I said to myself, my friends and the guy himself you seem so perfect, 30 y/o, very attractive, great job, close, good family...what's wrong w/him? So I asked if he had been married or had kids (which wouldn't be a complete dealbreaker but would still create some issues) and his answer was that he had once been engaged and would go into details at some point in time. Well, through the magic of online court documents (I use it for work) found out he has in fact been divorced. B/4 I confront him on this (if at all) I would like to find out more. First of all, should I confront him? If so, how? Any advice on finding out people's whereabouts w/o spending money or hiring a PI? Also, I think she was a reserve called to active duty so is there any way to find out if she is still in, discharged or even killed?
2006-08-25 05:35:06 · 8 answers · asked by Kyppa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
MARRIAGE IS NOT SOMETHING YOU SHOULD LIE ABOUT. IF HE LIED THERE IS A CHANCE HE IS STILL MARRIED, HE MIGHT EVEN HAVE CHILDREN THAT YOU DON'T KNOW ABOUT. I WOULD LEAVE HIM ALONE IF I WERE YOU.
2006-08-25 05:42:49 · answer #1 · answered by FRECKLES 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got some serious issues. I never understood the whole divorced thing. A divorce is something that occurs when two people conclude that being in a relationship together is not the best thing for them. It doesn't mean the guy is no longer perfect. Its just that plain and simple. The fact that it didn't work out between them doesn't mean it won't work out between the both of you. If something like this bothers you that much than don't put his hopes up because he might feel you're perfect. He will explain to you when he is ready. Give him time only if you think he is worth it. And, if you care about him don't tell him you 'googled' him. He will be upset. Don't worry about his ex, she's an ex for a reason. Best of luck to you.
2006-08-25 12:47:28 · answer #2 · answered by KelFrances 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... I would talk to him! Or else type her name in under www.whitepages.com and see if she has a telephone number. Did it make you feel better digging into his past that he may not want to share at this moment? He told you he will give you details later. Sounds like you have trust issues.
2006-08-25 12:47:02 · answer #3 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all confront him abot it, if he's being dishonest with you then that's something that could bring trouble later on in your relationship. don't stalk him! it would be even more weird and awkward if he finds out you're giving him a whole background check! just be calm and let him tell you the truth.
2006-08-25 12:42:00 · answer #4 · answered by luxxx ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your going borderline stalker here. Just chill, maybe it was a very bad mistake. Give him a chance to explain.
2006-08-25 12:40:57 · answer #5 · answered by not meant to be tamed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say a divorce is a divorce. It's no big deal unless of course in cases of cheating, abuse, stealing...etc.
Maybe if she did die, it's very painful for him to mention. Let him come to you in his own time.
2006-08-25 12:41:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been dating him ? Dont you think your going over board here ?? I say if your gut is telling you that you need to do these things then this guy is not for you.
2006-08-25 12:40:33 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him but why are you so suspicious and dont trust him.
2006-08-25 12:41:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋