I'm very depressed and don't know what to do. I feel like nothing in my life is going right. I recently moved 4 1/2 hours away from home because my husband was relocated. I can't find a job making what I was making back home or not even close to what I was making. I know no one in the area. I have no money to spend. I am sick of unpacking and all I want to do all day is eat and sleep which is causing me to gain weight. I need help.
2006-08-25 06:56:05 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I also forgot to mention that the company my husband works for is talking about cutting back again which means he may not make the cut since he is one of the newer people.
2006-08-25 07:00:59 · update #1
You have a lot of stress going on right now. It's not easy to up and move without knowing anyone and then not knowing if your husband will stay in that job. I'd say don't be too hard on yourself at this point, you are just adjusting to everything. And finding a job is not easy. Even if you take a job making less money you may begin to feel better that you are moving in the right direction. in the mean time, continue looking for a better paying job. I went through a difficult time like that, and took a job making less money. A few months later they needed someone to fill another position and I applied for that and now making more than I did before. It will all work out. It sounds like your having some anxiety. Decide, plan and act... indecision will give you more anxiety. A firm decision on something will steady you. This always helps for me. Also, be willing to bear the discomfort.
A good website for self help is www.thework.com check it out. Good luck!
2006-08-25 07:14:59 · answer #1 · answered by livelaughlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you leave your husband, it seems as though you are going to have to deal with not liking where you live, not getting a job you like (so far) and no money. So you can just stay home and think "poor me" all the time or you can get out there and do something about it. Find A job. It may not be what you want, but it will get you out of the house and making your own money. You could make some friends IF you wanted. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Other people and places cannot make you happy. Only YOU can do that.
2006-08-25 14:03:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you must relax. Try not to think of your situation as being so bleak. You have to take one day a time.Talk to your husband and see if you can come to a compromise as far as he helping you a bit.If you don't like this job, look for another. Until then, make do with what you have until you can do better.Getting acquainted will take time.Use this time to get closer to God( if you believe). Just pray and take you time in whatever you do. You will feel a lot better. Just try.
2006-08-25 14:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by LittleLady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you ever depressed before your move? I have been struggling with depression all my life, and sometimes it is due to a life change, but it can also be due to a chemical imbalance. Please make an appointment with a mental health professional, who can decide if you would benefit from short-term anti-depressants. It is nothing to be embarrassed about -- once you start feeling better, your therapist will help you taper off them.
Also, your finances and eating and sleeping all day is likely making you even more depressed, so please take a step to break out of this cycle!
2006-08-25 14:15:26 · answer #4 · answered by abetterimpression 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a decision to give up a lot (proximity to family and friends, work, etc) to be with your husband. That's a tremendous decision to make. Your current feelings are the results (consequences) of your choices. I am pretty sure you love your husband and he loves you, etc. Give it some time and things will work out for you. What were you expecting? That it was going to be an easy transition.
2006-08-25 14:08:20 · answer #5 · answered by JunAlo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they quicker you take action and speak with somebody the better off you will be. I was very depressed a few years back and I am still keeping it under control.
I amke fun of alot of ideas/questions/people on Yahoo! Answers, but not about questions of depression.
I love bong hits, but that didn't help me so I had to take a break from that for a bit. So don't take that advice.
2006-08-25 14:02:09 · answer #6 · answered by bamski 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you go to a psychologist..it helps alot believe me..but if you can find a job..then maybe you and your husband can move..try going to a gym...or talk to a neighbor or something
2006-08-25 13:59:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well at least u arent suicidal like me
2006-08-28 23:03:40 · answer #8 · answered by Angel_Kitten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bong hits..the best anti-depressant
2006-08-25 14:01:42 · answer #9 · answered by smitmeister_99 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋