2006-08-25 07:04:45 · 22 answers · asked by yelena0027 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I agree with the majority of people here - don't ask for cash, when my girlfriend's brother got married he and his wife asked for cash and everyone at the reception talked about them like a dog saying how tacky and crude it was to ask for cash. You will most likely get cash anyway and the people that do give gifts will probably include a gift receipt so you can probably exchange it or get a refund in the form of a gift card since most stores don't give cash for a gift receipt, so don't do it -you'll be the talk of the town in a negative way. If the wedding is setting you back too much have a private ceremony and save your money for a nice honeymoon.
2006-08-25 07:41:46 · answer #1 · answered by dee dee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The answer is the same as has been given to the last 40000 people who have asked this on here.
There is no polite way to ask for money. Your wedding is a party to celebrate your marriage, not a fundraiser to pay for your house. You can register for a honeymoon, but to suggest money as a gift, unless you have extraordinary circumstances (like moving out of the country immediately following the wedding), cannot be done tactfully. Period. Anyone who says otherwise is not speaking for the majority of the educated population.
I would NEVER send cash to someone. It puts a value on friendship, IMHO. If a couple isn't registered, I would view it as a ploy and would send them a card. If I didn't know where the couple was registered, or I didn't have access to it, then I would send a gift from Red Envelope or Tiffany's.
2006-08-25 18:12:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There really isn't a nice way to do this at all. I would suggest you don't register at any stores. No registry is a small hint. Alot of people will ask close friends and family members what the bride and groom would like. Have your parents, or sister or whatever tell people, WHEN THEY ASK that you guys are kind of strapped from the cost of the wedding and that cash would be appreciated. Besides, a lot of people give cash anyway. Just have a wishing well, or card box next to the cake or wherever, I'm sure you'll get some $$. Good Luck and Congratulations!
2006-08-25 14:36:18 · answer #3 · answered by **hope/faith**1744 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely no nice way to do this - you shouldn't do this at all - it's rude and crude and, frankly, obnoxious of you. Attendees at a wedding don't HAVE to bring a gift - they do so because they wish you well and want to celebrate with you. DO NOT ask for cash, from anyone. If you can't handle the expenses, you should plan a much smaller or less elaborate wedding. AAARRRGGGGHHHH!!!
Grow up!
2006-08-25 18:52:54 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, these people are just not being very nice. I was just married, and I understand that money is the best wedding gift possible because your tastes will change, and yes, a wedding is expensive. I would suggest not registering for anything, or just at one place. That way you don't have to tell people that you would like money, they just won't have any other option.
2006-08-25 14:44:14 · answer #5 · answered by millie279 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no appropriate way to do this. If you suggest what they give you, then you are assuming they are going to give you anything at all. Graciously accept their gifts and keep in mind that most people put a great deal of thought into wedding gifts. Congratulations, and I hope everything turns out well for you.
2006-08-25 14:13:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nice way? Dear, there is no NICE way to suggest to people they pay for your wedding, honeymoon, or first home. This is SO rude and crude, it isn't to be believed! I know some people do it today, but if someone asked me for money as a wedding gift, they would get NOTHING! A wedding isn't YOUR opportunity to get others to finance your life, or even expect that people give you a gift. THough it is customary to give a gift, there is no law that says a guest HAS to. Grow up!
2006-08-25 14:08:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
The only "nice" way to do it is to not include any registry information with your invitations...which is a great idea because including registr cards with invites is TACKY anyway. Register for household items and other gifts at one or two stores. Then tell your bridal party, parents, and closest friends, where you are registered and ask them to help spread the word. You can ask them to suggest a donation to your "house fund" or "honeymoon fund" to people who ask where you are registered. That way the suggestion does not come directly from you. Most will give cash instead of calling to ask where you are registered anyway.
Good Luck and Congrats!
2006-08-25 14:21:35 · answer #8 · answered by Mommy-of-Twins 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Normally a close friend that knows what you're going through would give cash in the card to help you pay for the wedding. However it is usually up to your guest to make that decision.
Maybe put in a special letter in your invitation, letting them know that you're paying for your wedding and if anybody would like to help they can give cash instead of gift.
I think be open about it would be a better way to go.
2006-08-25 14:14:05 · answer #9 · answered by thsiung 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well to avoid being kind of rude you could just not register anywhere and people would make the assumption you might like cash or gift cards. lots of people give cash as gifts these days
2006-08-25 14:15:51 · answer #10 · answered by edgehead4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋