are these parents cruel?

Question

parents who get disability benefits for their children then spend it all on there own lifestyles instead of the children.

Answer 1

Yes.... I grew up with a parent like that and then was called a tramp at school because I didnt have any nice clothes to wear.

Answer 2

If their own "lifestyles" make them not take adequate care of the children, then yes it is cruel.

For using the money to maintain a safe and happy home for their children, then no. Not all the money need be spent directly on the children- it's the all-around caring for that matters.

Answer 3

Yes they are, if its for the children then that's it. Should any parent spend it on themselves then its theft in my eyes. Now if one is awarded a big payout in compensation that's a different matter as they would have to buy a larger property etc, they main thing is that the child or children are taken care off.

Answer 4

No, disability benefit is given to children, not as pocket money to go to town and spend on rubbish or as a prize for being disabled, it is given to make their life better, and Any decent parent would take that money and use it for holidays, for better Christmas presents, for outings, for better food that the kid enjoys and all in all to try to make life better for the child, BUT also the family who DO suffer when a child is disabled, especially so if the child is autistic or out of control and the parents have a hard time, it is also not fair to the siblings( brothers and sisters) if the disabled child has fantastic things and clothes whiled they have rags, it has to be in perspective. 'why don't you ask the government what it is meant for.

Edit: added on later:#
If that is you sonny boy???? , What an arsehole you are!!!
All those lies, all those stories, exgarerated out of all proportion,, like the IT bit, We only called her that beacause you would not say if she was a male or female friend, so we called her It You know damn well it was not like that, like the Oldest sister bit, she and her spouse and my grandkids are best friends now, like the granny bit, we get on fine now!!! You have absolutley NO idea do you, so seeped in self pity it is sickning. poor poor you, thank goodness you are no longer part of our lives, we are now a HAPPY caring family who love each other and have FUN together, not like when you lived here and made life HELL for all concerned. Poor poor you, I do so pity you and your poor fat slag you live with, nothing better to do than stir up problems and dream up stories to make people feel sorry for you, well it doesn't work NOT HERE anyway have you ever told HER it's not just A D A D you suffer from but aspergers as well, hence the no feelings of guilt or love for others.???!!!

Answer 5

I think they are cruel if it's not benefitting the children involved.. But you still have to pay rent, put food on the table and buy clothes, shoes and pay bills. Are these kids taken well care of?

Answer 6

Get a life and grow up, can a disabled child with emotional problems know how to spend that amount of money, and you didn't specify how it was spent, was it on a better life for you or what else, was it for your broadband on your computer, to replace all the things you destroyed, to give you the expensive food you demanded???????

Answer 7

Yes, they are selfish and cruel. The money is sent to them to take care of their children. Not to go out and paint the town red. Shame on them.

Answer 8

yes and no. yes if the parents are buying uneccasry things for themselves that the children cant use to. no if the parents need that money badly for food or for rent or a house payment otherwise what are the children gonna live in or eat

Answer 9

They are disgusting.
I work with these types. I keep a can of Glade at my desk JUST for this reason.
I see women come in (perfectly capable of working), with $1800 in checks, their rent is FREE through HUD, they recieve food stamps AND they get free telephone service.
Their children ALWAYS smell, wear tattered ill fitting clothes and look like their hair has not been washed in weeks.
The mothers usually have JUST been to the Vietnamese nail salon, some drive newer model cars even.
I get pretty angry.
The 3 worst:
a little girl, first grade, who was sent to school wearing a pillow case fastened with a diaper pin for a skirt and an enormous Tweety Bird tee shirt (probably her mothers) for a top that showed her nipples at the neck, because it was so huge.
a little girl who ate crayons out of her desk because she was so hungry, when home visited, we found the mother had "soiled" the couch with her own excrement and not bothered to clean up
a little girl and boy whose mother "home schooled" them, all day they are delivering newspapers while mommy sits in her car screaming at them to run and hurry

Answer 10

Are they paying for a roof over the childrens heads, food, clothing and utilities. No I wouldn't say they were cruel.

Answer 11

Very often, parents don't make good parents. Sometimes it takes a village to raise a child. What have you done today, for the children?
...jj