Ive been dating a girl for 6 months. Im very in love with her. I found out she has been lying to me about keeping in touch with her ex. To my knowledge she hasnt seen him but has been speaking to him and telling me she has not. Should I stay or Should i go?
2006-08-25 06:08:49 · 17 answers · asked by justinrobert456 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-08-25 06:11:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar situation sort of.
My gf and I were together for almost two years but for the last 6 months of that she was away for school. We kept getting into arguments on the phone and stuff was just hard but we kept saying we loved each other and that it was only because of the distance and being away from each other.
She came home one weekend and broke up with me because she said it wasn't working right now. She said she needed time to think and focus on other things but that maybe in the future we will get back together.
Well I found out two weeks later she had slept with some guy at her school a week after we broke up and this guy had lied to her about things. She has sinced found out that he lied and I was there when she came back home. We hung out for about a month and then tried to make things work again.
We have now been together for 3 months again and she tells me that she realizes the mistake she made and that it will definitely never happen again. She said being away from me made her realize just what a special guy I was and just how much she truly wanted to be with me.
We are currently more in love than before and have even been talking about getting engaged. Do I still think about what happened? Sure who wouldn't. I trust her again however and that is what is important in all of this. I know she will see this guy this weekend when she has to go up for some work training but I trust her. (I definitely don't trust him as he has proven to be a liar).
so pretty much what I am saying is that tell her how you feel. Tell her you are upset that she still talks to him and that she lied about it. Ask her flat out if she wants to be with you or him. If she says you tell her you trust her and that you trust you will do the best thing for the relationship and not talk to her ex anymore.
If she can't do that then its probably not meant to be.
Relationships are about sacrifices. If she can't sacrifice an ex for you, then she really shouldn't be in a relationship right now.
Good luck and hope everything works out.
2006-08-25 07:18:24 · answer #2 · answered by CJ B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad for you. Lying is the worst. My sister is engaged and her fiance lives in Dallas. Her so called ex just moved in with her and he is lying to her fiance saying she doens't talk to him. Well her fiance and I don't talk anymore because I tried to tell him about this and he said I just didn't want them to be happy. I really dispise liars. My husband is lucky I married him after he lied to me about speaking and seeing his ex. Honestly, If I ever find out he is cheating I am gone. Now for you...If you can try to forgive her this once then you should...yes you will have your gaurd up for a while, but if she lies again then leave. There is no room for lying in a relationship. It is going to be hard to trust at first. Explain that to her. It will be difficult but if you care about her then try to forgive her and move on. Don't get upset with her. Life is too short for being upset. Take care.
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2006-08-25 06:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by { Me } 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let me let you in on a little secret. There are lots of girls that would lie about something like this, because you would be so upset if she had told you that she was talking to her ex. You would have jumped to conclusions that she was cheating and it is probably just an innocent little chat. You will have to decide if you stay or go.
2006-08-25 06:15:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have some personal experience with this one... My girl and i are togeather now for a year, and up until our 4 month point she still SAW her ex, its hard for people to move on... But if shes not cheating on u your fine, she will get over him and u cant rush her, most of the time it takes half the time of the relationship to get over your ex if u date for 2 years it takes a year to get over them. Your girlfriend IS with YOU now not him, just cause they talk is no big deal, i waited for my girl to get over the other guy and guess what we are two of the happiest people in the world, just talk to her bud and say it bothers you alot and if she really cares for u shell put it in the past and give you 100% of her attention. if you have any more questions about this please email me i can shead more light on this for you. Good luck!
2006-08-25 06:17:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you trust her than stay with her if not then don't. I was talking to someone and I lied about what I looked like and then when I got the guts to tell him the truth I messed it all up because he wouldn't forgive me. I really regreted it, but he did not care so I guess what I mean is its up to you the ball is on your court!
2006-08-25 06:16:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how'd you find out? well, I guess it doesn't really matter how you did, but personally i would talk with her about it. tell her you know about it, calmly and rationally. If you love her, then you should be able to trust her right? I don't think talking to her ex would be a big deal though. I don't know, it's your relationship. hope this helps, good luck! I hope things work out.
2006-08-25 06:12:45 · answer #7 · answered by broadwaystar162002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has been lying to you, there is a major trust issue that may never go away. You might be smart to leave her now before it hurts you anymore!!
2006-08-25 06:15:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends... Do you trust her?
Did she ever cheat on anyone before...If she has cheated before, she will do it again... So that is enough reason NOT to trust her, and a GOOD reason to leave her NOW.
2006-08-25 06:10:49 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
run for the hills, she still has feelings, yo'll be making the biggest mistake of your life if you stay, say you get her pregnant, and she still loves him, its just an accident waiting to happen, please, dont let it happen, things like that never change, they are always bad new, for all 3 of you
2006-08-25 06:11:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋