On how I can get the right guy? No one ever seems to be exactly what I look for in a guy & I'm starting to wonder is this, "as good as it gets?"
2006-08-25 05:19:48 · 17 answers · asked by xkitenx1982 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hmmm lol promising
2006-08-25 05:24:24 · update #1
rocco honey, i never said i was perfect darl. some men i have dated do drugs, drink, have wierd habbits.... i don't want these in my partner! Looks don't matter to me, we only get old and frail, its humour that ales me.
My point being to all, is it worth spending a happy and fruitful life alone and secure or compromising with mother fate and saying i do to someone you almost suit and live a shared life?
hope that's more to the point lol
2006-08-25 05:28:43 · update #2
I think it depends on what you are looking for. If you are looking a Greek god with a sweet and wonderful personality that respects women and adores only you, you have probably set your expectations pretty high.
I was alone for about 3 years before I met my boyfriend and he was just "the one" from the beginning. He isn't perfect, but he is perfect for me!! You have to think about what it is you really want, and be open to people you might not think are right to begin with. Take a chance on someone you might not think is right and you might be surprised. Good Luck!
2006-08-25 05:27:27 · answer #1 · answered by Christina 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only you know who is exactly right for you. Your patience is running short. Why is that? Are you sensing that your criteria may be set unrealistically high? Perhaps you really don't want to find someone but enjoy the game of looking, finding, and rationalizing rejection. To "settle" mentally will doom any relationship because you are starting out believing that he is already inferior. He will soon figure this out too. Automatic failure. Look into your heart deeply and honestly. He will appear when you least expect it. Drop your guard and let him in.
2006-08-25 12:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by SilverFox 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YOU SEEM TO BE LOOKING FOR A FANTASY IDEAL.
YOUR METHOD IS FLAWED. TOO "COOKIE-CUTTER".
LOSE YOUR "CRITERIA" DO NOT TRY TO SQUEEZE ANYONE INTO IT.
PAY MORE ATTENTION TO GUYS WHO HAVE 3 CHARACTERISTICS:
1-EMPATHY. (THEY ACCEPT YOUR PERSPECTIVE AND HAVE COMPASSION).
2-COURTEOUS (THEY ARE AWARE OF THE PERCEPTION OF OTHERS AND RESPECT THEM).
3-SELF-ASSURED (THEY DO NOT PROJECT INSECURITIES)
NO MATTER HOW GOOD-LOOKING A GUY IS, WHAT HE DOES FOR A LIVING, HOW MUCH MONEY OR TOYS HE HAS, HOW GREAT HE TELLS YOU HE IS, BWARE THESE QUALITIES:
1-"ENTITLEMENT SYNDROME". YOU KNOW THIS TYPE. THE WORLD OWES THEM SOMETHING AND SHOULD CATER TO THEM.
2-"PROFESSIONAL VICTIMS". NOTHING IS EVER THEIR FAULT AND THEY CAN EXPLAIN EVERYTHING.
3-"NARCISSISTIC"-THEY REFUSE TO SEE BEYOND THEIR OWN PERSPECTIVE.
4-"APPROVAL JUNKIES". THEY MEASURE A PERSON'S WORTH BY SUPERFICIAL AND MATERIALISTIC MEANS. THEY NEED TO IMPRESS OTHERS THEY DO NOT CARE ABOUT, DON'T KNOW, AND WILL NEVER SEE AGAIN.
5-"NEEDIES". THEY ARE PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE AND HOLD YOU RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR OWN FEELINGS.
6-"POSERS". THEIR WHOLE ATTITUDE IS "I CAN MAKE YOU LIKE ME BY SHOWING YOU HOW COOL I AM". THEY DO NOT LET YOU MAKE UP YOUR OWN MIND ABOUT THEM.
MAYBE YOU SHOULD RELAX A LITTLE ON FINDING A GUY TO FIT YOUR NEEDS. YOU ARE LIMITING YOURSELF GREATLY. MAYBE YOU COULD TRY FULFILLING YOURSELF BY MASTERING A SKILL OR TALENT. MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY SO OTHERS WILL WANT TO SHARE THAT WITH YOU. QUIT BEING SO RIGID ABOUT HOW YOU THINK SOMEONE SHOULD BE, AND BEFREIND MANY GUYS AND GET TO KNOW WHO THEY ARE. WHEN YOU START TO SEE WHERE THEIR ACTIONS AND BEHAVIOR MATCH WHAT THEY SAY THEY FEEL (OR NOT), YOU WILL BEGIN TO SPOT THE MORE GENUINE AND SINCERE GUYS. GO FROM THERE. FOCUS ON THEM, BUT BE AWARE OF HOW YOU FEEL WHEN YOU ARE AROUND THEM. DO YOU FEEL RELAXED OR ANXIOUS?
REMEMBER NOT EVERYONE THINKS JUST LIKE YOU DO. THEY DON'T HAVE TO. BUT CAN YOU ACCEPT THEM OR RESPECT THEIR SCHOOL OF THOUGHT? IF YOU WANT A CARBON COPY OF YOURSELF, GO VOLUNTEER TO HAVE YOUR BRAIN CLONED. OTHERWISE, APPRECIATE THE DIFFERENCES OTHER PEOPLE HAVE.
2006-08-25 13:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't settle. I know it's frustrating, but just don't settle.
I settled, and ended up getting married and then divorced. If it isn't what you want, and it doesn't really make you happy, then it isn't worth it. Having a family with a man who's only okay is NOT worth it!
2006-08-25 12:23:42 · answer #4 · answered by alliekittie18 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unless your patient and willing to wait for your criteria to be met you have to take what you get. Plus you have to adventure out and exhaust all means to find the perfect guy in your eyes and mind
2006-08-25 12:23:15 · answer #5 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know exactly what you mean. I'm wondering the same thing. It's not that there aren't options, lots of options, but they just aren't for me. I just get bored easily.
2006-08-25 12:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Or are you just too picky. Try chatrooms, get to know him before you meet and once you fancy or are attracted to his personality you will find it easier being attracted to his looks.
2006-08-25 12:23:13 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you got the beauty...but you too proud of it..so never the other person betterness..so you ppl are always losing...and feel..as good as it gets...and too much experimentation takes a harmful stand on you...
2006-08-25 12:29:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
write down exactly WHAT you want in your potential partner and then say your affirmations 200000000000 times a day " I have found my soul mate"...
2006-08-25 12:28:34 · answer #9 · answered by erica 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dont feel anyone should ever "settle". Maybe its where your looking that is the problem.
2006-08-25 12:23:19 · answer #10 · answered by joeyruiz74 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋