screaming 16 month old??

Question

My 16 month old has been a screamer for a while now but now that we moved in with my inlaws ( for a short time :) and I have quit nursing him he screams all the time when before he screamed much less I dont know what is going on with him or what else I can do since I do disipline him as well as my three year old son who is a very well behaved child. The only reasons for this that I can think of is 1 because we now share a room with him 2 because I nursed him for 15 months or 3 because theres more people around to get atention from. Any advice on what to do?

Answer 1

Just screaming in general? Or screaming like crying and screaming? If the first, then I would try putting him in your room, or a room, by himself and close the door. I know its hard when they are screaming, but try to explain to him when he stops, he can come out. Just letting him know that it is unacceptable behavior. Or try ignoring him. I know that's tough to. If you believe he is just doing it for attention, and he stops when he gets the attention. Then I think this would be your best bet. By ignoring him, and instructing everyone else that is around him all the time to do the same. Hopefully it will break the cycle. But you have to have a united front of behavioral issues, or they get mixed signals and it might get worse. If its the second, then maybe you should have him checked out by a doctor. Ear infections and other things like that might not cause a fever or anything to make you think something is wrong. And if he can't really explain that it hurts then that might be it. I hope this helps. I have an in home daycare. So have dealt with lots of different kids and different behavior issues. You sometimes have to just try different things until you find what works for him.

Answer 2

It could have to do with the food or formula he eats (high iron causes belly aches).
There may be an actual medical problem (I don't know what kind of screaming we're talking about.)
Maybe he's getting some teeth that are particularly painful?
Negative attention is still attention, so if that is what he wants, he is getting exactly what he wants. Put him in a room and let him scream until he gets tired. Try taking him for a car ride if you need a silencer. Popsicles are good for that, too and they make sugar-free ones. Make sure no one else reacts to him. Have them tell you about it. That cuts down on attention, too.

Just some ideas. Hope something helps.

Answer 3

First I would suggest making an appointment with his pediatrician just to be on the safe side & rule out anything medical.
Then,...if you find that he screams just to hear himself scream, try telling him down at his level that if he wants to scream, then he'll have to do it in his crib with the door closed. Then once behind closed doors let him scream all he wants. Make sure there's nothing he can get hurt with & no toys for playing. After he calms down, then go in & pick him up. He'll soon choose to be quieter and will want to join you outside of the room. Don't jump & run to his side every time he screams or he'll use that as his new technique to get what ever it is he wants. The hardest part will probably be getting your in-laws to go along with you on this. Grand parents can't help but want to always soothe & love their grand babies. Loving & soothing are 2 different things though. Every baby needs to learn how to soothe themselves when nothing is wrong. Sometimes they yell or cry just because. If we jumped everytime they hollered we would never be able to decipher their cries. We'd never know if it's a sick cry, hungry cry, wet cry or tired cry.
Believe it or not if we let them, babies would train us & it's alot easier to let that happen,....than it is for us to train them.
Stay strong mom you were doing something right the first time with your well behaved 3 year old so things will without a doubt work out.

Answer 4

So long as he's not hungry, tired or ill/in pain, then he's a pretty normal 16 month old! Most children go through a stage of screaming to get attention and this exactly is when you can sort it out. Give him lots of attention when he's not screaming and just let him know that he doesn't get special attention when he screams. Its hard to discipline him at this age as he doesn't understand anything apart from the fact you're not happy. So be attentive when he's quiet and leave him to get on with it when he screams - he'll soon get the idea, I promise you!

Answer 5

it could be a combination of all three of these, and is stressing him out. There seem to be a lot of changes happening all at one time, and he is not used to it. First, stopping the nursing, where he felt safe in your arms, that will stress him, and me might still be a little Hungary when you feed him. Next, if he is not used to you sharing a room with him, he might not feel comfortable, and then moving into a new place that he is not familiar with is very stressful. If he don't get any better, call his Dr to see what you might be able to do, but it just might take him some time to adjust... Good Luck

Answer 6

Because he is so young, he is probably just stressed and cannot verbalize this yet. His stress may be due to a change in his environment. A lot of people around, taking your attention away from him could be the problem, or maybe he is feeling the stress from you. You are obviously feeling a little stress moving in with your in-laws.Making a change in his eating habits could also contribute to added stress. My guess is, as soon as you are on your own again, and in a calmer environment, he will become a calmer more relaxed child. Sometimes we have to make necessary changes in our children's environment, but they have no problem in letting us know they are not happy about it. Before long you will look back on this time and say," Thank goodness that is over".

Answer 7

Could be attention, change of enviorment---kids are routine hounds, teething?, too many ppl too get use to...............

I'd spend some one on one quality time in or around your new digs and see what happens. Read a fave book of his, take him swimming...........give him options to choose from----a real self esteem builder for kids.

It's hard for discipline to sink into a 16 month old. Time outs are good but yelling, screaming will only make him afraid of you or tune you out. Try teaching him sign language to communicate better until he's gabbing 24/7 why, what is that, why........

Oh yeah and if all your efforts fail, call the pediatrician.

Answer 8

I had the same problem with my two year old and found out he holds a lot of gas. someone told me to try an otc called mylacone don't know if spelling is right. but it help him alot.some kids have a hard time digesting anything.a little in some water and it worked for me.hope this will help you.

Answer 9

Does he like listening to music?My 15 month old dances to it everytime I turn on the radio.I breast fead him for 13 months and he missed it a little but got over it about two weeks later.

Answer 10

Carry the child outside and walk around. I know it's an inconvenience for you but I'm sure the child just wants a nice, mellow walk with you.