mom caught me and my bestfriend doing something we weren't susposed 2 b doing (her trust for me was already weak), and now she has ZERO trust in me and I cant even see my bestfriend any more('cept at skool).
2006-08-25 06:19:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
start slow. do the right things. make good decisions. eventually she will trust you again. just don't push it to hard.
2006-08-25 06:24:33 · answer #1 · answered by storm_magus3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's gonna take a lot of time and patience on both parts. You can't expect your mom to trust you again overnight. I think that you need to sit down and have a talk with your mom and explain why you behaved the way you did and promise to try and NOT let it happen again. When she lets you do things, make a big deal of them. For example, if she tells you to be home by 10:00, get home by 9:00 and call once or twice to check in (but don't overdo it). It'll take some time but she'll trust you again.
2006-08-25 06:30:46 · answer #2 · answered by Jayna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't repeat the same mistakes, help her around and respect her.
I assure you mom will start recognizing you are doing you best to show her that she can trust in you.
It's time what it takes. But you have to be consistent on your good behavior. Don't get tired of telling her you are sorry, that you are going to try not to disappoint her anymore. And put up with her burst outs. She might be legitimately angry.
Don't do anything bad anymore. It pays better when you do right thing, it costs you a lot less!!
2006-08-25 06:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've it to earn it back. It's the only way. Show her ... and trust me it will totally take all your patience! It will be completely worth it. Stay home, do your chores, and everything she asks. Come home a half hour to hour before curfew if you REALLY need to attend a social event but you should just try your best to just stay put. Talk to her too. Keep her company and do things with her. Give it about 2-3 weeks, then talk to her and say you've realized the mistake you've made but let her know that you've really been trying to earn her trust back. I've been here before ... sort of.
2006-08-25 06:28:21 · answer #4 · answered by auniquekind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to get back your mom's trust is to do exactly as she says and tell only the truth for quite some time. This may take as long as a year depending on how badly you have betrayed her trust.
2006-08-25 06:30:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in your mom's position at this very moment, and believe me it also hurts her feelings. This will take a long time so you need to think, I can make my life good, or miserable. Trust takes a long time to get back, and to tell you the truth, I don't think parents fully ever get back the trust they had, it's always in the back of their mind. What you need to do is ahow sincere love to your mom because parents feel like their children surely could not realy love them if they could do such things that would break their hearts or saying that they raised you to know not to do such things. We often blame ourselves without our children knowing, thinking back to what we could of done different in raising our children, or what we should of done. So, just love her, mind her, and it wouldn't hurt to do things around the houe without being told. This will probably work the best.
2006-08-25 06:29:48 · answer #6 · answered by FANNY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If truely you have seen the wrong you did and you are regretting,and if truely you want to gain back the trust of mom, go on your knees before her and repent to have committed the fooly of doing what she didnot want you to do. If truely you are determined not to go back to your evil, tell her that you will not do that again. She knows that you people are meeting in school.If you are sincere you will have her trust once more.
2006-08-25 07:06:16 · answer #7 · answered by patrick w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mrs Nice comments:
If you knew her trust for you was already weak and you now know there is no trust.....then you will know (in your heart) what it will take to regain it.
If you truely want to regain her trust for all the right reasons...not just because she will loosen up her reins on you but because you want to live life with good morals....then you know what to do w/out asking us!
Sincerely,
Mrs. Nice
2006-08-25 06:32:01 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs_Nice_Gives_Advice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately once you lose someones trust it takes along time for them to trust you again what I want to know is what is the real reason you want her trust for ..is it because you realized you screwed up and want to do better and be a better person .. or is it because you want to hang out with you friend again and do bad things again
2006-08-25 06:33:39 · answer #9 · answered by frogger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be good, and honest, from now on. Boring but true. Maybe bake a nice cake for her too. BTW, I'm your mom.
2006-08-25 06:25:29 · answer #10 · answered by A professor (thus usually wrong) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋