I have a child with my ex boyfriend, we have been broke up for over year. He has a new girlfriend and a new life for himself. He has contacted me and told me over the last year that he doesn't want to have anything to do with his daughter or me but he needs a paternity test the child. He cusses me out and tells me to leave him alone and then he will talk to me all reasonable. He wanted to remain friends after we split but I don't think that his family would allow it.He was happy that I was pregnant and we were going to have a child together. Now he doesn't want anything to do with her but he wants a paternity test. I am not sure what I am supposed to do with his reaction changing to me or his child? Is this normal for men when they leave someone and have a child with them?
2006-08-25 06:30:38 · 7 answers · asked by busyliz 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He didn't ask for the paternity test until his parents got involved into the situation before that he was willing to admit the baby was his. He knows that child is his. I have offered him the paternity test that he asked for and he refuses to take it now that it is offered to him. His family apparently thinks that his new woman is better for him even though she doesn't treat him with no respect. He wanted to remain friends until everyone elses opinion got into it .
2006-08-25 06:43:36 · update #1
sue the miserable SOB. I'll help
2006-08-25 06:34:04 · answer #1 · answered by beeleesw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what's "normal" in a situation like this. The fact is however, if he asks for a test to prove the child is his, then this test should be taken. Even if he wants nothing to do with the child, if it is his, the state will enforce child support, and he'll be paying for it.
A guy has the right to know if it is really his kid before he starts paying child support.
It may sound cynical, or maybe even offend the mother in question, but as a man who was told he was a father once before, and it turned out not to be true, I am very, very adamant about the fact that in any situation a father has the right to know for certain.
2006-08-25 13:37:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if that is normal behavior or not. But I'd give him his lil paternity test and then I'd get child support baby. You shouldn't have to raise this child all by yourself. You didn't make her all by yourself. Weather he wants to be there for her or not he does have the responsibility to help take care of her financially.
2006-08-25 13:39:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a dna test, contact the district attorneys office, and move forward. There is no future in the past
2006-08-25 13:35:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell your loser ex-boyfriend, that it takes a man to raise a child not to make one. you have a beautiful daughter, maybe she is better off with a male figuire that loves her unconditionally. as far as the test, you don't have to do anything you don't want to.
2006-08-25 13:39:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the situation..... umm, why would his family not allow you to still be friends..... I don't think there's enough info in that question to be able to answer fairly....
2006-08-25 13:36:55 · answer #6 · answered by rachael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is becuz theres not one person that didnt leave there baby in this world that
2006-08-25 13:35:57 · answer #7 · answered by babygurl28607 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋