the guy who has to be chased by the government for money,has to explain to his future gf's yeah I had a kid but i don't know him or his mom, has to tell a kid I didn't know how to be a man, has to deal with that kind of crap of everyone around him - for forever....cause you can't take this sort of stuff back....what kind of respect can he expect?
2006-08-25 14:58:51 · answer #7 · answered by Dogma Mom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He need to tell your parents or you do. Dumping the gf won't make the problem go away.
2006-08-25 15:18:07 · answer #8 · answered by therego2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how old is his g/f ?
she is going to be in exactly the same position if not worse with her parents, so he shouldn't dump her.
the quicker he tells them the better, but he must show that he is mature and grown up now, because thats what her parents will expect.
abortion should not be considered, it will be a regret that will haunt both of them for life, e.g what if this and what if that.
when is he 16 y/o because i think it best if he gets a job and supports them, helps her set up home for herself and child and if it works for them great, but if not he has done his best and people will realise that.
2006-08-25 14:57:42 · answer #9 · answered by kevin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how does he expect to keep a secret like that from your parents? is he thinking of dumping his girlfriend because she's pregnant? he's only 15, and I'm sure it wasn't meant to be a life-long relationship...and what is he doing having sex at 15?
2006-08-25 15:04:02 · answer #10 · answered by squigit1985 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋