He has shown me legal papers of court battles and diagnosis of Alienation Syndrome. This info was not fully disclosed until later in the relationship. He says I have to be patient and let him work this out. Well it's been 6 years since his divorce and it's still not worked out.I find all of this hard to believe especially since I can't go to his home--he didn't tell me that either until I asked when I would get to meet his family. I've read a lot about P.A.S. and it sounds horrible.I do like this guy and I don't have a problem with the kids.I do feel he's asking too much of a 5 month relationship.My opinion is he shouldn't be expected to choose girlfriends over kids--kids always come first--but he shouldn't invite someone in knowing the problems he's already had i.e. everytime he gets a girlfriend his ex turns the kids from him again--he's told me this repeatedly but thinks with me he can work it out. I have to be patient.
2006-08-25 06:16:52 · 4 answers · asked by boonsierra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In light of all this, I still want to know what this guy's story really is. I have someone I can call in his town to check him out but I can't guarantee word won't get back to him, his ex-wife, or children. If he really is dealing with Alienation Syndrome I wouldn't want to cause more problems especially for those poor children.Should I ask about him?
2006-08-25 09:31:31 · update #1
sure sounds like alot of issues. if u really like the guy then hang in there and try and work it out
2006-08-25 06:19:23 · answer #1 · answered by maple_bud_on 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You don't have to be patient. WHen you get into a relationship, there must be a level of trust that I sense iss not here. He was not honest and forthright with you concerning his issues, and that gives you a quick escape clause. 5 months is too long to be held in bondage, so get ou while you can. You are under no obligation to him, based on the relationship you described.
2006-08-25 13:25:33 · answer #2 · answered by Wise ol' owl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chris rock had a song that said something to the effect of if your dating a guy for 6 months and you've never met his friends or family...you are not his girlfriend.
2006-08-25 13:20:07 · answer #3 · answered by scarlet_bat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shake him off and move on, you don't need the baggage.
2006-08-25 13:25:04 · answer #4 · answered by teulonbranchlibrary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋