My boyfriend and I have been going together for about a year and a half. He moved to a bigger city near my hometown. When I would want to see him, he always came to my town, I never went up there. I recently found out he has been living with a girl up there and he calls her his girlfriend. Now he wants me to forgive him, but he's still living with her. I want him, but I dont trust him anymore. Any advice?
2006-08-25 05:22:11 · 12 answers · asked by caress2005 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a very touchy situation. I was married nearly 5 years and during that time, my wife had 4 affairs. But I forgave her every time. Apparently, my love was stronger than hers, and she eventually left. I am a firm believer that if you truly love someone, you can forgive anything. However, something I came to realize later was that it may become a safety issue for you.
I didnt think about it at the time, but an unfaithful partner may unintentionally infect you with someone they didnt have to begin with. I was lucky in that it didnt happen to me.
If you truly love this man, you should be able to forgive any transgression. However, dont let it hurt you or anyone around you. Take a good long look at the situation and decide if you are safe in continuing.
2006-08-25 05:40:19 · answer #1 · answered by yawn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on to better things, for your own good.
If he ask for your forgiveness and still live with that girl, that just means he is just brushing you off with words. If he is truly sorry about what he did, he would move out and have nothing to do with that girl before he seek your forgiveness. Asking for forgiveness and still does the same thing with that girl mean he does not respect you at all.
Having that kind of man as your boyfriend will not have a good relationship, you are looking at the scum of man. Find someone that is truthful and sincere and treat you better. There are tons of good boys out there that will treat you better.
Forget about him, you deserve better
2006-08-25 12:31:34 · answer #2 · answered by thsiung 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hell no. My want for him would go right down the tubes after finding that out. Your whole relationship was nothing but a lie. I would never be able to forgive. Never.
2006-08-25 12:27:57 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he's still living with her then you will always be the other woman and do you really want that, i very much doubt it. You know you have to dump him but your scared of getting hurt and losing him, but hasn't he hurt you enough all really. get out now and move on, find someone who deserves you and respects you enough to stay faithful.
2006-08-25 12:28:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So he basically had two girlfriends at the time. I wouldn't trust him. He was living with her and looks like he was playing you both.
2006-08-25 12:27:43 · answer #5 · answered by ѕомєопєѕ▪ ваву ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move on. If he REALLY loves you and cares about you, he won't do such a stupid thing to you.
believe me... i've been there. I wanted to get him back soooo bad, but i couldn't trust him either... but i realized that there are MANY guys who would NEVER EVER cheat on you.
you will find a much better person who really really loves you in the future. ALL my friends told me to "move on. you'll find a better person." I thought it won't fit me. but it did. it will fit you too..
Good luck.
2006-08-25 12:34:09 · answer #6 · answered by makerunanrk 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move on. It's for your own good. Once the trust has been broken it is VERY unlikely that it will ever be regained.
2006-08-25 12:28:45 · answer #7 · answered by Isis 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find happiness and love within yourself, then share what you have found with someone special.
2006-08-25 12:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by joeyruiz74 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
forget him and move on with your life hes using you.Even if he left his girlfriend then what do you think he will do to you.The same thing.He is not trustworthy.And you deserve better than that.
2006-08-25 12:26:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No. He was lying and cheating. How much lower can you get.
2006-08-25 12:26:56 · answer #10 · answered by not meant to be tamed 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋