Like he abuses her verbally and wouldn't let her sleep in the same bed with him just because she snores(which she doesn't) so she has to sleep on the floor with a mat, because the couch hurts her back. Ugh I just want him dead sometimes!
2006-08-25 04:45:17 · 15 answers · asked by hope_floats95 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
talk to you mom..tell her it's really bother you that he does this...she does not need to put up with that abuse....that's abuse to you too! for you to be around that! that's not cool..
hope y'all can leave that situation or get him help!
2006-08-25 04:52:18 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents bashed the hell out of each other when I was a child but I still loved them un conditionally. I really wish I had the internet back then or even someone to talk to on the phone, you have so! much available to you now. chances are there is an outlaying problem that you may not understand "between your parents" you will need to be political about what you do. Think carefully before you act as sometimes you can make matters worse without even knowing, seek a close relative or friend to confide in and take action from there. Good luck, Marty
2006-08-25 05:02:48 · answer #2 · answered by jigi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whaaaaaatttttttttttt??????????
Go tell your Dad right now that he is not being nice to your Mother and that it is not right she is sleeping on the floor! Do you think your Mother would do the same to your Father? Probably not.
As a wife and a Mother, I would not put up with this behavior. Sometimes it is best to finally put YOURSELF first and tell him to shape up or SHIP OUT. I don't know how old you are but it sounds as if you are older(maybe in your teens) and you are big enought to understand already that this behavior is not acceptable.
Try talking to your Father. Maybe hearing it from you will make him realize it is not only affecting your Mother but also you.
Good Luck!
2006-08-25 05:12:36 · answer #3 · answered by flea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father grew up with a man who treated his mom very badly.
There is little you can do -especially if she doesn't back you up.
She's choosing to stay with him!
You could ask her why - maybe she thinks you want to stay. You could tell her how much it hurts you to see this.
My father's sibling beat his father up a number of times - this did not stop the abuse.
I'm sorry for you and I hope you stay aware of your feelings so that when you get a partner, you don't end up recreating this situation, as the abuser or victim. That's a very typical situation, because you will have lots of anguish about feeling helpless to help your mom. (Which is why SHE is responsible for changing the situation.)
2006-08-25 05:17:28 · answer #4 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are not responsible for your mother. She is responsible for herself and she is responsible for you. You are the child and she is the parent. She makes her own choices and you are not responsible for those and should not feel guilty about the way your father treats your mother. That is strictly between them.
Second, try to realize that you are a valuable, worthwhile person and you never have to take this kind of treatment from your father or from any other man or any other person in your life. Your mother makes her own choices but this does not mean that you have to make the same choices.
You can feel compassion and love for her and be supportive of her when you can but you cannot change this situation - only she can. You need to take care of yourself and that's the main thing that you should focus on at this stage of your life.
2006-08-25 04:56:00 · answer #5 · answered by Marie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get help for you and your mom. Call local lines that help familes for free. It looks like you really have problems with your dad but that is no reason for you to wish for him to be dead. Want to know something my dad past away 11 years ago, and I truly miss him and sometimes I just wish i can have him back and tell him all the things I never told him before. Talk to him is the best thing you can do,.
2006-08-25 04:51:18 · answer #6 · answered by Paula 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hello there, i thinkur mom that you should talk to your mom and make her understand that she is to good for someone like that and that she deserves so much better..... this is wrong and you should know that this is not the way to treat a women, so do not take after your dad,,,, try and get some help for your mom , and that should make her feel better knowing that someone cares for her and that loves her no matter what someone that will not make her sleep on the floor.. i wish you the best of luck,,,,,
2006-08-25 05:11:02 · answer #7 · answered by sunshine girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Father, sounds like one really bad guy. You need to get external help for your mother, NOW ! The both need counselling as well. Is Dad out of work or what ? he sounds like he has some real pent up emotions he cannot deal with.
2006-08-25 05:20:27 · answer #8 · answered by Latin Techie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was me i would be confronting my dad straight up your mom dosent need to be treated that way she deserves better than that.If you are old enough and have your own place maybe you should get mom outta there and have her stay with you.He is verbally abusive it will soon turn to physical abuse i know from my own experience.If you are too young to do anything and you guys are scared of him maybe you need to speak to another family member maybe they can help and there are hotlines you can get in touch with.Or there is help from the state that can set you up in low income housing and help with bills and food and such things.Good luck to you and mom.
2006-08-25 05:00:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry she and YOU are being mistreated. Tell him you think they need to see a counselor. If it safe to talk to him. do you want her to leave him then encourage her, she may be only staying for her children. Ask her to sleep with you. There may be nothing you can do, but if he hit her I would call the police.
2006-08-25 04:56:23 · answer #10 · answered by livlafluv 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have a home of your own offer her a place to come to, Or buy her a twin bed and help her fix up a nice room if she won't leave.
2006-08-25 04:52:55 · answer #11 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋