about nothing that is true. She tells about how her kids just treat her so poorly and don't talk to her and if they do talk to her then they want her money. More and MORE I learn about her all she cares about is her money. She wants to be able to have everyone serve her and take care of her financially, companionship wise and it has to be one of her children until she has them bled dry and she spreads rumors about that one and goes on to the next one making all of her own kids hate each other cause they treated mom so horribly. She once lived with us and I was so excited when she moved out.... well now she wants back in. I think the answer will be NO am I wrong in stating that?
2006-08-25 06:34:24 · 9 answers · asked by KayAlley 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Stand your ground. This woman is a drama queen who feeds off the misery she causes others. Completely self-centered, she will never acknowledge her resonsibility in the turmoil she causes in your family.
My Mother-in law was the same kind of person until the day she died. My Father-in-law now lives with us and he says he has never been as relaxed as he is now. That's because he knows he won't be blindsided by the latest drama as he was for 30 years.
2006-08-25 06:45:29 · answer #1 · answered by JP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like Altzheimers to me, an elderly aunt of mine has it and sufferers become completely paranoid, especially about family members.
It might be worth getting the family together and discussing it and maybe promising not to believe any of the things that she says. She probably needs medical help and will probably refuse it too!!
You could gather up as much information on Altzheimers as possible and share it amongst the family.
You do not have to take her back into your home, you have done your stint at having her, but then you are all left with the dilemma of what to do with her.
If she has money, might it not be worth having a paid carer in her own home?
Good Luck on this one, you are all going to need it.
2006-08-25 13:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by sarah b 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hope your spouse agrees with you! She sounds like a Bette Davis role. I say take a stand and say NO! Can your spouse see what mom is doing? Is it possible to have a family meeting excluding her, and you can all get on the same page?
Don't let that poison back into your home. GOOD LUCK!
2006-08-25 13:45:07 · answer #3 · answered by loshea65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have the beginnings of Alzheimer's. If at all possible, contact her primary physician and explain what's been going on and ask about having her tested. Here's a link for more information: http://www.webmd.com/search/search_results/default.aspx?query=Alzheimer%27s&x=49&y=14
Good luck!
2006-08-25 13:46:09 · answer #4 · answered by Angie P. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you let her move back in make it ABSOLUTLY CLEAR that if rumors and gossip about how she is treated in your house are unacceptable - and if you hear that she is badmouthing you around the family she will be immediatly put out - no questions asked.
it's your house - your rules. she can take it or leave it
2006-08-25 13:42:52 · answer #5 · answered by BigD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say no. She will talk about you and say rumors regardless. But ignore her, don't listen or repeat any of the rumors. This will make her madder, Kill her with kindness, but don't give in.
2006-08-25 13:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by FANNY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she loves to play the martyr, and you are right for wanting to keep her from living with you.
2006-08-25 13:41:59 · answer #7 · answered by jtj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldny stand for it. granted it puts your spouse in a tight space on choosing one of you. but if it is going to cause trouble its best it dont happen
2006-08-25 13:38:58 · answer #8 · answered by tat2dadx3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so right. If she has so much money why does she need to llive with other ppl?
2006-08-25 13:38:51 · answer #9 · answered by Jacks036 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋