So last Friday i got in HUGE trouble with my parents. i don't want to go into much detail, but lets just say i got caught doing something ((no, not having sex or drugs)) that my mom FREAKED over. lets just say it was about 5 in the morning and i was coming back inside and my parents were up. i'm grounded for a month from computer and phone ((i'm currently at school)) and my mom won't let me go to football games or anything. now when they leave to go somewhere they threaten to call the police on me if i leave our property! how can i gain their trust back after this?!
2006-08-25 07:04:21 · 12 answers · asked by Princess Skullface 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You seem like a really, caring loving daughter to even care enough to want to gain your parents trust back. And i suspect you are feeling rather guilty at the moment for letting them down?
But its not just distrust your parents are feeling right now its also fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of the bad things that happen in the world and for your safety, fear that their perfect little daughter is growing up and developing her own personality, fear that they can't be with you 24hrs a day any more to protect you like they did when you were small. Fear of you making your own choices in life...no doubt some right, some wrong!
The reality has just hit your parents that there little girl has grown up into a young lady.
Your parents are feeling let down by you at the moment, but will get over it because they love you so much. They will show they trust you again but it may take a little time. In the meantime though, instead of sulking or arguing with them, you need to let them know that you understand why they are angry with you and continue to show them respect as im sure you always have. Maybe you could write them a note if you can't bring yourself to discuss it with them.
Remember though, it wont always be like this, things will get better again, but maybe next time you are going to do something you think your parents may disapprove of, ask yourself beforehand....is it really worth it !! Good luck
2006-08-25 08:02:36 · answer #1 · answered by angel1902 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
work hard appologize profusely, and do what your told, be where you say, and check in when you are gone.....sneaking out got me throw out! being grounded 1 month is not so bad...loosing trust is work hard to gain it back. do things you were not asked to do to help out around the house and in a week or so, sit down with them and talk about you bad behavior....by then everyone will be less mad and good conversation can start.
2006-08-25 07:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by who be boo? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By doing whatever they say until they're not mad at you anymore. And apologizing (again) once you can look back and really understand why they were so pissed. Sounds like they were really worried about you, so it will take time to build up that trust again. It'll be fine.
2006-08-25 07:11:21 · answer #3 · answered by M K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man, u did a good one. i suggest that you be on your best behavior for the next few months. help out around the house, get good grades, change your attidude a little and be more positive. are u old enought to get a job? showing you are responsible always helps
2006-08-25 07:12:21 · answer #4 · answered by spiratic 1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not really their trust that you have to worry about,there"re your parents,they will trust you again.The thing is now is when will you be able to trust yourself?They have proven time and time again that they have trust in you,now you have to prove to them that you have trust in yourself as well.
2006-08-25 07:18:28 · answer #5 · answered by porkupuss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what they tell you. be where you say you are, where you are supposed to be. If you recognize that you blew it last weekend, then you're going to have to toe the line for awhile and EARN their trust back.
2006-08-25 07:10:18 · answer #6 · answered by jurydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do extra chores around the house without being asked. I mean chores that you usually don't do.
2006-08-25 07:11:44 · answer #7 · answered by Wildflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to be an angel, nice tone, do extra chores, make yourself seem innocent, and then they will think youve changed and they can trust you
2006-08-25 07:11:39 · answer #8 · answered by bug9bug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will take time to regain there trust
you have to really behave and prove to them that you really wont do (whatever it was) again
2006-08-25 10:18:01 · answer #9 · answered by curious1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take a lot of time, just be good and do what you have to and in time it will be alright....
2006-08-25 07:27:18 · answer #10 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋