Here's the deal. My best friend went out with my boyfriend's friend for a while and now they're broken up. It's only been two weeks since the breakup. Now she's interested in another one of my boyfriend's friends. I don't think she should start seeing him because I think it will look bad right away. Plus her relationships never last very long anyway. If it doesn't work out with the new guy, what's next? A third friend of my boyfriend's! How do I tell her that my boyfriend and I don't want to hook her up with the new guy without hurting her feelings. I just don't want her to be known as the girl who gets around, and I don't want it to cause problems for me and my boyfriend too.
2006-08-25 05:34:05 · 12 answers · asked by Lola S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The probability of complications, and potentially very nasty ones, is going to rise every time she trades off for another one of your boyfriend's friends.
Did it ever occur to you that she's doing this in either a conscious or sub-conscious attempt to get at *your* boyfriend? What is the status of your boyfriend's and *her* relationship to eachother? What does your boyfriend think of her and her actions?
Secondly, why does it bother you? I'm not saying it should or shouldn't, necessarily, but a good starting point is finding out why you feel the way you do...
2006-08-25 05:41:41 · answer #1 · answered by TurboLover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it would definitely cause problems between you and your boyfriend so you better talk to her soonest.
You have to let her know the consequences of her actions. Let her feel that you're telling her these to protect her and that you really care as her friend so she doesn't get offended. Also, make her aware that there are guys that think of her as someone who's easy. It's not a very good way to protect her image. Let her know also that you don't want to cause troubles between you, your boyfriend and her.
2006-08-25 05:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by annika23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her gently about it, because your boyfriend could get annoyed that your best friend is dating and breaking-up with all of his buddies. Not only that, but she doesn't want to be looked at like some sort of man-eater! Seriously, sit her down (you alone, I'd say) and discuss it with her. Only be firm if she takes it offensively. If it doesn't work, let her get on with it and say you'll have no part in it, though. She'll soon forget about those guys and move on - hopefully!
2006-08-25 05:41:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st ask yourself, are you concerned for your friend, or are you just trying to control her situation so it doesn't cause you any embarasment? If it were me I would butt out & let her do what she needs to do. Just because she has her eye on another one of your B.F's friends doen't mean that you have to be involved.
Let her approach this guy on her own. If she's met him already, she'll probably do that with or without your approval anyway.
2006-08-25 05:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sincerely, i think zat u shud tell her ze whole true. Eventhough, u will hurt her feelings n mayb she will be angry wiz u 4 smetimes bt i think zat honesty is ze best policy, so better tel her everything rite nw n b 3 frm any further tensions. N mayb, she will understand u.
2006-08-25 05:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by shahine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit her down and talk to her if it bothers you that much and if she's a real friend she will understand it's not always a good thing to match make.
2006-08-25 05:38:50 · answer #6 · answered by endigogirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just tell her you know i think you should stop dating for a while just su you can regroup or somethin like that
2006-08-25 05:39:39 · answer #7 · answered by lover8564 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you don't think this guy is good for her.
2006-08-25 05:40:57 · answer #8 · answered by CC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you friend wants to be a set ho!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-25 06:00:06 · answer #9 · answered by jelly b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares as long as it isn't ruining your relationship
2006-08-25 05:37:13 · answer #10 · answered by KrIsTyN 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋