My brother died a few days ago. I'm afraid to grieve him because that's just going to make me feel worse.
2006-08-25 04:38:47 · 25 answers · asked by Sali 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm very sorry for your loss. That must hurt.
You are already grieving, just in your own way. Don't stress about grieving, just deal with life as you need to deal.
Everyone deals with loss and grieving differently. It's perfectly okay to be afraid to grieve. It makes sense that you don't want to feel worse. I'm going to warn you that to be healthy and get through the process, at some point you may feel horrible about your loss, and that's okay, too!
Just keep an eye on yourself and talk to someone if you think you're showing the signs of depression (and listen if someone else asks you if you're suffering from depression). Stay healthy and safe.
My thoughts are with you.
2006-08-25 04:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by tydlywnks 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone deals with grieveing in their own way. Yes it most likely will make you feel worse but if you don't grieve now and bottle it up inside later on in your life it will still end up coming out and it will probably make you feel worse then now. Sometimes not grieveing can also make you feel guilty about it. It will be very hard to grieve because it was your brother and you loved him very much but though grieveing makes you feell terrible at the time it can also help to set you free from that feeling as time passes.
2006-08-25 04:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by ѕомєопєѕ▪ ваву ♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You NEED to grieve. It's nature's way of letting go. You should grieve with your friends and family. Talk about the good times you had with your brother. Remember him for who he was and never stop believing in him. He is still with you, whether or not he is alive. Trust me it'll get better, it's only been a couple of days. My Aunt's husband died years ago and it took a while to get over it. Trust in God to help you through this. I'll be praying for you and your family.
2006-08-25 04:42:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Death is a difficult thing to endure. Do not try and resist your natural emotions and feelings. You will handle things the best way you can. It may help to continue talking to people about it and how you are dealing with your devastating pain. There are no words anyone could ever say that could make this any easier for you. Try your best to stay strong, surround yourself with family & friends and do your best to remember your brother for all the good things. Celebrate his life and the man he was. I recently had a close friend die and am still trying to come to terms that he is now gone forever. You will go through a wide range of different emotions and some will come all at the same time. Think of the good times and those special memories you will have forever. My heart goes out to you. Things will become easier to cope with in time, you will never forget and your life will be altered forever but you will start to see him in every good positive thing that happens to you from now on. All the best to you and your family.
2006-08-25 05:08:19 · answer #4 · answered by M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should not be afraid to grieve, but do it in your own way. some times remembering what your brother meant to you and the way he made you feel is not enough. instead go out there and do some thing where you can feel happy, some thing that would make you think you know if he was here he would love this.
but remember what ever you do, do it for yourself no matter how weired or stupid, or well anything it is, but you will never know how it will make you feel until you do it.
2006-08-25 04:44:35 · answer #5 · answered by markmcarthy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will miss him, and you will cry often at first. It's natural. If you don't grieve, you won't be able to enjoy the memories of the happy times you had together. It takes time... take as long as you need, and talk to someone. My mom died four years ago, I know what you are going through.
2006-08-25 04:48:39 · answer #6 · answered by MamaSunshine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You HAVE to grieve, unfortunatly. It is the natural progression into not hurting anymore. There is nothing abnormal about grief, everyone feels it.
If you feel bad already, whether you know it or not, you are already starting into the progression. I am sorry for you loss, but you have to do this for you.
You will find, once you have made it through the steps of grief, you will feel at peace. Peace only comes if you allow yourself to hurt some.
I hope you feel better about things soon... if you need someone to talk to, Pm me.
2006-08-25 04:47:51 · answer #7 · answered by Cutelilminxy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing and they say it will get better. Well guess what it hasn't I miss my brother very much and would trade places with him anytime but I cant. I lost my mother, father and brother in a matter of 15 months and they say the lord wont put any more than you can handle but it sure is hard. I'm sure I will be ok until it is my turn. Just try thinking of something else that is good in life.
2006-08-25 04:45:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have my deepest sympathy but it is not healthy to not grieve for a loved one...you need this in order to move on...by not grieving is like not letting go and accepting that he is no longer here on earth....but just think he is in a better place with God.
2006-08-25 04:45:35 · answer #9 · answered by leoan_rasan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to grieve. It's an important part of the healing process. Right now you are in denial, that's not too healthy, let go, feel the pain and begin to heal.
2006-08-25 04:44:33 · answer #10 · answered by Doreen A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋