I am currently in a four month relationship with a girl that I love with all of my heart. She is the best thing that has happened to me and I honestly believe that. She's always nice and sweet to me and just everything is so great. The only thing is I told one lie to her and I can't get over it. I let this girl give me a handjob or whatever before we were going out and before I had even met her. We had talked on the phone but I didn't think much and I was nervous because I had never met her. It was the first time I had ever had a girl mess with me or whatever. I told her that she just grabbed it or whatever but it was a little more than that. I am still and virgin but I can't get over not telling the whole truth. I don't want things to change between us because of this or anything that's why I'm afraid to tell. ( it's in the past and it was before we met but I dunno I think about it everyday and I regret lieing but I'm scared to tell the truth) I worry about it a lot.
2006-08-25 04:52:15 · 7 answers · asked by John 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I were you I would tell her the truth because if you don't your relationship will not last. If you love her as much as you say you do she has a right to know. And if she loves you she will be happy that you told the truth about the situation. I'll let you know from experience you tell one lie it won't stop there, so you need to come clean now and you both will be able to move on in your relationship instead of you being unhappy because you lied to her.
2006-08-25 05:08:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot to consider. First, a solid relationship is built on trust. Second, the past is in the past and cannot be changed. Further more, we all have them (a past), some more, um, colorful than others. Obviously you care about this girl so I think the right thing to do is come clean. You probably shouldn't have said anything to begin with and just let sleeping dogs lie with this other girl (assuming it was just a thing and there are no feelings either way) but that is not an option here now. You can't tell lies and expect your partner to be completely straight with you. If you choose not to tell her the whole truth, that's your choice but you have got to let go of your regret. It was a mistake. We all make them. Your girlfriend has made them. You will make more. You've got to move on one way or another. Good luck.
2006-08-25 12:46:59 · answer #2 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of me thinks that you should come clean because honesty is best and the relationship has only gone on for 4 months. Come on, you can't possibly love her or know that she's the one. 4 months is NOTHING.
The other part of me thinks that it's no big deal and it won't hurt her if she never knows. Ultimately, I don't think you should ever tell her. Why cause unnecessary drama?
2006-08-25 11:58:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid just tell her am sure she'll understand if that was in the past and anyway there's nothing bad about what you've done well at least you didn't sleep with girl.so be honest and tell her that you kept quiet because you didn't want to hurt her feelings and you were afraid of loosing her.am sure she'll understand.good luck
2006-08-25 11:59:51 · answer #4 · answered by celine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was before you even met her, so I wouldn't tell her. Just be faithful and don't let anything like that happen with anyone else while you are dating her. Just let it go.
2006-08-25 12:31:08 · answer #5 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already lied to her it probably will hurt her feelings. To get it off your chest all you can do is be honest with her.
2006-08-25 12:00:41 · answer #6 · answered by oceanjen2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what she don't know doesn't hurt her you haven't done anything bad its not like you cheated on her...just forget about it and move on it was only a hand job wow.....
2006-08-25 12:02:38 · answer #7 · answered by davo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋