About 3 months ago, on the exact same day, I met 2 women, seperately. They are both amazing women. They have both unfortunately also decided to dedicate themselves to me.
I have not taken advantage of the situation in anyway. I'm not sleeping with them, or playing them for money or anything. I am a single father with full custody of my son, and they both would make a great mother figure for my son. So now I'm in a quandry.
I am looking for input from people (Men or women) who have been in similiar situations and what they did to make their decisions. I dont want any BS answers please. Just answers from people who have BEEN THERE.
2006-08-25 05:29:43 · 11 answers · asked by yawn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK.... so you have a tough choice... sit down and figure out which one you enjoy being with more.... which one makes you smile more, feel great about yourself and life, and which one you would not want to live with out... choose that one and let the other one down easy... don't drag it out and wait too long... the longer you wait the more the other one will be hurt... and if you procrastinate too long you will be guilty of taking advantage of the situation... not because your sleeping with them but because you are leading one of them on and she could be investing her time and feelings into someone that will return her feelings long term....and your betraying the other... while boosting your own ego... its not fair to them , and you would most likely not like it in reverse... decide..... lol... good luck!
2006-08-25 05:38:47 · answer #1 · answered by Ms Fortune 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you should just put all your attention to your son and everything else will just fall into place.
It is hard to be a single parent and want to date, but the harder thing to do is to not look for a partner that will replace the mother or father that the child already has. When parents do this sometimes it ends in trouble with the child.
I hope that made sense.
If you are worried about how the person is going to be around your child, maybe you should do things with the child, you and the other women but not at the same time ..
For example : going to the park for a picknic, just make sure that you don't ignore your child for the womans sake.
I wish you luck, no one can tell you how to decide which woman is best for you or how you should pick which one you want to be in serious relationship with.
2006-08-25 12:38:39 · answer #2 · answered by Not a Daddys Girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been in the same situation and it was no fun feeling for two people. You have to remember you don't know these women yet. Take your time to get to know them both so you can make a more conscious decision. This will also effect your sons life so you have to choose someone who has (future stay ability).
Find out if they have the same future plans and dreams as you do and take it from there.
2006-08-25 12:41:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They both may be great women but there has to be one that stands out. Look for the little things like when you envision yourself coming home from work, who is there to greet you? Who makes you smile more, who do you have the most fun with, who is the one you just can't wait to talk to, who is willing to compromise and work through things with you, who has touched you in ways that no other has, and most importantly, who is the one you can't see yourself living without. These are the questions that helped me and I hope they will do the same for you. I applaud the fact that you are a stand up man and are not trying to play either of them. I hope you find the happiness that you deserve.
2006-08-25 12:42:35 · answer #4 · answered by Isis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first let me say I aplod you for stepping up and taking your son... not many men would. As for your situation with the two woman I would talk to them seperatly let them know that you are looking to be serious with some one and would like to have a mother figure for your son. Let them decide if they want to be that woman.
2006-08-25 12:43:07 · answer #5 · answered by :)*taurus tease*(: 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Choose the third one.....ME!
All joking aside. Yes I have been in that situation. Your heart must be choosing one over the other and maybe you head (the one on top of your neck) is choosing the other. Listen to your heart and please don't string either one of them along. It only makes it worse. Good luck dude.
2006-08-25 12:40:29 · answer #6 · answered by Jill P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I am in a similar situation. I am dating a married guy who I was with for 2 years, 4 years prior to his marriage. He went away to college and we lost touch. Since he has been married he has been extremely unhappy. I showed up 2 years into his marriage and he has been seeing me ever since. I have told him time and time again, you need to think about yourself, who would you be happier with, who do you want to have children with, share your life with...I told him I was not going to pull him away from his marriage that it was his decision. He is currently getting his finances together and trying to get out of debt before he divorces her. She knows he is leaving as well, and she knows me. It sounds messed up I know, but its love and what can you do. So I think the best answer for you is, you have to think about yourself, and your kid in this instance, and think who would be best? who do i want to be with forever? who would i be happier with? only you know the answer to these questions, and you have to follow your heart. yes someone will get hurt in the situation but thats life....and love is well....screwed up....hope this helps...good luck
2006-08-25 12:37:07 · answer #7 · answered by darcilynn83 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
please choose one, its good that your not sleeping with them because it makes the situation worse...you can stay with one and be friends with the other.. but don't play don't both because it would hurt you and it would most definetely hurt them the worst.. your the only one that actually can decide betwwen both because you actually know them.. i guess what you can do is compare their personalities and then decide
2006-08-25 12:44:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to figure out which one of them you love. If you don't lover her don't be with her.
2006-08-25 12:33:54 · answer #9 · answered by ѕомєопєѕ▪ ваву ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you can't decide, perhaps it's because neither of them is right for you.
2006-08-25 12:32:12 · answer #10 · answered by Emily 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋