Why are people so rude?

Question

Why are people so rude? As most of you probably read my question: “Am I being paranoid or is this true?” While I did get some good and reassuring answers some people just told me they felt bad for my son, meaning I wasn‘t a good mother. I respect people, the way they parent, the problems they have and the questions they ask. Even if I don’t necessarily agree with the way that they parent I always offer my best advice and try not to pass judgment. I’m not perfect not do I pretend to be, but I’m so sick and tired of seeing people writing negative things on here to people who are obviously in need of answers, advice, or guidance! And I don’t get angry if someone disagrees with me as long as they provide something of substance to why they don’t. Yes my parenting style may be different than most, some, or all but I’d never put someone down just for doing things differently. I try to offer solutions not just put something down that isn’t advice or an answer. Obviously something is wrong with society if most are so quick to judge.

Answer 1

I agree that many people on here just want the two points. I suppose there should be a better way for the asker of a question to mark them as SPAM. But, you know that they're also on here for the sole purpose of making others angry. I would try my best to ignore them, and really listen to those who are honest and truly trying to offer you advice. It's good that you don't bash people from having a different opinion, but it can be hard when people aren't offering constructive criticism, and just being plain rude.

Hope my ramblings helped!

Answer 2

I can totally understand where you are coming from, I am new to this and in the last two days I have been called a *****, an a****** and been told my questions were lame. I asked this same question and well all I can come up with is that the world is just rude. No one cares about any one else anymore. It is awful that people feel they need to be this way. I do not understand it, but I just try to ignore it. I believe we are all unique and have at least one good quality. By thinking this helps me get through and those that say nasty things to us must have problems of their own. So they take it out on us. It is just plain insecurities and maybe they just don't know any better.

Answer 3

Honey, you asked for people's opinions but you get upset when they're not what you wanted to hear. You said that you don't get angry if someone disagrees with you as long as they provide something of substance to why they don't, right? They're called opinions, sweetie. The only proof they can give is that's what they believe. I'm sorry if people were rude but it's not all people. Some people are just mean and hurtful in the first place and just feel the need to be miserable every time they open their mouths or let their fingers do the typing.

Answer 4

I agree with you completely. I have seen some incredibly mean answers to even the simplest of questions. I don't understand, aren't we supposed to be on here to help each other out? I've even seen people answer like that when I'm sure it was a child asking. It's horrible. I won't let my kids on here because of them. Don't take it too personally, I'm sure a big part of those answerers are teens, the rest just aren't any more mature than the teens. (and some who just want the points) I think because we can't see or hear each other on here, it's not as personal, so people feel they can be as rude as they like!(and no one will really know who they are)

Answer 5

I will tell you why people are so rude. People (nowdays) cringe at the thought that a baby will do what *gasp, sigh, grab your chest* a parent has prescribed for them to do. Be it a schedule as an infant, or reprimanding them for unruly behavior as a preschooler with a spanking, these things have universally become frowned upon as New Age Parenting techniques have taken off and swept most people up into the atmosphere with it. Now, we are neglectful parents if we don't place our babies in a sling when we run our errands...strollers and carseats are too "detached". It's now "abuse" (don't ask me how) to spank a kid when he's cutting up in most people's eyes. Oh, God, and don't even get me started on the whole breast vs. bottle thing, I'm trying to keep my blood pressure under boiling right now.

Anyways, things aren't like they used to be when you and I were coming up. The media has brought us more and more high visibility cases of child abuse. Laws had to be toughened. Researchers and child psychologists are coming up with new research every minute about what we parents "need" to do to raise our children according to the latest hoo haa stamped off by Dr. Kook and His Merry Band of Idiots. This month, it's breastfeed them until they are 6 years old and let them run the house, while you just go along for the ride. Next month, it'll be feed them ibex milk and let them run naked in the back yard with scissors.

Baby girl, you are the only mom that young boy has. As long as you love him, are gentle, but firm with him, and treat him with respect, you will raise a fine young man that will make you proud one day. Don't rely on other peoples advice or affirmations of your parenting style! Do what fits you and your household, and your child. When their little undisciplined, juvenile delinquents are out at age 15 cutting school and stealing, your child will have enough discipline to know better. If your baby is happy, healthy, and well taken care of, then you are a good mother. Stop worrying about a bunch of looney toons whose opinions you would likely scoff at if you knew how they lived and cared for their own.

Answer 6

Don't take it so personally. Where there are people, there will always be a jerk or 2. Remember 1 thing when people do this to any of us what makes us think we're that special that they only behave that way with us. It's not us, it's the way they treat everyone in their life. It's their problem. Don't let it stop you. Cause then it becomes your problem.
Not sure what this was in reference to but I know this kind of person you're talking about constant negativity always at the opposite end of you,....& their way is the only way.
Have a great day!!!!

Answer 7

I have figured out the hard way that many of the answerers and askers on Yahoo! Answers are children and they don't know what they are saying. I figured this out when I answered a question to the best of my ability and the asker chose the stupidest one in the list. I'm certainly not jealous; it's probably happened to you too. I now try to see how the question is asked and the grammar, etc. to discern if it's worth answering. Kids don't know what they say or how it comes across - no home training which continues the coarsening of society.

Answer 8

Yep! Know what you mean! I asked a health related question once and got so many snide, unkind and cruel remarks I was actually hurt. It is verbal assault really, verbal rape, and people think they're being funny. I refrain from asking questions here anymore because of the cruelty and plain stupidity. There are a lot of inconsiderate, uncaring ignoramuses in the world and we don't have to volunteer to be harangued here. Well, I love ya. Hang in there, my friend...I'm on your side.

Answer 9

From my experience. You have to do the best you can to ask simple questions on here. And you will have to sift through a bunch of stuff sometimes. Sometimes people didn't really understand what you were asking. Sometimes they have an agenda. Often you will find a good answer somewhere in there.

Answer 10

I understand. when I first got on yahoo!answers I was all shocked at the apparent rudeness on here... but Ive learned to roll with the punches... and "deal"... plus keep in mind some stupid questions get stupid answers...
my answers vary vary vary... it depends what mood I'm in... sometimes I give great advice other times I just wanna be funny...

yes yahoo!answers is serious business sometimes... but the truth is ... its still mostly entertainment...