Question for Mothers about how many kids are ok?

Question

I personally think it is wrong for any family to have more than 3 children. Ou nation is highly overpopulated and most of the people that have more than three are just too broke or too dumb to use birth control and thus have more redneck / white trash children.
I know there are exceptions to this rule, but why would anyone feel that they deserve to have more than 3 children or even want them?

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i do not think it should be regulated.!! I think people should make a conscious decision to not add to the problems we as a world and a nation already face. It is not about if you can afford to feed your children. If you do the research you would find that the majority of families with more than three kids are in the below middle class income!!!! I am saying why are we all so selfish!! Do we actually think of the outcome of our actions.

Answer 1

Talk about a hot button question!

Some people feel they have a right to have as many children as they want and can have. Trying to convince them otherwise is like talking to a rock. My wife an I had 3 children and felt that was enough and basically, our fair share. But I think you are right. The people who are better educated tend to have fewer children than those who aren't so educated. It's not the education, of course. It's the mental capability of the people involved.

Answer 2

I think one boy and one girl is perfect (for me anyway,) but we don't get to select the sex of our children and it doesn't always turn out that way. I say have as many kids as you want, as long as you can take care of them and afford them. I think we would be living in a dictatorship if the number of children we could have was limited by the government. If someone is having a lot of kids while at the same time living on welfare, I don't think that is right or fair to those kids or anyone else. Should we say that no one should have five kids because of Andrea Yates? I don't think a nutjob like her should be a determining factor. Anyway, I think it is a personal choice, and it seems like more and more people are deciding not to have children at all. So I think we need to think about that as well. I understand what you are saying, although the language you used to get your point across was offensive and I think there will be some nasty responses. When you use words like "dumb" and "white trash" you are guaranteed to instill anger in people. There are nicer ways to ask a question without being so offensive and abrasive.

Answer 3

Well the issue is there's no way control how many kids people have, I believe it's called FREEDOM. Also, I am not totally convinced of overpopulation yet...I read a study that showed the main problem is so many people live in completely inhospitable places.

You should never give up a person's fredom of choice....instead educate people on the drawbacks of having a large family.

The government could step in and legislate it a bit...for example I do agree that if you cannot afford to have a child, you shouldn't, so maybe we look at the welfare system in our country that is supporting large families.

My thought is if you are on welfare already, and you become pregnant with another child, your welfare and government assistance should not increase just because you got pregnant again. It should stay the same amount at the point the mother signed up for it.

Maybe that would encourage financially poor women to not keep getting pregnant and expect the government to step in and help.

But i disagree with the thought you should limit how many kids a woman should have, because there's simply no way to enforce it unless you do what China does, which is completely inhumane.

Answer 4

I see what you are saying.
It is a fact that people whose intelligence ranks higher have fewer if any children than the average person. Im not sure why that is but i read this article about it. I think if we cared more about our kids futures we would realize that the more people are here the faster we are going to destroy the earth with trash and pollution and development to house your 10 children and the 50 more they create .. STOP being selfish you rabbitt type breeders and start thinking about the bigger picture!!! NOt just your own world.

The United States is now the third largest nation in the world, with some 285 million people out of a world total of six billion.
We have destroyed most of America’s forest cover (replacing a small fraction of it with biologically impoverished tree farms) and are busily struggling to log the last of the old growth forests in the Northwest

Answer 5

I come from a mother who had 5 sibling and a father who had 6. I understand why it would be a good thing to have a large family. I applaud those who do have large families in this day and age. The only time that I have a problem with it is when you have parents who are uneducated about birth control, don't care for the kids they already have or just have more children to continue to take advantage of the Welfare system. This, I find is the rarety. I know more families who have large families by choice and are able to give them good lives. But regardless or your opinions or mine, who are we to tell anyone how many children anyone should or should not have?

Answer 6

Personally I don't think that it is for you to judge.

People are entitled to have as many children as they want. It is a family decision.

We just have to pray that they have the common sense to know when they can afford more and when it is time to stop.

I really think that it is rude to generalize, stating that "most of the people that have more than three are just too broke or too dumb to use birth control and thus have more redneck / white trash children."

I don't think that is true.. people with only one child can be so called "white trash".
It really doesn't matter.

Answer 7

My theory is if you can afford 1 girl and 1 boy you can afford 10 . I come from a family of 4 children and my husband is from a family of 10 children. We are foster parents but we have 3 kids of our own for now! We wanted 10 kids but had only 2 before I had to have an operation because of cervical cancer. In May we adopted one of our foster children who we have had since he was 10 months old he is now 6 yrs old. We know we will adopt more kids because we want more kids. My husband has his own business ( 20 yrs) and we can afford to have a big family without anybody having to sacrifice themselves. We live in a 5 bedroom house and we have enough room to live happily without anybody getting underfoot. I believe it is every RESPONSIBLE couples right to have as many children as they can afford to raise.
We are not dumb or rednecks and our children ages 22 18 and 6 have never been in trouble our daughter is in college and our son is in his last year on high school, they both have full time jobs that work around their schooling. NOBODY has the right to tell responsible people how many children they can have.

Answer 8

I know everyone has the right to their own opinions. But who are you to be the one to decide or judge who should have whatever # of kids. Children are a gift from GOD, and just b/c anyone may have more children than 2, doesn't mean they are rednecks or white trash!! Normally the one that is asking question like this to another person are the ones to be making the mistakes. Feeling guilty for something, but feel to relieve some of that guilt, people have to accuse others of something. How many kids do you have?

Answer 9

While I tend to agree that we need to watch our population growth, people have various reasons for having more than 1.5 children. Belief structures regarding reproducing (religion, etc.) play a part, too. I'm pro-choice, and pro-family -- it's not up to me or anyone else to dictate how many children a family has (or doesn't have) -- that's why it's important for government to not regulate reproductive rights, or else we could end up in a situation like China. My only hope with those with large families is that they care for their children, are loving and supporting to all they have in their family, and they contribute to society in a positive way, just as I would hope any one would, children or not.

By the way, I happened to get pregnant when on the pill when I was 34. We were not expecting it, an herbal supplement I was taking interacted with the pill's effectiveness (St. John's Wort) -- and my GYN knew I was on the St. John's Wort (at the time, (1999) it wasn't known that it over metabolized certain medications). Our son is almost 7, and for two people who "never" wanted children, we've changed our tune. But -- we took the necessary means to ensure we didn't have another (he got a vas) -- but I know of couples who have had such procedures who still end up pregnant.

Answer 10

How about - as many as you can love and provide for - you can't put your personal views off on others about how many children they're entitled to...some religions teach against birth control since God put man and woman here to procreate. I know quite a few very well off families with well over 3 kids - and the kids have new cars, travel the world, college educations, and are happy, healthy, and well loved by both parents - who are still married to each other. Some people just have more love to give than others and they are the ones who would understand why one may want more than 3 children.