I want some forplay. I have explained this to him, and tried games, telling him what I want, etc......he still says he doesn't know how to do forplay. With me having made these suggestions, is there anyway to make him understand? As I said, the sex is great, and I have told him what it is, so what is wrong?
2006-08-25 06:58:24 · 26 answers · asked by crushedlover 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Buy a copy of "The Joy of Sex" and read it together pointing out the things you would like to do with him, to him and have him do to you. You are going to have to be the one to take responsibility for teaching him what he will need to know to please you sexually. Alternatively, you could stop lying to yourself that the sex is good and find someone who is a good and attentive lover. I know that sounds harsh but, if you were really happy with your sex life you wouldn't be complaining about the lack of foreplay to complete strangers on Y!A. You wouldn't have to. Every woman I have ever known and every woman I have been lucky enough to be with would agree that foreplay is essential for a woman to have a fulfilling sex life. If you compromise your needs because you think this guy is "the one," then you have no one to blame but yourself.
2006-08-25 07:08:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I read once that in a situation like this you should play a game of follow the leader. Tell him you are going to play a game, that whatever you do he needs to copy. Take turns letting each other go first. So for instance, if you want him to kiss your neck, kiss his the way you want him to kiss yours. Then he has to follow. You both will end up learning what each other likes the most. I think after awhile he will come to learn to love foreplay!
2006-08-25 07:07:55 · answer #2 · answered by LadyD1019 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't get the guys that don't like foreplay. I'm a guy who does, you can have a lot of fun and still have something great to look forward to a little later. The longer the foreplay, the better.
2006-08-25 07:15:32 · answer #3 · answered by heynow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
rent some movies....even if you are not into the hardcore tripple X stuff, there are softer movies...
he can get some ideas from watching the actors and you will have the chance to hint to him when you see something you might like him to try.....and in the end, both of you will be all heated up from the movie...now you have a great opportunity to act it out while its still fresh in your mind.
2006-08-25 07:03:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you begin the foreplay and when he really wants u most, make him wait even more. Cause all he thinks about is I gotta get in her pants, everything else is a blur to him. I bet he can't even remember his own name while he's in the "moment".
2006-08-25 07:03:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get one of those sex games that make foreplay look like a game. He will have fun and you will get your foreplay. Everyone wins.
2006-08-25 07:03:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try starting with a hand job while he's wearing a dog collar. Beat his a s s like there is no tomorrow!!!
2006-08-25 07:01:57 · answer #7 · answered by slikk pikka 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love foreplay better than the sex
2006-08-25 07:01:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you can't make someone understand. i've tried and he either gets it or he doesn't. i wish i could tell you because the guy i just broke up with was the same way and i tried like heck with him.
2006-08-25 07:02:30 · answer #9 · answered by vam_pire_lover 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds rather selfish to me. If you told him what you want, he could at least make an effort.
2006-08-25 07:03:33 · answer #10 · answered by Computer Guy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋