How do I know if my boyfriend is a homosexual?

Question

I recently found some male porn magazines in my boyfriends house as well as some anal toys. Could this mean he is gay?

Answer 1

do u ever catch him making sex with males?

Answer 2

I could be very indelicate here, but I won't be.

I believe, and maybe I'm just spit-balling here, that if a lady finds devices designed for anal penetration in the company of all-male pornography under her boyfriend's bed, he's either been set up or he has/is/soon-will-be substituting those toys for something attached to another man.

Woody Allen is reputed to have said that "bisexuality is great because it doubles your chances for a date on Saturday night," and I, as a gay male, have certainly had my share of married or otherwise occupied-with-women beefcake. So it happens, and probably more than you know, or even *want* to know.

Do you have a gay friend? Introduce them. He'll tell you in an instant if he is, if he has any gay-dar at all. You could ask him, but this is going to be a tricky deal. First, you've been snooping around in his house, which he probably isn't going to like. He is likely to be embarrassed/angry about "being caught," as it were, and could very well take it out on you in some fashion.

However, I think it important for you to know if he is actually having sex with other men, or if this is just a fantasy that has been unfulfilled, if for no other reason than the HIV issue...

Answer 3

Unfortunately he appears to be quite gay - you could have stopped with the male porn. I think it would also be a good idea to get tested, immediately. I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 4

Why don't you ask him? What were you snooping around in his house for? People who do that NEVER find anything that makes them feel GOOD about the person they're spying on. Open communication is the key to good relationships. I think you should give this one up, and start fresh, with a new set of principles for yourself.

Answer 5

You will have to ask him yourself. Then you will have to explain how you came about you finding his stash.
Chances are he is bi sexual and just likes the stimulation the toys can bring. No big deal.
If you can't handle it...move on. If you can the two of you will have more enjoyment in your private lives.

Answer 6

I would hazard the chances of him being gay, or at least bisexual at 95%.
Talk to him. If he is gay, then he needs to realize that pretending to be straight, or trying to suppress his sexuality is not fair to you, any other woman, or himself. Dont judge him. He has a lot of issues to deal with, and he doesnt need to be embarassed over them.
Good luck.

Answer 7

He could be bi, or he could just enjoy anal stimulation, which doesn't explain the porn, but some situations are unusual.

Answer 8

Pretty much.. What you need to do is keep an eye on him. Get one of your male friends to call him and and put an act on to see if he really likes men. Let me know what happens afterwards.;D

Answer 9

yeah, that's pretty gay. unless he has another female partner that enjoys the toys...that wouldn't explain the male porn tho...that settles it, he's fantasizing about men and enjoying himself. gay.

Answer 10

Well, it certainly means he is curious about it. Some men are bisexual too. You need to tell him what you found and ask him what is going on and then decide how you feel about his answer.

Never assume anything, but always feel free to ask what you need to know.

Answer 11

Maybe you should toss his salad and see how he reacts.... Or hey.. .that's a good way for you to tell him you want a 3-some w/ 2 dudes..lolz He might enjoy more than you!