This guy is the sweetest, most caring guy in the world, but I need to understand him better. First off, this is a very shy, timid and a little naieve by nature. His last relationship, ended with his girlfriend cheating on him and stealing all of the money out of his bank account. We met, and we had an amazing connection, and an almost magnetic attraction, both physical and metal, so there is no problem with that, I know we both each other attractive, but he seems quite scared of commitment, yet says he DOES want to get married and have children 100 percent, and even inquired about if he ever got me pregnant, whether I would keep the baby.
Now I have not heard from him in 2 monthes and retreated into working round the clock, I think he has freaked out we have gotten closer, especially after what happend to him with the last girl.
I would like to wait for him, because he is both a good friend to me, and I love him dearly.
What should i do?
2006-08-25 04:52:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give him space, and pray for him daily. Understand that he need to settle his inner issues first before he could entirely commit into the relationship... be thankful though that he's real honest about his feelings and didn't rush in involving you w/ his problems...
Really pray it is effective.
2006-08-25 05:06:48 · answer #1 · answered by rock firm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that this is a difficult situation because since the last girl he was with destroyed most of his trust and caused him to put up an even bigger guard. This means you will probably to have to reassure him using words and actions even mroe than usual that what you are saying about how you feel is true. I know it's not fair but sometimes when you love someone you have to try a little harder to keep them. If you really love him and ever meant what you said to him don't give up on him now. Doing so would probably reinforce his insecurity of being left again and would probably believe that you never really did care for him. I think the best thing to do is keep trying to work on this relationship and tell him how you feel about it. Try explaining to him that you are not that other girl and you understand that he is so guarded because of his past relationship but if your relationship is going to work out he is going to have to open up to you slowly at some point.
2006-08-25 12:01:06 · answer #2 · answered by ѕомєопєѕ▪ ваву ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 months n still you haven't seen him. It's like 2 centuries wizout food for those who have loved like u did. But i think that u should 4get him because if he was serious n love u enough, he would hve been serious wiz u. N I think that a past bad experience cannot be the shadow of a new relationship. Mayb he hasn't 4get his ex n mayb that's y, he has bihaved like zis 2 u.
2006-08-25 12:12:45 · answer #3 · answered by shahine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been throught the same thing. this is what i did i didnt cal him either because if you keep calling a guy they think that they have you sprung ( even if they do don't act like it) I went about my life like he didnt even exsist but when he called me i answered the phone sometimes. Girl trust me i know what you r going thru it almost drove me crazy but trust me he will come around. Maybe its not you maybe something has happened just try to give him the benifit of the doubt.
2006-08-25 12:02:43 · answer #4 · answered by kellye w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The story he gave you is classic. Honey when you don't hear from a man for 2 months, HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU. If he cared about you now matter what happened in his past he would call you. Trust me, he is with someone else.
2006-08-25 11:57:34 · answer #5 · answered by FRECKLES 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does seem like he got freaked out.
Two months is quite a span of time. I'd say move on.
2006-08-25 12:01:07 · answer #6 · answered by snygrly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No talking in 2 months? I think it is over.
2006-08-25 11:55:36 · answer #7 · answered by hawksfan17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think hes moved on and you missed the boat. But if he has all these issues, maybe he is still trying to deal with them. Why don't you call him and ask him how he is.
2006-08-25 12:03:09 · answer #8 · answered by teulonbranchlibrary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get back to him,make him understand thet u would never cheat him as his first gf did.But be careful it must be by words not deeds...
and make him in such a way that he cannot remain without loving u..
every moment he sits idle your thoughts drop in to his mind...........
he must think u r his world....and now how u do it matters... go ahead u will succeed ...my best wishes,,but u dont cheat him
2006-08-25 12:03:44 · answer #9 · answered by Manu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT MIGHT BE THAT HE DOESN'T WANT A REPEAT OF WHAT HAPPENED TO HIM IN THE PAST BUT U MUST GIVE HIM TIME AND IF HE'S NOT READY FOR A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP THEN WISH HIM LUCK IN THE FUTURE AND MOVE ON
2006-08-25 12:00:36 · answer #10 · answered by tmacbaby80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋