He says that's how he is but its nerve wracking. if i say the sky is blue...he'll say its green. he says i just want him to always agree with him and if i dispute him he says i'm being a b*tch. he says that i want to control him but i don't. i want to be in control of myself. we can't go a whole week without an argument. the only time we don't argue is when we have sex. i'm just tired from all of the debating.
2006-08-25 06:09:27 · 17 answers · asked by Cynamin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there are guys that can't just accept losing especially over a girl. when you're both in good mood, talk to each other. agree on something when you have misunderstandings/ debating. make compromises. if you want to stay in the relationship, you just have to give up on some debates and let him be right even if you believe you're correct. eventually he'll realize that you're right and he'll apologize. most relationships entail a lot of compromises and sacrifices, unfortunately.
2006-08-25 06:16:21 · answer #1 · answered by annika23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So turn the tables on him. Shock him. When you're having sex start an argument of how he's not doing something right. Be a b*tch! If he's doing it too hard tell him to be gentle. If he's going to slow tell him to go faster. Take control of the situation. If he doesn't like it, oh well. You're a b*tch right?
2006-08-25 06:14:53 · answer #2 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are debative creatures by nature, thats a good trait, however a man must know WHO, WHAT, HOW, WHERE, and why about debating. A man in constant debate with his woman is a sign of insecurity. Are you smarter than him? Does he not work, and you do? Somewhere along the line, he feels inferior to you. Let him know that YOU are not his competion. Peace
2006-08-25 06:18:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants to control you and maybe he was brought up that way, that men has to always right and in control. But you need to let him know it dont work like that. Next time when you guys debate you should say. "yes sweetie you are sooooo right and i agree with everything you say" be very sarcastic with him, he will start thinking. its like he wants to challenge everything you say, but now he will know there is no challenge and will learn to listen. I hope this work caused it worked for me.
2006-08-25 06:16:47 · answer #4 · answered by Oh Boy!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we're probably the same...we don't want a yes man...there's no challenge to a yes man. with a guy who can debate with you, that's a challenge...now there will come a time that you will get tired of it...but believe me, if you break up with him...you will get a guy who is exactly like him....and don't even attempt to change him, girl u will just get frustrated...i say if sex is good....just continue on with the debate...just tell him to tone down the name calling...that's not acceptable...
2006-08-25 06:15:36 · answer #5 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if he is trying to control you. Sex will never keep a serious relationship going, find someone more secure in his own manhood.
2006-08-25 06:13:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl... You are debating right back...Just end each conversation with WHATEVER I DONT CARE LETS DROP IT... and eventually he will get the idea not to carry on in such a way.
2006-08-25 06:11:59 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is debating side bar stuff that you didn't even bring up, then he lacks confidence in you. You may want to send him packing or else you'll find yourself wanting to do things that make no sense only to please him!
2006-08-25 06:16:47 · answer #8 · answered by Curt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like it's time to find another man...why waste each others time!
2006-08-25 06:17:11 · answer #9 · answered by latina44572002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he smiles when you fight he just likes how you look when your mad but if he says you are acting like a _ _ _ _ _ then hes not the right guy for you
2006-08-25 06:13:46 · answer #10 · answered by dely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋